How can I stop being shy around extended family members and just talk?
I have no problem around my family that i'm around everyday. i joke around and make an *** out of myself all the time without any problem :p but i guess its because im shy around people i dont know well or arent that close to. recently my 18 yr old cousin and his 17 y/o gf (i'm older than her by 9 months) moved here with his mom (long story) and now they are around more. recently my fam all went over their house and i really didnt talk much because i didn't know what to say and everyone was saying things like "dont talk too much" jokes like that and i was really embarassed...tonight is my grandmas birthday and everyone is going out so i dont want tonight to be another quiet episode for me...how can i not be so shy without seeming idiotic to my cousin and his gf i dont want to embarass myself again.
How can i get my husband to be less talkative to other females?
My husband is just so female friendly. all the girls want to text him for advice. His female co-workers are always texting him or talking to him on facebook. and i have a big problem with that. he doesn't understand why. he flaunts that we're married, has our pictures all over his desk talks about me all the time. That's all great and dandy. but does he really have to give them his number and continue talking to them when hes home? and on his days off? and on facebook.. I think it's disrespectful but he disagrees. i wouldn't have a problem with it to much if he didn't already lose my trust over text conversations. when the females step out of manners with things they like to text to my husband i want to send them a nice reply or a phone call and my husband wont let me do that. Im his WIFE not his GIRLFRIEND! I feel he shouldn't talk to his female co-workers after work, or on facebook. Is that rude, and disrespectful or is it just me? Bcuz he doesn't feel anything is wrong with it. what do y'all think, how can i get him to understand me and realize if i (as his WIFE and not GIRLFRIEND) have a problem with it maybe he should just stop doing it. (the female co-workers don't know it causes problems bcuz he doesn't let me say anything to them.) Am i wrong for not wanting him to have personal conversations with these females after work or do you think its just a self esteem issue?
What are some characteristics of meth addicts?
Rather than the obvious signs of the homeless rock-bottom addict, perhaps it may be more useful to see some of the earlier subtle signs:-Weight loss despite junk food diet. They may appear pleasantly trim.-Bad skin-Very talkative, full of ideas. Can be intellectually interesting and engaging but at some point it feels they are talking at you more than with you.-No meaningful follow through on said big ideas.-Prone to irrational shifts into angry outbursts. These can be very quick and weird in normal conversation. -vanishing, unreliable to time commitments... Like not answering the phone all weekend, with vague explanations. In reality they were asleep for 3 days.-strange tooth decay, like along the sides of the front teeth. Teeth ground down.-hypersexual at times in risky ways-extremely clean house. Spotless bathrooms and kitchens. And yet there may be a nasty pile of junk hidden somewhere with piles of unfinished projects and found objects -spastic bird-like motions. If they are into dancing this might seem normal -rapid shifts in mood. They may go from sluggish and grumpy to quick and talkative after a short bathroom break.-weird hours in general. Like texting you at 5am with some sort of question -paranoid delusions. This doesn't have to be conspiracy theories and mind control, it could be extreme jealousy and accusations directed at you. Then it may get weirder with obsessions that various people or entities are watching them.-fascination with parts of objects.Contrary to expectations, there are severe meth addicts out there who hold down jobs and the appearance of normal life. In fact meth is a drug that can actually increase brain speed and productivity. Meth users are not stupid while high, but they end up irrational. They are dimwitted only when coming down. This makes the addiction very insidious as the addiction outsmarts the addict and the people around them in subtly sophisticated ways.
Advice for meeting my boyfriends (huge Italian) family for the first time.?
I'm so glad you're not shy! Meeting "the family" for the first time Italian-style has to be one of life's testing moments. Do you speak any Italian? If not, use whatever time you've got before then to learn a few simple phrases. I'm sure your guy can help with this. Also, he's just as nervous as you are so it's okay to be nervous. The family is probably VERY VOCAL and speak over each other - loudly, too! This is just their way so you might as well accept it if planning to remain in relationship with this guy. Also, the family may be playful - putting you on the hot-seat just to see how you handle yourself and be as truthful as is reasonably possible. Some intimate details aren't really for open consumption, are they? Dress down a bit more than the tank top (cover shoulders) and not too much cleavage, please. Also a skirt shouldn't be so short as to appeal to the male family members lust, if you get my drift. That may be fine for you and your boyfriend when together, but not for older Italian family members! You surely are aware of a dress code or you wouldn't have mentioned it. How you dress that day will determine the mental vocabulary family members will imagine of you. Aside from these things, be respectful of everyone there and as tactful as you can be when asked questions you don't feel appropriate - there will always be at least one member who loves to push the envelope. Yes, do bring flowers (ask your bf if she has a favorite kind) and please, please, please, compliment the cook and ask for recipes of something you especially enjoy. Hope this helps and hope you can still be just who you are and not an intimidated child.
