Why do I feel so useless?
I'm having such a hard time figuring out what to do with my life. I feel like I don't belong here. My life is worthless. I'm 19, turning 20 in two months and I've never had a job. I've had only two girlfriends and they both admitted that they only dated me because they didn't want to say no to spare my feelings, it wasn't until after I turned 18 that I first started driving. I've never done anything with my life, my life's only worth is what others have invested into it. And I have yet to fill the expectations of a normal person. All I do is sit around playing video games and rotting away... I want to be a game designer but i lack the motivation to even do that. I have a creative mind, or at least what I think is creative, but I still feel like i have nothing for me. I also want to join the military, maybe it might help build me some character and turn me into a normal person. I just feel like I have no reason to be here, like I have nothing to contribute to the world, to my community, to my family, or even myself. For the longest time all I want is to die giving my life in the place of another. Then i know my existence was worth it after all. Otherwise, these past 20 years and some 10-20+ thousand dollars that was invested into my growth was all a waste. I am the son that failed to ever make his parents proud, or his teachers, or anyone. I just want to give back everything that was given to me and disappear. I don't belong here. I don't know what to do. I'm not suicidal because that would waste everything... but i just don't know how to give everything back. That's all i want is to give it all back, then I can die in peace. I just don't know what I can do with my life.
How do I stop feeling useless at work?
First of all answer this - Do you always/most of the times feel so? Or you feel it only sometimes…And how long has this feeling persisted? While talking to my clients, I have realized that many have the same feeling at times but for many this is quite temporary.Feeling of being useless could arise due to -Not able to perform task as desired by your employer or boss - It could be a result of your performance, company/departments’ performance as compared to the othersYou are able to perform but you are lacking the drive to sustain same work for longGeneral guilt/negative feeling within - this might reflect in all other work that you take up.First step is to stop thinking that you are worthless. And don’t think on this topic at all, as over thinking adds to agony, negativity and makes the mental impression deeper.But what we need to do is to find out opportunities and areas of work in your assignment/role that you feel energetic/passionate about (I am also assuming that this feeling is not being created by someone around and is most likely your understanding of situation).Solution would cover 2 aspectsDrive to grow and perform - Drive to do any work in a function of how good you feel inside and how much are you passionate about the work. You can improve by aligning your passion with the work; if can’t be done immediately try finding out time for things that you like, love doing. This would give you sufficient energy to do the tasks that you don’t want to do. But in long run you have to move towards your passion. If you are not able to get that time out for yourself try going out in nature, mountains, rivers etc. Nature will provide you a lot of positive energy.Ability to do it - Ability could be improved by practice, understanding the task and again your passion to develop the ability. Do some courses that you feel could help you, talk to an expert in the field and device your own growth path.But if you combine it with meditation practices, Yoga and some sports it would start doing wonders and you would start seeing the results very soon.
I feel dumb and useless?
I feel dumb and I always question my intellectual ability. Im doing SAT in a week and my score cant seem to improve. I sometimes say ridiculously stupid things. Its hard for me to focus and to learn new things. I dont really think Im stupid, I just think that I am not using my brain as much as I can. I don't know what to do. I didn't feel like this a year ago, it started this year and it has affected my life and self esteem dramatically. What should I do?
Just feel a bit useless.. because I'm shy?
I'm 16 and female, and I was on holidays recently with my friend, and we both liked the look of this lad, but he ended up wanting her. It's always like that. I'm always second best. Idk, I spend a lot of time blogging on the internet, where nobody cares, it just feels like nobody ever cares about me, I'm rowing all the time with my parents, I don't feel like a good friend, I just "*****" about them, I can't even help myself from doing it, it's automatic at this stage. I'm smart, but I don't enjoy school to the full, because every time we have to read (which is nearly every day), I panic, and anxiety takes over and I'm physically not able to read, I can manage half a page and then my voice shakes and it sounds as though I'm crying. I dread school because of this, and my final two years are coming up, which have a huge impact on the rest of my life. I can't afford to feel nervous and sh1t all the time. I don't know what to do about it. I've never been in a relationship and I don't even know how to talk to males. Well, I do, I have a few male friends, but I don't like any of them, like that, you know. And when I do like them, I don't know what to say. Idk where I'm even going with this but life just seems a bit sh1t and out of my control all the time. I have to stop feeling like this?
I've been feeling useless lately..?
SORRY FOR THE LONG TEXT :/ So this year I started high school, and my grades have already gone down quite a bit. I hardly knew anyone in my class and this girl that I've had issues with for 2 years is in it. I started getting to know the people but I feel like most of them see me as completely unimportant. I don't know if it's true or not but that's how I feel. Most the guys in my class don't even make the effort to talk to me or even look at me. I'm not as pretty as other girls, and I have braces, although I really don't care about that, I'm fine with them but it seems like others aren't. I barely see my friends from last year anymore and they've changed a lot. I started admining a Harry Potter page on facebook as well but I feel like I'm failing at that too.. I'm always laughing at school though and around people but that's because it's in my nature. They don't notice anymore that I'm really feeling depressed these days. Except for my family, I don't bother to try to hide it and they only get pissed at me that I'm always in a good mood with my friends and brooding when I'm with my family. I know it's dumb, and people have issues that are so much more serious but I just feel like crying all the time lately and I thought I might get an opinion..? Thank you so much for your time :/
Does anyone feel that high school is useless?
I'm a senior in high school and I've always had good grades high 90's and I never studied because I just thought it's pointless since I'm just a fast learner. Everything that i learned from freshmen year to senior year I just think is so useless in life because a lot of the stuff us either common sense or just something I'm going to use later on in life. I feel like they should teach us about opening bank accounts, doing taxes, etc stuff that I need to learn in life. How do you feel?
I feel so useless compared to my friends, help? :(?
Okay so im in this college (considered the best in my country) and we have like 200 plus students this intake. Most of them are under diff kind of scholarships, im a private student.I feel so useless because well, I AM! everybody here us good in either academics, co curriculum, looks or family background (Eg there is this guy who represented our country to debate in cape town and this other girl who is the national swimmer) these two are not the only one, almost everyone in my batch has amazing achievement like these Im just nothing. Seriously now im regretting for not participating anything during high school. I am totally nothing. What can I do? Im so shy and pathetic how I wish im a lil bit like them :(,