I fell in love with my friend, but she doesn't feel the same way. She wants me in her life but being there as just her friend hurts too much. I’ve tried distancing myself, but we both miss each other. What can I do?
Hi.I can tell you what to do because I'm in exactly the same condition.LITERALLY.So what I did.I took a day and explained my complete mental state to her and told her that I need her more than a relationship.I explained to her what she means to me.I told her that my feelings are on one hand and they can never come between me and her because she was scared to lose me as a friend.I try to distant myself, it hurts even more.I have learned to live with it now, you know why?Because, if I am honest with her about my feelings and If I am strong enough to stay focused in my own life even after being in love with her and still not being WITH her, only then she'll see me as someone worthy enough.Maybe she never accepts you as anything more as a friend, but you won't regret not trying.Just tell her once and if she tells you NO, back off.. stay normal and be a good and supportive gentleman.I joined the gym now, I train myself hard there and leave it all there.. Life goes on right?I'm waiting for her even now and a lot more.Hope for the best.
I feel like my best friend doesn't need me anymore?
I have (or had, i don't know anymore) this really good friend and I considered her my best friend and she considered me on and we were so close. she knows everything about me and we told eachother everything. however, now, she has this big groupchat with like 11 other girls and they all got really close with it. my other best friend is in that chat but she still talks to me every single day and I don't feel this way towards her. anyway, I just feel like she doesn't need me anymore. why I went to talk to her at out high school orientation, she talked to me then looked around and was like "I lost my girls" and walked away and found them. then when we were in the auditorium she passed by me but sat with those other group of girls. I'm happy she made so many new friends, but I just feel like she doesn't really consider me a best friend anymore since she doesn't really tell me anything and I'm usually starting the conversations. I just don't know what to do. I asked one of my other friends (not the one who's in the groupchat with her) and she said to talk to her. but I don't want to yet cause idk if I'm overreacting or overthinking it but I'm pretty hurt by the whole thing. I don't wanna lose her. please help!!
What should I do if I feel like my best friend doesn't want me around anymore?
Move on and concentrate on other important aspects of your life . Real friends would not avoid you over little disagreements , only fake ones do that. But there are certain scenarios mentioned below which could be the reason/s for the differences between you and your friend:If you really have done something very bad to him like betraying him over money ,relationship etc then you really need to say sorry to him and try your best to correct your mistakes.He could even avoid you because you did not help or stand with him when he needed you the most. You need to contemplate on that. Many times we are so self absorbed in certain things that we fail to realize that our friends and family need us at certain point in their lives. In this case you need to talk to him and admit that you were too self absorbed when they needed your help.Or it could be just because he is upset and not happy with his personal life and probably depressed. It is your responsibility to find out if he is going through any such situation or trauma. Being his friend you could directly ask him whether he is facing any trouble in his life . All these conversations should be done in private.If your friend is avoiding you without any reason then it is certainly because:They befriended you just because you were somehow advantageous them . You had something they needed and the moment they got it they had no reason or inspiration to stick with you.They are egotistical. This is the biggest reason why many friendships break these days . People value their ego more than friendship and relationship . It should not be confused with self respect. If you disagree with an egotistical person over politics , sports etc or if you just have a moment of light insults and disagreements with them(which happens alot between 2 best friends ) then it highly likely that they would lose interest in you. They could even avoid you out of jealousy if you climb up the ladder in your career and life.I hope the points mentioned above would help you in finding a solution to your problem. Be positive and hopeful .
My friend doesn't listen to me?
She's a good friend but it seems like every time i have a problem she ignores it and just talks about her problems. Once she was talking about her ex-boyfriend and i had a similar problem with my ex-boyfriend too so i started talking to her about it and she's like "Huh who's that" I had already mentioned who he was before and it made me angry that she didn't pay attention to me when i had said it It's really irritating and im quite sure she knows what she's doing it's almost like she purposely doesn't give **** Any advice on what i can tell her?
My friends doesn't feel herself anymore?
My friend had sex. I know it's common fr teens to have sex, but it's not like her. She's LDS also and has values. She wasn't raped, but I know there was some type of force. She says she doesn't know how to feel about it. She's not sad but she's not happy either. She's been taking depressions pills for a while as well. She just had sex about a week and a half ago. I wonder if she's acting out or something. She thinks it's her fault and that she's a horrible person. I keep telling her of course she's not. But I don't know how she'll recover. Help?
Feel like my best friend doesn't appreciate me :(?
Hey, everyone, having a bit of a hard time right now :( As the title says, lately I've been feeling like my beset friend doesn't appreciate me much, and kind of takes me for granted. First I want to say, please don't say "try to find a new best friend." I know it can be good advice, but I don't feel like the situation is that bad, and I'm confident that I'll be able to tell when it is. So here's what's going on: We've been best friends for two years, and I think things are getting lopsided. Examples: I always do favors for her, and she never offers to do any back. And rarely if I ask for one, she kind of complains (kind of joking, we're 14.) I do SO MUCH for her, so much that I can't even start to list all of it, and it seems like she doesn't even notice. I often tell her how much I appreciate her and how much her friendship means to me, and she usually just says "haha thanks." I mean she's never said anything like that back :/ I feel like she never takes me seriously. I do make a lot of jokes, but sometimes I am serious and I think I make it pretty obvious when I am. So often when I say something serious like "Please don't do that again, I'm serious." She laughs and does it. Then I can't help it and get a little upset, I say "I said not to do that, I was serious!" She gets defensive and annoyed and tells me to "relax." Whenever I confront her about something, like saying stuff about something she does that bothers me (politely, of course) she gets REALLY defensive and upset... It's like there's no way to talk to her about any of this, hence why I'm here... So basically I'm just looking for any advice at all on helping me out here. Thanks everyone!
My friend's mom REALLY doesn't like me?
Stay away from people like that. Shes an adult but acting like a kid. Anyone who continually brings you down, you have to cut out of your life.
I feel like my friends don't care about me? Why?
You feel like your friends do not care about you because you are a caring person. If you did nit care about your friends, you would not care. I don't know how old you are, but your age determines how much you care about how people care about you. We are all born with different personalities. Some people do well with only a handful of people and are comfortable strengthening those relationships, sometimes for a lifetime. Some friends you make are more outgoing, are happy mixing with dozen people at a time and immediately forget them when they walk,away. Those are the friends you should not worry about, they are bored by being in the company of people for too long. They care, but only for the time they are with you. If you find d a friend who will stick with you, great for you. However if you only mix with the flighty ones, find other things to focus on when these friends get busy. Understand that they find their fulfilment in being more diverse, you care about everyone, but you might like to keep it low and consistent.
What should I do when I feel that my best friend doesn't understand me but I understand her and she says that I am her best friend?
You don’t have to do much.You just reply back, “Yeah we’re friends, but we’re different.” Tell your best friend about the things that you want her to understand; release all the bottled up feelings inside of you. If she understands you, she will feel sympathy and empathy for you. If she is quick to change the subject, then cut the conversation and tell her that you’ll see her tomorrow.Afterwards, you move on and find new friends. She can still be your friend, but not your best friend. You can still hang out with her but you don’t have to tell her things that are personal to you and very complicated. You can control what you say to your friend. You can talk to her about news, drama, etc. but not things that have to do with you personally because she doesn’t understand you.Goodluck and I wish the best for you.