I hate being an introvert! What do I do?
I hate it so much. No matter how much I try to communicate with people I can't keep up the conversation without thinking I'm boring them or me thinking that they are the ones that boring or I get 'drained' talking to someone or believing I must be doing something wrong and if it's normal. I can't connect with people without them giving me a pitying look either. I'm nice to people alot too. But,damn, I'm so lonely because I have no one to talk to beside myself. (It's gotten to the point where I refer to myself as 'us' and 'we' or 'ours' and joke all the time with myself as I'm another person...But i've been doing that for years) I hate being an introvert because all my life I've been hearing "Be outgoing! Talk to people,____. Oh, your so selfish....Get a life" from my Mother. I also hate being an introvert because I want to be a actress but I'm terrible at 'networking' so I don't think anyone would take me seriously and its frustrating to think about because I LOVE acting. LOVE IT. Its the one time I feel I could do anything and actually be proud of myself but then I berate myself into thinking how the hell would I even start with awful social skills? And I'm sad and angry all the time. I've been this way since 3rd grade (I'm in College now)The only real connection I have is through the internet. It literally is my best friend. And it's pathetic. How do I stop being an introvert?? I'm 18 female if that helps.
Why do I hate being an introvert?
If you’re like me, it’s probably because you’ve been judged negatively because of that trait. For instance, my father has made many damning remarks about ‘shyness’ and ‘quietness’, and clearly attributes it to any failures in life.I also had a grandmother who made unkind remarks about this kind of thing, not to mention seeing so many people succeed simply because they’re more naturally outgoing. Whenever I compare myself with someone outgoing, I feel inadequate and deeply depressed.I also have an older brother who is autistic so I associate introversion with that characteristic and have a deep fear of having such problems myself.I’ve known plenty of introverts who are happy with themselves and have happy lives, both professionally and romantically, so it’s clearly not the death knell some of my relatives make it out to be. I have never been able to accept myself, but I really hope you do. Remember being an introvert isn’t the same as being shy. It’s also on a continuum which means nobody is entirely an introvert or an extrovert. These terms have become way too overused in the past few years.I really like this article on the topic:Let's Quit It with the Introvert/Extrovert Nonsense
Help I'm an introvert?
Hi B Did you know that introverts are characterized by using energy in social situations while extroverts gain energy. I am an introvert and have been my whole life. Lots of famous and successful people are introverted, contrary to popular belief there is nothing wrong with being an introvert and being introverted doesn't mean that you have to lack confidence. Introverts will generally have small circles of close friends as opposed to large networks of transient friends. A good way to understand your personality is to look at your Myers/Briggs personality type. Just Google for Myers Briggs tests and you will find plenty of free ones. Understanding your personality is the first step to becoming self confident. I am an INFP by personality. Other INFP (Introverts) include John Kerry, Tolkien, JK Rowlings along with dozens of other authors, philosophers and business leaders. Your personality doesn't make you less than anyone else. Always remember that and do some reading on the Briggs/Myers types which are recognized throughout psychology.
Am I the only one who hates being an introvert?
You may not.Most introverts do not like being one at some point of time in their life.Same is the case with extroverts too.So please stop hating yourself for being one and try to come out of that misconception that you are different from others.Its just the society which divided people on the basis of nature into extroverts and introverts but end of the day, we are all same.If you hate being an introvert, you can always strive to come out of your comfort zone.This may be of some help for you.Pavani Gangula's answer to Is it possible for an introvert to turn into an extrovert, and how?
I hate myself for being introverted?
I've for the longest time tried to come to terms with my introversion. I want to love myself for who I am and have less anxiety and more confidence in my daily life. I feel that my introversion is a curse that prevents me from fully connecting and getting the most out of my life. Sure I'm more at peace when I'm in my comfort zone and with close friends, but I feel that life is much more fun outside of the comfort zone and I'm just far too introverted to experience it. I really feel like introversion is a handicap in every way. I see no benefit to being an introvert. As far as I can tell, extroverts are far more ambitious, socially successful, and generally happier than introverts like me. Introverts I feel like are people who are just really bad at being extroverted. How can I come to accept my introversion and be happy with it? Because I honestly hate being an introvert and would do most anything in the world to change it.
Do introverts hate themselves for being introverts?
Vivacious in own solitudeA good listenerless friends (but the best friends)self motivatedshyAlways prefer to be in comfort zonePerson acquiring these properties are termed as INTROVERTS. Being an Introvert has its own pros and cons, coming on to the question,YES!! sometimes I hate myself for being an Introvertwhen you really want to talk to a person and you don’t have guts, let’s assume you have guts but then you mess up the conversation and play dumb.when you don’t participate and end up clapping and then assuming yourself on that place but you know the reality(yes, that hurts)when you know the fact that no one gives a flying monkey about yourself still end up doing nothing just due to the fear of being judged.when you get ditched by your mates (not every time but, sometimes it hurts)Sometimes I get baffled and irritated when I can’t figure out who am I and what am I doing, sometimes it gets formidable and simultaneously I hate myself for being an Introvert.But it is rare, …….one thing you can surely relate is that, it is the most congenial feeling ever.Thank You.
My mother hates me for being introverted.?
I've always been an introvert since I was a kid and until now, I'm only ever wild and crazy with people I'm close with. My stupid mother, however, hates it. She wants me to be sociable and outgoing everywhere all the time! Hell, it's her fault, because she could have raised me to be an extrovert. BUT NO. SHE IS SO STUPID THAT SHE EXPECTS A CHILD TO LEARN TO BE EXTROVERTED ALL ON HER OWN. Not everyone has the luxury to always be confident! I don't. I'm a shy kid around strangers and new friends. That's what she doesn't understand! Many people who were INTROVERTS have become famous and rich and successful, so why the hell does it even matter? What the hell do I do with my stupid mother.
Why do people hate introverts?
Well, I thought a quite lot of time to answer this question, and to be honest, Even I dont know yet. But I can tell what can you do.First of all, what you think as "Hate" is actually "negligence" showed by others, that is extroverts towards you. And trust me, Thats Reasonable enough. What you can do, and I have done, is select the people, or group of people which really matter to you or more important you matter to them. NEGLECT the rest. Dont give a Single Fuck to what others think about you. And Am sorry to use the F word. But thats how you develop the correct attitude towards useless people in life.Its not at all necessary to be with the so called "Elite" or "Popular" Groups of the class. Everyone forgets everyone on the graduation day. Be With the people you are comfortable with, if that number is zero, dont worry, You are not going to be in School/College for ever. Just a small fragment of your awesome big life. Live alone, Live with your family, Be on Internet (Quora included) and Talk with people with whom you find amazing to talk, this is the best use of technology you can make. Love Yourself every freaking day. Dont let this not happen to you. Literally stop talking with those people who lower your self-image, Study and get an awesome degree.And in the end, Believe me Its awsome as an introvert to spend time with those 1-2 friends you are super comfortable with, and neglecting others.Thanks for reading till end.