How can one stop seeking attention?
This is going to take work! The behaviors that you call “attention seeking” are probably due to a lack of confidence. If it is a minor problem, you can try using really positive self-talk inside your mind. When out with others, pay attention to the urge to butt into the conversation with comments about yourself. Try to add positive comments about what others have said, instead. Or try to ask a follow-up question to something someone else has said. This can keep your mind busy looking for ways to make compliments or positive comments to others and will get you adding to the conversation in ways that do not draw the attention away from others and onto yourself. You will be building new skills and people will like you much more.If that sort of intervention is just not even in the ballpark of what you need, then maybe you need a self-help site or book on building your self-esteem. On increasing your confidence in your own worth or your social skills. These kinds of things can get you thinking in more positive ways.While we are on the subject, you can try to work on more positive self-talk. Don’t talk to yourself in a negative way that puts yourself down. If you would not want your best friend to talk to you that way, don’t put up with hearing it from yourself, either. When you hear yourself say a put-down inside your head, stop, and think of a kinder way of looking at the situation. Instead of, “what a jerk,” when you did something stupid, say, “wow, I can see that staying up so late really does affect me, I did that stupid thing without even thinking!” (You must forgive my examples, I am 58 years old so they are not going to sound like anybody current, and I know better than to try to fake it!)Okay, now if those kinds of interventions are not really getting to what the problem is, then consider going to a counselor. Some people have self-esteem issues that are more than the run-of-the-mill kind. Some people have issues that they are not going to solve on their own. If it is not a social skills issue, but a deep problem where you even doubt your right to exist; get a counselor, a therapist, a Psychologist, or whatever they call the profession where you sit with someone with at least a Master’s degree every week or two for several months at least. The name of the profession and who does it varies with the location.
My roommate is a clingy,attention seeking,depressed, insecure person who is dependent on me. I have lived with her for a year and...?
I don't know how I've lasted this long living with such an emotionally unstable person, but I have a lot of patience. I feel like from the beginning I should have not enabled her childish, horrible behavior and set boundaries. She has invited herself to go where I go,she waits up for me some nights to come home, she worked at the same place,even quit at the same time I did, tries to get my attention at the most inconvenient times, is in my business,follows me etc..I listened to her constant negativity all year, meanwhile I stayed as busy as possible and ignored her obsessive behavior and nosiness. She became worse over the year to the point where everything in her conversation was "we" and bought and did whatever I did, until I got fed up and just finally started to shut myself in my room or never be home. I have even made the mistake of sharing my belongings. Food etc. Fast forward,I got to the point this week where I started ignoring her.Well, she freaked out on me accusing me of some of her belongings missing. She is so unhappy with herself and is now lashing out on me, and I refuse to feel guilty over some childish remarks and accusations. She told me she is even done trying to be my "friend" and all I could think to myself was,GOOD. Needless to say, I am trying to move away ASAP. I don't need a toxic person sucking the life from me. She is using me for her emotional needs, but... I'm NOT responsible for her! Does it seem like loneliness or just plain crazy behavior?!
Why is my friend such an attention seeker?
She goes out of her way to get attention ALL THE TIME. At first it was funny, but sometimes it just gets annoying and really obnoxious. The worst part is that she acts like she didn't do anything to provoke the attention when she clearly did. There's no bad attention...even if the source is a skeezy guy, who cares, as long as he looks at her. And then she has this bragging problem that just...ugh. =/ WHY is she like this??
What causes some girls to seek a lot of attention from guys?
The girls who always seek attention in person, on Facebook or anywhere don’t get a lot of attention in real life. They seek attention to compensate for lack of it.Ex.Some girls who “excessively” uploading selfies on Facebook or Instagram; if people keep validating/reminding them of how attractive they are in real life, they won’t fish for compliments on these social media platforms. “Some” of them are average-looking at best, that’s why they keep fishing for compliments to convince themselves they are attractive. Few attractive girls who upload selfies; they blatantly seek validation if they’re still attractive, attractive girls are also very insecure.(NOTE: I have nothing against girls taking selfies, it’s quite normal. But girls who take excessive selfies, the ones who flood your Facebook newsfeed with their average looking photos are narcissistic, insecure and attention seekers)(NOTE: not all) Many less attractive girls get more LIKES on Facebook and Instagram than beautiful girls for some reason. The girls with curvaceous bodies will instantly get more LIKES on their photos regardless of their facial attractiveness (butterface=nice body BUT HER FACE or attractive faces)If a girl is PRETTY or SMART or TALENTED or SKILLFUL or ACHIEVER or she has other outstanding qualities, people will instantly give her attention even she doesn't ask for it, she will be the one who’ll get fed up of excessive attention; she will shy away from it.
