Boyfriend's grandmother is rude and unappreciative toward me, how best to handle it?
My boyfriend is very close to his grandmother. He has been taking care of his grandparents since he was old enough to. The grandfather recently died. I went to all funeral proceedings, etc. His grandmother liked me enough before the death of her husband. Since then, she has been very rude to me and complains about me in front of myself, my boyfriend and his other family members. It really bother me. Wheni go over to her house for dinner, my boyfriend cooks and won't let me help him. So, I clear the table and clean up after him when he's done cooking. But, if my boyfriend puts one pot or pan into the sink, his grandmother says loudly, 'oh look at that, he does everything, he just does everything.' if my boyfriend and I kid around with each other, she comments on how 'we should talk nicely to each other.' She doesn't appreciate or notice anything that I do for her. I brought her a small Christmas tree and decorated it for her at Christmas time and bought her a christmas-y bracelet and she kept thanking my boyfriend for it. Of course, I still help out, but it's getting really annoying and I have started to decline invitations to her house for dinner. I am not even engaged to my boyfriend or anything. Do you think that it is rude of me to be declining the invitation at times now? I understand that she is an elderly woman who lost her husband recently, but I also don't want to put myself in a situation to be ragged on constantly for no reason, especially if I'm not even married to her grandson.
How to deal with an unappreciative friend?
And I mean best friend..she and I have been besties since Kindergarten :) she fell into a really bad relationship with this one guy at work, and found out some stuff about him that you just don't want to find out about a guy that you really like. I was supporting her, but not the relationship, but no matter what I did or said she still seemed to want to pursue the relationship. So i decided that I was going to back off, but I still wanted to do some research about the "stuff" she found out about him (mugshot, etc.) I found arrest dates and conviction dates and stuff, and I knew that she had been confused about them, so I sent them to her and was really sweet about it! But then she e-mailed me back (we literally talked about it for 2 hours on saturday) telling me that she had moved on, that she didn't really care, and that she thought it was really annoying that i was sending her all this "junk" just to try and "keep talking about it". it wasn't just to keep talking about it - it was because last time we talked, she really seemed to want to know the things i was able to tell her. and now she is just being really cold and standoffish about the whole thing. it's actually upsetting! I didn't do anything wrong, or at least I don't think i did! Stuff like this happens all the time with her, too - she takes things personally that she soooo shouldn't and attacks me for trying to care...i wish it was as easy as just telling her that the way she acts makes it really hard to care, but i know people say irrational things when they are upset, so i don't want to upset her more, but from what she is saying she isn't upset anymore...but let me tell you, it is really strange that she moved on so quickly. We have spent a combined ten hours (and she's only known him since halloween 2012) on the phone (with her in tears) for him standing her up, lying to her, and confusing her...he is 19, she is 16...it's not a situation i like at all, but it is getting really hard to be there for her without her being upset about how i am there for her- if i dont give her advice or info, she says i don't care; if i do, she says she doesn't want it! How should I got about being there for her without actually contributing any interest? I know it sound complicated, but that's only because it is! If it were easy, I wouldn't be asking! haha :) Thanks so much in advance!!! :) Please keep it nice and clean! :P
How to deal with a totally spoiled annoying friend?
It's one of those things. It's something that will happen. Try talking to her. Explain to her that it could be awkward for your parents. Just tell her she has been acting like that. My friend was vain and I told her. She isn't insecure but she doesn't constantly talk about herself like she did. It will be hard, I'm not gonna lie. Just try. Good luck. :3
MY FRIEND CONSTANTLY COMPLAINS AND CRIES ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND?
So my friend constantly complains about her boyfriend ..saying how she's unhappy with him, and that she doesn't think he loves her (apparently he has never said it either) but how she loves him so much. She's telling me right now how she has been crying and crying, because he's being distant and all this other stuff. I try to help her, by telling her that love is blind ..and that if she feels so unhappy to get out of this relationship and find someone who pours more love and feeling into the relationship. It's like no matter what I tell her, she just wants to hear what she wants to hear and vent. She is sort of a lost cause. I mean, I have had boyfriends similar to this and I told her that from outside perspective she just needs to move on, and as much as she says she knows she won't and then just complains and cries. I'm getting really annoyed, because I'm sick of it. This is the reason I'm not friends with girls usually, because they always cry to me (I'm a girl btw).. and I just want happy friends who don't talk drama ..unless it's dumb drama that we can laugh at. I dunno, it's not like I'm gonna stop being her friend ...and I want to help her...but I can't. Should I just ignore her, and let her settle these problems herself? Even though she'll like text and Facebook me about this?
Why are my parents so... annoying?
My parents are in their late forties and seem to never be happy with anything. They always wait for something to happen so they can retaliate against it. My mom is always depressed. Everyday she lies around, sleep, eating, stinking up the place, or complaining about someone else's life and her anxiety and depression. A couple of months ago, I received my report card. I didn't show it to my parents but to my mentor (grandmother). For some reason that sets my mom off. She demanded to see my grades because sshe knew my younger sister received her report card three days earlier. I assumed she expected something bad because she glanced at my grades and gave it back to me(I made all A's). I usually get A's and B's because of the classes I'm taking, so I thought she would have some type of happiness. I mean she has never made grades as good as mine when she was my age. My dad is like a puppet. Whatever my mom says goes. He wants someone to mess up so he can put his hands on me and my sister. For this reason, I hate them. He will literally wake us up to "get the hell off his hotspot". I don't use his phone's Wi-Fi. It seems that he doesn't put a password on his hotspot so he can curse us. I'm a lower class 16 yr old and never do anything but go to school, work, and clean up. I'm blessed to have two parents but I can't stand them and their complaining and laziness. Please, tell me what me and my sister can do to get through this hell?