My friend doesn't care about my problems?
So umm, lately I have been feeling like my best friend doesn't care about my problems... When I was really upset a few days ago she was just kinda like 'well I have problems too' and it sorta hurt because I can't really talk to anyone else about how I am feeling. About a week ago I tried to talk to her and this happened: Me: "Hey, umm, can I talk to you?" Her: "Yeah. What do you need?" Me: "Uh, well I need some help..." Her: "With?" Me: "I'm just sorta depressed and well, I feel as if nobody likes me. I don't really have any friends and nobody will talk to me..." Her: "Ohhh. Well, I'm depressed too! I have to get new clothes and I can't decide what to get aaaah! I need your help choosing." Me: "Oh. Okay..." This happens EVERY time I try to talk to her when I am upset. When she talks to me about her problems, I give her advice and comfort her, but when I try to talk to her she makes it seem like she's more important than me... What can I do? I just want to talk to someone :(
Friend in problem...?
I have a sister like friend in my class & we love each other like brother n sister. the place i live in has some differentiation between boys n girls so i remain in th boys side (i'm a boy). my guy friends talk a lot abt my sister like friend (s-l-f) abt her behavior, habit, everything. and nw it has been months they have started sexually abusing her, not in front of her but in front of me a least. few days back i got a chance and told her everything the guys say abt her n she nearly broke down. i told her to hold herself upright. i think she tried a bit but failed to do so. What can i do for her?
My friend is having family problems and I don`t know how to help him and he won`t talk to an adult. What do I do?
He probably at this stage just needs a solid person to hear him and be there for him. In time he will have the capacity and strength to listen to your advice.I came from a very abusive home and never talked to anyone about it. If I had and they had tried to get me to go to someone else, I would have shut down. It is so incredibly painful and private when this stuff is going on behind closed doors, and it takes a while for the person to be able to do something about it.So just regularly connect with him. Let him know that your home is always available for a meal, a chat, a hug. That you are there no matter what and he can trust you. That counts for more than anything right now. And when he is ready, let him know that there is help out there for this sort of thing and he doesn’t have to go through it alone.
I have trouble keeping up with friends. Is there a problem with me?
No one can provide a definitive answer to you, because it could be both ways. Either it was your bad luck all of those times, or it might have something to do with you.If I have to pick one, I would say it is more plausible the reason is you.Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying there's a problem with you, I'm just saying that it is most probably because of you that this situation has arisen. Maybe you are expecting a lot from your friendships - is that so? Do you expect your friends to behave in a certain way around you? If so, you might just be overthinking things a bit. In such a case, my advice to you is to stop finding reasons in everything. For some time, just hang out with them when you feel like it; don't look for the negatives in whatever they do.There is generally a barrier when you're entering into friendship with people. Once you cross this barrier, it becomes easier for the friendship to go ahead. Everyone has their own barrier. It's like a wall that guards them from the outside world. Some people have a short wall, some have high, well-guarded walls. Maybe you've not yet crossed the barrier yet. In such a case, you have to be patient. Let things take course.There might be several other reasons why people keep avoiding you. You need to introspect from their point of view and check what it is with you that's keeping them at bay. Maybe you have too much of an ego, maybe you don't listen to other people, maybe you keep on showing off, maybe you keep on complaining all the time -- there are several possible reasons, and I would just be speculating if I picked one of them at random. Only you can find the answer by looking into yourself. Try to adjust with them and try to be a part of the group rather than being yourself when you're with them. This is if you really want to be a part of the group. If you don't like their company, then don't even bother. But again, it might be you who is creating problems for yourself. It would be helpful to introspect, for the sake of future friendships if not for this group of friends.
I have a little problem:i don't have friends!if you want to become friend please write:danastajila@yahoo.com
Hey you make friends. You make friends with people when you last expect it. In school, at work, in the mall, waiting for the bus ect. You dont need to push it. You need to find good friend people who like you for the way you are, and dont go changing for them and don't let them take advantage of your vornubility. You can add me as your friend if you want. .... Good luck and im sure youll find someone
Any other libras have a problem with having no friends?
Or do you know any libras with no friends? Well I am a libra (maybe that has nothing to do with it) but Ive noticed that I don't have many friends (only 1) and I feel that I get nervous that friends wont like me. Any others have this experience? Or do you have any ways you "libras" make friends out there?