What do you do when you have completely ruined your life?
Using this horrible analogy, your life is a bowl, the universe (wathcamacallit) fills the bowl with experiences.When you view your life as ruined, the bowl had fallen and is now broken in pieces.What do you do?Pick up the pieces and mend them with gold. There is actually such thing in the world, it's called Kintsugi.So how do you apply this? Ask yourself this question, "What is golden to me? What is the most exciting thing I would like to do right this moment?" And you go do that.Once you've mend your life, this bowl of yours will be UNIQUE, there will not be any other bowl - broken or not - that has the pattern like yours.This is why kintsugi is so beautiful: They are all the same, and yet they are all different. Sounds like us human yet? :)More on ruined life, go read up on Stephen Hawking, and how motor neuron disease slowly "traps" him in his body.In Kintsugi's terms, his bowl is almost made fully out of gold now.He can't even talk! Yet... look at how bright (or golden) he is.May you find inspiration from him.All is not lost so long your heart still beats.Be a kintsugi, my friend.
My spoiled girlfriend?
my girlfriend is naturally spoiled and so the problem is that she wants me to give her all my attention and not have a life besides her. if we're in an argument she always has to win or else she'll hang up the phone and i have to call her to say sorry while she just nags away. Also, she doesn't know how to cook and I do that and clean the house most of the time. my friends tell me to dump her but i really love her. What should I do?
I've been spoiled my whole life. help?
i come from a middle class family, and all throughout my life i was given mostly everything i wanted. i'm 20 now, i drive a brand new car which my parents pay for. i go to school, but i get average grades (always did) i've had 4 or 5 jobs because i am lazy currently unemployed i struggle terribly with social situations, i feel as though i am misunderstood a lot. i don't feel like i can relate with others because i'm spoiled. i've lost a lot of childhood friends mostly because of what i think is bitterness and jealousy of what i have been blessed with. most new people i meet have worked for their stuff and know the value of a dollar. i always sense bitterness with new people. i'm actually really friendly if you talk to me and stuff. but if you see me in public or something i seem really quiet and socially awkward. how can i get out of this. i've ever started to get really paranoid. i have no one to talk to about this really, so i think my nervousness transforms into paranoia because i thought everyone on facebook was talking about me in code or something.
Why is it my whole life I have been abused maliciously by people closest to me and I still cannot feel genuine anger toward them?
Your empathy and understanding of why they are the way they are, affords you a vast depth of compassion. Aspects of co-dependancy explain why you continue to attract, accept, and stick around for it. It's hard to be angry at someone when you understand them. It's hard to implement and enforce boundaries or just walk away from them, when you do not understand yourself.“What you allow is what will contunue.”I hope this helps.
How can choosing a wrong life partner ruin your whole life?
Have you ever been a part of a group where all members are lethargic and lazy? Nobody wants to work and everyone wants good results!? What do you do? You work your ass off. You succeed but then you hate it because the credit is shared among all group members equally.Have you ever stayed with a roommate who gives you negative vibes and toxic thoughts? How hard it is to breathe in the same room with someone you do not relate to. You do not want to live with them but you've no choice.That's how choosing a wrong life partner feels like.Marriage is a group activity (with two group members), and you also get that group member as your roommate for life. If you have some goals and accomplishments to achieve in life, you must choose that roommate and that group member very carefully. A negative group member can affect the result of your life really badly. You may choose to work as hard as you want for both of you, but one day you'll surely stop at a point and ask yourself - What the fuck am I doing with my life?When you ask this question, you question your relationship, your marriage and yourself.You cannot just choose anyone random, because here you won't get another chance quickly. You'll have to go through the social pressure to get a divorce and after that the chances of getting someone with whom your thoughts resonate become even thinner.
My mom still calls me a spoiled brat at almost 27?
I'm 26 and almost turning 27 years old next month, and I have high-functioning Autism. I have so many problems in my life. A lot of things I hate the most about my whole life is usually a bunch of things that would often cause me to have bad behavior, as being a part of my mental illness, depression, anger management, anxiety, everything has to do with my disability. And one of the things I've ever known whenever I hated at sometimes when my mom always calls me a "spoiled brat" at my very own age because she knows I want to have everything my way, by my own demands and I cry, scream, and act out every time whenever she says no to some things I always wanted so bad throughout my life. And as a result, she'll often treat me like a baby, child, and teenager instead of treating me like an adult because of the way I act and everything. My mom would never stop spoiling me with whatever I want so bad and she has been doing this to me at all ever since it all started when I was a young child around 3 to 5 years of age or older, and she had always been calling me a "spoiled brat" at my adult age of 26 going on 27, always without cease for to unspoiled me for the rest of my life. And she even tells me that I'm never too old to be a spoiled brat, but I'm really too old to be spoiled at my own age for when it comes to me and my wants, needs, demands, and everything else my own way until I get them. Now can someone tell me on how to unspoil myself by is to get the spoiling out of me without my mom ever to spoil me again and so I can be unspoiled for the rest of my life before I turn 27 next month? Does anyone have some advice on how to be unspoiled forever without me being spoiled ever again? Any suggestions? Please explain your answers. Thanks, and let me live long with no more spoiling for once and for all! No more "spoiled brat" in me forever in the rest of my life! Answers now, anyone? Please help!
Who in your entire life you've felt like they actually loved you?
There are only three who love me unconditionally,my god,my daughter & my soulmate.
Why do i feel like I don't need anyone?
If people have betrayed you/failed you/never cared deeply for you, then you're NOT wrong whatsoever to feel the way you do. It's okay to me if you're angry at people who were screwed up to you or people in general. For me, I've never really been close to anybody my whole life. I'm already 30 years old although you might think I'm in my middle 20's if you saw me/met me. "Friends" have come and gone in my life. I've had girlfriends (only 2) but they were toxic to me. I've also dealt with girls/women that were immature to me by giving me mixed signals, leading me on and ignoring me when I thought they "liked" me. I've also dealt with stuck-up random women that thought I was checking them out when I wasn't and it's something I still with at times in public. I'm not antisocial though nor do I feel angry at anyone. The only person I'm close to is my 1 year old niece who I help babysit every week on my days off from work. Aside from my niece, I'm not close to anyone else really in my family. Despite helping taking care of my niece and spoiling my niece with toys, books and candy, I'm not close whatsoever to my niece's mother (my sister). I'm not even close to my other sister-both of them are older than me. I don't have a brother just those sisters of mine and my sisters have ALWAYS treated my cousins and their friends better than me. I'm not really angry at not being close to my family or having friends. I just deal with being a loner. I don't think everybody in their lives needs a close relationship or relationship with people to get through life. I've gone 7 years for example of being single. It wasn't my wish to be single for that long but I just deal with it. To me, a person is tough for going through life alone and doesn't want or need a favor from anyone or does something crazy to get others attention. I hope that I've helped answer your question and take care of yourself. I mean it. ~ Alan