I love my best friend, but she doesn't feel the same way what should i do please help?
So i am madly in love with my best friend. I think she is the best person i have ever met and I love absolutely everything about her. I lover her personality, sense of humor, style, taste in music and movies, I love how she is artsy and quirky and i love how she is beautiful inside and out and I especially love her flaws. Before I met her i kept people at an arm's length and i put wall around my heart to keep people a safe distance away because i have lost too many people and i don't want it to happen again. But when I'm with her those walls crumble and i feel that i want to let her in. It's like i feel completely safe when i am with her and she completes me. I don't think i have ever had more fun just sitting around doing nothing with anyone like i do with her. So one day I've had enough of leaving things unsaid and i just spilled my guts to her as i did with you. I included it all. And she said she just saw me as a friend. I was crushed. because i have never felt that way about another human being. In fact before i met her I felt disconnected from people and numb. And i feel bad because she is stuck on this one kid who doesn't treat her well, there is some weird love triangle thing going on and it hurts me to see her go through this. Because she says she is done with him, but she always ends up going back. She told me because she guesses she would rather have some that doesn't treat her right than to be alone. At that point I kind of wanted to say "you don't need to be alone if you would just give me a chance I would treat you like the special person you are." ugh i just don't know what to do. I mean I value our friendship, but when I'm with her i feel this weird combination of pure bliss and complete misery at the same time. I just want to take her in my arms and tell her to forget him and that I love her more than life it's self and I would never do anything to hurt her like this. It's almost getting too much and I wonder if I should just stop hanging out with her just until I can get over her a bit.
What should I do if I feel like my best friend doesn't want me around anymore?
Move on and concentrate on other important aspects of your life . Real friends would not avoid you over little disagreements , only fake ones do that. But there are certain scenarios mentioned below which could be the reason/s for the differences between you and your friend:If you really have done something very bad to him like betraying him over money ,relationship etc then you really need to say sorry to him and try your best to correct your mistakes.He could even avoid you because you did not help or stand with him when he needed you the most. You need to contemplate on that. Many times we are so self absorbed in certain things that we fail to realize that our friends and family need us at certain point in their lives. In this case you need to talk to him and admit that you were too self absorbed when they needed your help.Or it could be just because he is upset and not happy with his personal life and probably depressed. It is your responsibility to find out if he is going through any such situation or trauma. Being his friend you could directly ask him whether he is facing any trouble in his life . All these conversations should be done in private.If your friend is avoiding you without any reason then it is certainly because:They befriended you just because you were somehow advantageous them . You had something they needed and the moment they got it they had no reason or inspiration to stick with you.They are egotistical. This is the biggest reason why many friendships break these days . People value their ego more than friendship and relationship . It should not be confused with self respect. If you disagree with an egotistical person over politics , sports etc or if you just have a moment of light insults and disagreements with them(which happens alot between 2 best friends ) then it highly likely that they would lose interest in you. They could even avoid you out of jealousy if you climb up the ladder in your career and life.I hope the points mentioned above would help you in finding a solution to your problem. Be positive and hopeful .
I feel like my best friend doesn't need me anymore?
I have (or had, i don't know anymore) this really good friend and I considered her my best friend and she considered me on and we were so close. she knows everything about me and we told eachother everything. however, now, she has this big groupchat with like 11 other girls and they all got really close with it. my other best friend is in that chat but she still talks to me every single day and I don't feel this way towards her. anyway, I just feel like she doesn't need me anymore. why I went to talk to her at out high school orientation, she talked to me then looked around and was like "I lost my girls" and walked away and found them. then when we were in the auditorium she passed by me but sat with those other group of girls. I'm happy she made so many new friends, but I just feel like she doesn't really consider me a best friend anymore since she doesn't really tell me anything and I'm usually starting the conversations. I just don't know what to do. I asked one of my other friends (not the one who's in the groupchat with her) and she said to talk to her. but I don't want to yet cause idk if I'm overreacting or overthinking it but I'm pretty hurt by the whole thing. I don't wanna lose her. please help!!
Feel like my best friend doesn't appreciate me :(?