Why are girls such huge attention seekers?
I don't get it I really don't, I know a girl who I'm friends with and she knows a guy that every time he's around her he's all over her, like a creep and stalks her life! When he's not around all she does is rant and rave about how she can't stand how he's always hanging all over her and breathing down her neck and stands by her like he's her shadow but when he does it she doesn't say anything! She doesn't speak up! She just laughs and giggles and goes along with it! I think its an attention thing. Another example is with my girlfriend, she has a stalker on Facebook who always messages her, comments and likes all of her pictures, and is kinda obsessed with her, she always complains about how annoying he is but I don't understand why she just doesn't delete him and block him! She feeds into it by responding and tolerating it so he won't stop until she says something which she hasn't! I don't get it, why do girls so desperately crave attention? Even if its bad attention any attention is good I guess, are they really that insecure and need the spotlight on them at all times?
Personality Traits and Attributes: Why are attention seeking people often labeled insecure?
People certainly can be both confident and attention-seeking. But they will usually not be perceived as confident, even if they really are inside.This is because people who constantly seek attention look like they need some sort of reassurance or validation that they are unable to provide for themselves, or get from ordinary social activity. People who look like they are missing something, or who seem emotionally needy, are not likely to be seen as confident. Indeed, most people like that are not really very confident.But I'm sure there are some confident people who still seek out attention just because they like it, or whatever other reason. And of course, if somebody doesn't seek attention, that doesn't automatically mean they are really confident inside.
I'm always seeking love confirmation and attention from my partner. Is this wrong?
There are a lot of different ways to look at this. I will offer one that you might not have considered:Perhaps you are suffering from low self-esteem.The constant need for affirmation of love is often a symptom of feeling unworthy of love. Needing someone to constantly make you a priority that shows they value you over everything else can be another way to comfort yourself when you aren’t feeling worthy of love.The problem with your approach could be that it calls your partner’s actions into question and reinforces your feelings of worthlessness if he/she doesn’t act the way that you insist that they act. When to them, because they take for granted how much they love you, they don’t need to constantly tell you—you should know.There has to be a middle ground that you both can acknowledge. Your partner needs to voluntarily confirm and affirm his/her love for you and you need to be grateful when he/she does this. But you need to be able to hear his/her love when it is expressed without words. When he/she remembers that you like strawberry milk and brings one to you, that thoughtfulness is a way of saying “I love you.” Listen for confirmation without demanding it.You also need to understand that every time you demand his/her attention or affirmation, you aren’t getting an honest response as much as a response that calms you down and smooths your manic self over for a minute. If you can stop being this way because you know that you are loved—heck because you love yourself—your relationship can move on in more healthy directions.The problem with seeking a confirmation of love is that it questions the love you have and makes the answer disengenuine. If you have to ask if someone loves you, it’s not a healthy relationship. And chances are if you have to ask, it is you that needs to work on your self-image and feeling of self-worth more likely than it is the other person.In my relationship, my partner seldom tells me he loves me using words. I know that he loves me by so many other measures that words seem unneccessary. It hasn’t always been like this, but I learned to listen for confirmation of his love in different ways than just the words, “I love you”Love yourself and do your best and it will be clear that you are loved. Then, you won’t need affirmation from anyone else.
Why i dont find many Aquarius and sagittarius asking question in yahoo answers.?
One of the main features of Yahoo Answers, is the exclusion of star signs being revealed in poster's details. So you think 1/6 of the population don't use YA just because of the relevant constellation they were born under X amount of years ago? And you then wonder why people ridicule horoscopes