Are virgo females insecure and have low self esteem?
My mom is a virgo and she's the most caring mom who takes care of her family, works hard but as I've gotten older I realize she has no self esteem or self love. Her critical ways are her ways of gaining love for herself. The rule of "putting others down to lift themselves up" is what my mom does to everyone. I'm a very active person but not only do i just get criticism of "you're getting fat", I get teased for it. I also notice she transfers/projects alot of her own fears and insecurities through me and I find it annoying. I respect my mom but I have much more self love and self esteem for myself than she does. I have much more confidence (although it's not perfect and varies on some days). She implied I had to be submissive so I can avoid arguments with my boyfriend so he would love me, which I deeply disagree with. I have a mind, I'll voice my opinion out and fight a little if I really believe and am passionate about it. Yeah, my mom tends to think she "knows something very well" and use it to her advantage to put someone down, indirectly...
My low self esteem is killing me.?
Come on Angie, you're much stronger and more determined than that. I don't know you, but I can sense you. Remember good things come in small packages, and you are packaging plus++. So stop being down on yourself and live a little. You have a right to feel great about yourself and who you are regardless of your height or any other of your attributes. My adoptive mother was only 4' 11" and she was one of the most strongest, self assured and forthright women I have ever had the privilege of knowing. In fact I still gain strength from her almost 10 years after her passing. Angie, life is far too short to do it the way you are going. You will only end up miserable. Time to look at yourself in the mirror, and say enough of this negative crap. You are better, much better than that Angie. So stop feeling sorry and apologising for you. Show everyone that Angie is confident, self assured, and very clear about where she is heading and what she wants from life. It's all in your mind sweetie and only you have the power to change and turn it all around. No one else can do that for you. But I promise you, when you start feeling really and I mean really, really good about the type of character that this honey Angie actually is, well it simply won't matter diddlely squat what others think about you. Because ultimately, it's only your thinking Angie that controls your self image no one else's. YOU CAN DO IT GIRL, I KNOW YOU CAN, SO DO IT!!!!!!!! Your boy friend will be amazed at first, but I promise , he will love the real/new you more than he ever did the old you.
Bondage = low self esteem?
I'm a 19 year old female. I was sexually molested as a child, have an alcoholic father, and then in my teens (parents didn't give a flying f*ck what I did) lost my virginity to a 35 year old who forced me to watch child porn, manipulated me and I STILL thought I loved him and then I became a raging sex addict and got a high off of it basically. This was a few years ago and now I absolutely do NOT have sex with anyone unless I'm in a committed relationship. I've started to like extreme porn where there is bondage or gang rape and the girl is being really severely mistreated (almost rape but not quite that extreme.) My question is...does this all stem from my past? Is this wrong and should I try to stop watching it? I don't want to degrade myself or anything but I usually feel bad after watching it but love it when I'm in the middle of watching it...I'm not sure if it means I have low self esteem. I refuse to go to a counselor about my past I hateeee opening up to people. Please help, big dilemma :(
My girlfriend has low self esteem issues.?
My girlfriend always thinks im lying when i say shes gorgeous. she thinks she's fat and all this and all that. ive tried laying off the compliments and avoiding the topic of how she looks, but she will randomly be like "im so fat" and i try and avoid it but she keeps on. Her self esteem is not limited to her looks btw. she thinks shes a horrible girlfriend and i should leave her. She has been like this for the entire year we've dated. Ive gotten used to it but lately its been getting worse. I've tried giving her space and not being nosey, but when i do ask her stuff i get one worded responses like "idk", "idc", "nuthin", "hmm" it seems like shes refusing to let me in. I dont wanna break up with this girl i love her to death and when we have good times its my ultimate high and nothing can be better :), but that's starting to come less and less. She's just depressed 24/7 and its stuck in her head that shes a horrible girlfriend and cant be happy. i just want her to be happy so it can be like when we first met. (again i love this girl with my heart so please dont suggest ending it, just things i could do to make her happy)
Eating disorder... low self esteem... what do I have?
I am so sick of my eating/food issues. Do I have an eating disorder/the onset of one? - I had early puberty at age 9, and ever since then I've felt fat. I've never ever reached the overweight range, and I'm always at a healthy weight.... but I felt at that time (and now) that I had to lose weight. - I've been obsessed with losing weight since I was 11, and I factor my weight as my reasoning for my unhappiness. - I am a perfectionist and I beat myself up mentally if I cannot reach my goals. - After I eat, I am filled with guilt, but I always end up doing it anyway. - I feel out of control when I eat, like I've eaten too much. I love food, and I can't stop eating it, but I hate the way I feel afterward - I feel self conscious all the time. - I have passed down social events because I've felt too fat to go - I never feel good enough for everyone's expectations. I managed to lose weight the healthy way recently, and I was very good about it.. I stayed in the healthy calorie range (1200-1500) and I exercised regularly. I went on vacation and gained approximately 4 pounds, and now I feel myself spiraling out of control. I'm obsessed with the scale and how much I've gained, even though I'm still well within the healthy range for my height. If I feel I've eaten too much, I spend at least an hour debating "punishments" for myself. I find myself compulsively exercising, and I always debate cutting down my calories to insane levels -- the only thing stopping me is my new running hobby, because I know that I won't be able to run if I don't eat enough. Even so, I feel like I'm spiraling towards something, but I don't know what I don't know what to do... help!