Why do I feel jealous when my girlfriend talks to other men?
Its because you are INSECURE. And to be honest, we are all humans. So , NOTHING WRONG IN IT. ITS IN OUR NATURE. NOW how to overcome it ? How about some reverse psychology.Speak with other girls, make a strong friend circle which includes women. It will help you in the long run.Well relationship with friends or girlfriend is like investing in stock market and creating a diversified portfolio with number of stocks in different sectors instead of one particular stock. If one stock goes down other stocks can help you to cover up losses.Imaging "A" is your girlfriend with a probability of .5 of dumping you.She speaks with 5 guys on an average.You try speaking and making friends with 7 to 8 girls, to keep you on a safe diversified zone. Appreciate there ability, there intelligence, qualities but never hit on them. Girls love to have friend zoned committed guys like you. Never flirt , keep your character intact. Just never ever flirt with them!! Express at times that you miss your girlfriend, she is talking to other guys and makes you feel insecure, get some emotional comfort from your female friends. Automatically you will observe you have a space full of good female friends, and you are giving less time and space to your girlfriend. She will understand , she will miss you, she will feel insecure too. Now if she comes back its your gain, your favourite stock in which you invested have actually given you profit. Worst case - she didn't feel jealous, dumps you, goes out with another guy. Well the other stocks in your portfolio, that is your female friends who knows how honest you are when you are in a relationship will automatically come to your rescue. be a man and cry like a bitch in front of one of them, tell them how your ex has played with your feelings, at least 90% chances are there that out of those 8 girls one girl will fall for you. P.S. - often look out for proper timings, like break up of one of your female friends at the same time of your break up. Remember the 2008 recession ? Leyman brothers got bankrupt, imagine the stock market crash, just imagine how rich people are who have invested then. its similar, support and comfort each other after break up, good times are ahead. Even in relationships.
How is the life of a divorced man in India?
Divorced life goes from awesome to sad - you experience every shades of emotions. The only difference is this time you have to deal with it all alone.Its been 15 months since my divorce & things have changed a lot. The idea of life without the person I dont have anymore is dreadful.I initially denied the fact that am all alone now. Anger was obvious. How could she do this to me? What was my fault? and tons of similar question flooded my mind.So, this is my life after divorce:My Family & FriendsLive with parents now.Communicate less with dad.Do babysitting gracefully for my niece.Have good repo with siblings.Still dont speak for myself to anyone.Friends don't know about divorce.I try not to disturb parents & other family members for my stuff.My Sunday & HolidaysFor me some weekdays are good & some horrific.Sunday haunts now. Nothing to do.Now I get up early on sundays & holidays too.Make plans for holidays, but dont execute them.Go all alone for movies now.EatingNo eating out. NO fast food.No special demands at home too.Absolutely good with whatever mom cooks.Sweets & ice-creams no more on list.My WorkplaceNO leave from work now.No reason to go home early.NO negotiation for upraisals with boss.Finish assigned work before deadline.Invested free time to make money by doing part time work.My New HabitsStarted working out regulary.Controlled over eating habit.Snoring has stopped.Watch webseries instead of TV programs.No fight for remote & newspapper.No more procastination.Now speak less & listen more.GeneralTransformed from XXL to XL.Have learnt to say NO.Learned to buy my stuffs.Skip social gatherings often.Have ample of free time now.Like reading. so I read a lot.Have sleepless nights often.Do cry sometimes. Do feel pain.Stopped explaining others about my divorce.Not interested in materialistic things now.Feel like full of energy & life sometimes.I think everything is normal. But never it is.Now I dont bother about things that I dont have.Never order anyone for a glass of water or cup of tea both at home & office.Finally, have made peace with myself & the loss incurred. Nothing has stopped. All those thoughts & memories do surround me once in a day, but now the intensity has reduced. I have learned to cope up with all these. Bit by bit am moving on.