Hey, everyone, having a bit of a hard time right now :( As the title says, lately I've been feeling like my beset friend doesn't appreciate me much, and kind of takes me for granted. First I want to say, please don't say "try to find a new best friend." I know it can be good advice, but I don't feel like the situation is that bad, and I'm confident that I'll be able to tell when it is. So here's what's going on: We've been best friends for two years, and I think things are getting lopsided. Examples: I always do favors for her, and she never offers to do any back. And rarely if I ask for one, she kind of complains (kind of joking, we're 14.) I do SO MUCH for her, so much that I can't even start to list all of it, and it seems like she doesn't even notice. I often tell her how much I appreciate her and how much her friendship means to me, and she usually just says "haha thanks." I mean she's never said anything like that back :/ I feel like she never takes me seriously. I do make a lot of jokes, but sometimes I am serious and I think I make it pretty obvious when I am. So often when I say something serious like "Please don't do that again, I'm serious." She laughs and does it. Then I can't help it and get a little upset, I say "I said not to do that, I was serious!" She gets defensive and annoyed and tells me to "relax." Whenever I confront her about something, like saying stuff about something she does that bothers me (politely, of course) she gets REALLY defensive and upset... It's like there's no way to talk to her about any of this, hence why I'm here... So basically I'm just looking for any advice at all on helping me out here. Thanks everyone!
My best friend doesn't seem to care about what I have to say?
Everything I say to her she replies with Ok, K, or kk. Like she doesn't care about anything I have to say. I find it very rude and extremely annoying. Should I bring it up to her? Or ignore her until she wants a serious conversation?
My best friend doesn't feel like a best friend anymore?
I had this un-canny feeling about my bestfriend, the girl that been through dramatic things and cried with me and just a lot of things, that for the past few months we aren't best friends anymore but more like acquaintances. First un-canny feeling i had from her. - Coming back from summer break i lost about 10 pounds in a month. I was fighting depression after breakup with my ex-bf. I came back to school and see her super shocked at how thin i looked. She constantly called me gorgeous and my figure was amazing. After a month since school started she started telling me stories of her binge eating and how she is so depressed about how ugly she looks. She asks me for advices on how to lose weight, i gave her some tips like eating less but frequent and drinking more water, more vegis, you know, the healthy stuff. Another month later she talks about how she count calories and measure everything she eats by cups .. Second un-canny feeling. -We don't hang out or even eat lunch together now. She always say she has to go to the computer lab to finish a report for AP English and such. Found out she lied to me multiple times without her knowing that she left to go hang out with others in the library or another teacher's classroom. That broke my heart. She avoids eating lunch now and sometimes tell me she ate too much in the morning. Third un-canny feeling. -We can't click like how we used to , we joined weight training for p.e credits and she stays SUPER silent and sad.
I have feelings for my best friend but she doesn't feel the same towards me. How can I control my feelings for her while being friends with her?
If you can't control your feelings, don't try to. Hold her hand and she see if she minds, increase your physical touches progressively. If she objects, don't be defensive, accept that you like touching her and will absolutely stop if she wants to. Don't be a tad apologetic about it, you are just manifesting your intent physically. If she asks you to stop. STOP. No further discussion. Be respectful and graceful about it and let it be.In both the possible scenarios of this approach, this situation will move towards its logical conclusion. If she minds your touch and takes the pain to stop you, things will get weird between you and it will become easier for you to move away from her. Nevertheless, you will never be accused of not being the man to take the lead.If she doesn't mind, test the limits till she does. If she doesn't stop, her talk is BS and by that time you will also be able to understand your own feelings for her better.It may sound bold at first but have faith and try it. Doing the same thing and expecting different result is called madness.If you have better control over your feelings, don't do any of the above and just move on. Stop being friends with her. The moment you expressed your feelings you took the risk of loosing her as a friend. You have lost her already, things will never be the same again how much ever you want them to be. Do not and I mean DO NOT secretly hope of her changing her mind. Even if she does, you can't be sure of her decision. Meanwhile, you would have wasted a lot of time and efforts.The love that is meant to last, never require efforts. It just does.
My best friend doesn't ever hug me?
lol im da same way. im just not a hugger! like, i love all my friends, but i dont ever rele hug them, and when i do its brief and usually a side hug. maybe she is just the kind of person who has a personal bubble and just isnt comfortable with that. or maybe ask her.?? or try and hug her and see what she duz. maybe shes just worried that you will push her away? for all u know, shes asking the same question!! she could just be nervous!
My best friend doesn't like my other friends?
Okay so or the most part me and my best friends have the same group of friends but I'm also friends with another group of people that my best friend hates! She thinks their annoying and weird and truthfully I think because they're not your typical girly girl is a big part of it. Anyways my best friend is extremely critical of others and whenever we hang out she talks about the "weirdos" and it kinda hurts me cuz I'm close with some of the others. I never talk bad about the people she hangs out with that I don't like...and it kinda just hurts me because she wants everyone to dress act and be like her..what do I do?