Feeling worthless, depressed, lonely?
I have a bad habit of comparing myself to others. When I look at my friends on Facebook, I feel worthless compared to them and like I haven't gotten anywhere in my life. Everyone I know is either married or in a serious relationship and already graduated and gotten their degree and a career. Everyone seems to be so happy, popular and have a lot of friends around them and go out every weekend. I am lonely because I used to have a lot of friends but they either moved away or we drifted apart, I pretty much feel like a loser. I don't get asked out or noticed by guys often, so I don't have a boyfriend either and I just feel very unattractive compared to my friends. I know people say not to compare yourself to other people and everyone has something good about them, but I feel there is nothing good about me. Nobody ever calls or e-mail me either, I feel invisible and unwanted and like nobody would care if I was gone. Seriously, I feel so worthless and ashamed of myself I wish I were never born. I just don't understand why I can't be normal like everyone else.
Lonely, depressed, ugly, no friends, no life...?
Honestly I usually don't give a sht about peoples problems, but your life seems touching. It's quite sad to hear you have given up on life so early. For the most part i understand you, but as far as withdrawing from everything because you dont have friends; I'm not giving you credit. You need to get back in your feet and do what you like or what your good at. If you start swimming again, you will definetly lose those extra pounds you claim to have. In the other hand, it is quite obvious that your weight will only go up if you keep your current diet. C'mon girl, live your life! Dont let this people around you get in the way towards your happiness. My life is about to take a drastic change. Im getting put away for 14 months in April and just wish i could do something to change what's coming, but It's out of my hands and I have to pay time. Even though It sucks, Im not looking at it as if my world had ended. it's only the price tag to one of my many mistakes which I pray will never make again. As long as my life is not ended, I will not lose hope, neither should you.
I am 28 years old. I feel very alone and lonely most of the time. What should I do to overcome this? I don’t have friends or close relatives and am home 24/7.
One major symptom of depression is that your world keeps getting smaller and smaller. At first you may not want to go out after work, then you don’t work. You stay close in your neighborhood and are not adventurous. Then you don’t leave your house after that you don’t leave your bedroom. Your world just keeps getting smaller. I don’t know if this is you without speaking to you, but from what little you wrote, “there is no point in it” makes me believe you are suffering from depression. You need to see a therapist and if they feel you are depressed you should see a psychiatrist for medications. If you are depressed and get that under control, the rest of your world should start falling in line. Once you are feeling better find a hobby or something you can do with people. Think of what you may be interested in. You could engage in birdwatching with a group, fly kites, cooking classes, take a college course or a million other things. You likely can’t imagine yourself doing anything like that at this moment but once you start feeling better, you will likely start using your imagination to think of something you like. to If you start interacting with people you meet while engaging in a hobby or a job, you will have a chance to make friends.
Is being lonely sad? I have no friends. Am I a bad person?
Did you know that in Korea,people are recording themselves while having dinner? And people are actually paying to watch these videos! Is this another sign of loneliness creeping up on all of us?Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experience a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation.Being lonely doesn't mean you are bad person but yes the feeling of loneliness is quite sad when you don't have anyone to talk with.If you have no friends, it feels like you will be lonely for life.Of course, that's not true.You can still make new friends, even you find yourself in a situation with no friend in sight. This happens when you move to a new city,break up with someone that was your only friend and lover,or make important changes in your lifestyle.If you want to overcome loneliness ask yourself what is the number one important thing in your life.If you have been feeling lonely, the answer might be I want friends, or boyfriend girlfriend more than I want anything else.But I want to tell you that you don't actually want that.What you really want is mental peace and happiness more than anything else,and you happen to think that a friend or a lover will give you that happiness.Do you know when you were a child,why were you happy?. Not because you got everything you wanted,but because you didn't have the thoughts that creates suffering.Just because the people around you don't like you,it doesn't mean you are not the right fit.You are fine as you are until a story tries to convince you in your imagination that you are not.Go spend a few hours on your own right now.
No Escape from Life and Feeling Stuck?
You have to stop feeling responsible for your mother. It sounds like your relationship is too close and she relies on you too much as do you on her emotionally. It's not a healthy way to raise a kid like that but it happens a lot with single moms and boys. What you need to do is understand that her life is hers and your life is yours and you can't sacrifice your life for her. She will be ok without you, don't worry. She is stronger than you think. You have to make your own choices and not let your mother's opinions govern your decisions. You have to sit down and rationalize your feelings of guilt. Every time you feel guilty you have to rationalize it and convince yourself that there is no need to feel guilty. You can say to yourself when the thoughts take over: "it's not your fault", "there's no need to feel guilty" etc. Otherwise, I think as you grow older and mature it will be easier for you to handle your mom. Right now you are having a hard time letting go of what she thinks of you.