People always call me stupid and it's messing with my self esteem. What should I do and can I become smarter?
Been there. Experienced the same thing right within the heart of the family. It even made me do all sorts of things to make them feel that I'm smart. The comparison was always with my brother who too took his turn to point out how stupid I was.They called me stupid for being a slow learner, for not liking math much (and called me dumbheaded), for making “wrong” friends who lacked substance, for being different from everyone else in the family and school.I ended up leaving these friends who mind you didn't cause me any harm really. It was only my family thinking that they were not doing me good. I also ended up plagiarizing a text to gain importance in school. I don't think I need to need to tell you how badly I was humiliated later on for this last activity… how badly all these breakups with friends and the experiences in school came back to haunt me at night for many many many many years. Believe me, they still do.But you know what? I learnt this late. It's not your problem that they 'think' that you are stupid. It is big time THEIR PROBLEM.I won't ask you to ignore these people forever or make the mistakes that I made. Just continue to be you the way you are. And about self esteem, trust me, that will come back on its own without much hard work.By the way, have you ever tried asking these people this question? “Ok, so you think I'm stupid. So, what??”
How can I stop my sister ruining my self esteem? She has to outdo me in everything, is loud, pushy and boastful. Our mother preferred her to me and now I am always second best. She steals my friends and mocks me. I want to feel good about myself.
First, you need to calm down and deal with how your sister and mother have hurt you. Cry about it. Write about whatever has happened. Talk to someone you trust. Spend less time wrestling with them; instead, deal with how you feel and consider seeing a counselor or therapist.You can’t stop your sister or your mother from doing whatever they need to do. You can come up with different ways to respond to them when they are unkind to you. That will make the difference.Let your sister be who she is. You don’t have to like that she’s loud, pushy, and boastful! These are unattractive qualities made more unbearable because you’re paying too much attention to them and taking them personally. Of course she shouldn’t mock you. Tell her off once if you need to and then walk away. She’ll get the message that you’re unwilling to accept this mistreatment.You can begin to feel good about yourself when you stop listening and reacting to their cruel outbursts. You know who you are better than they do. You’ll feel better about yourself immediately when you stick up for yourself without striking back or exacerbating the conflict.When whatever you’re doing is only prolonging or worsening the problem, it’s time to do something else. Learn when to walk away when necessary.We can’t always know why some people need to be hurtful. With such people, especially when they are family and we love them, all we can do is take care of ourselves. This includes clarifying for ourselves what kind of treatment is absolutely unacceptable and then not accepting it.The sooner you stop taking it, the easier it will be for those relationships to become healthier going into the future.In the meantime, be kind to yourself.
I hate myself and everything I do?
I hate myself. I immediately regret every decision I make and I just wanna punch myself in the face I feel so stupid every time I speak. I think about the mistakes I make and I start shaking and I can't help it and I just hate everything about myself oh my god I feel like such an idiot all the time I can't get over this. I've been this way for a very long time and it's only getting worse. I don't know why I do this. I just want to stop. My self loathing is ruining everything for me. Why am I like this? How can I learn to not completely hate myself?
Do you think facebook helps your self esteem or ruins it?
I ask this because i'm doing a study on it. A couple of months ago, I used to feel really low about facebook, and it seemed to affect my self esteem,. Like how some girls in my school were always hanging out and having fun and how I didn't often invite friends over and hang out. Also, how my 'close' friends (i thought they were) from primary school had always hung out together and didnt even invite me. This pretty much wrecked my self esteem a bit because i thought i was unpopular, no one noticed me and didn't really have proper friends i hung out with But, on the other side, recently it kind of does make ur self esteem and social life better in some terms, because u can interact more with friends from school and be slightly more social. Anyways, what do you think? I want to know how other teens see facebook :)
I have very Low Self Esteem, I Worry All The Time and I'm Always Insecure What Should I Do?
Sometimes Kid, you just have to say "What the fvck" and go with it.
My boyfriends porn is ruining my self confidence...help..?
maybe he wants to learn how to do "some stuff"