My dad hates me, family dilemma?
Maybe your idea of 'speaking up to him' is his idea of 'talking back'. It's not just what you say, it's how you say it. He's probably stressed with his own life and on top of that frustrated with you because he wants you to make good grades so you can have a better chance at life than he probably got. It's very frustrating when you have high expectations of your kids and want better for them than they want for themselves. You say you want to be an actress. That's fine, but the reality of that situation is even if you went after that goal you might turn the jobs of a waitress or valet into a career. If you try to do harder in school and get your grades up it'll appease him and give you more options. Your friends do not have perfect relationships with their parents. The grass is never greener. The things you look at today as obstacles will one day become your strengths. As far as your sister, there's a reason you guys have that relationship. If someone asked her about her sister, I'm sure she wouldn't say, "Yeah, my little sister is so great. She's so respectful, funny and helpful all the time but I don't like her so I treat her with contempt because it's fun." I think you need to write out these grievances to each member of your family. To your dad tell him he pulls down your confidence and makes you hate being at home. You want a relationship with him where you can express yourself and he doesn't demean you all the time. Tell him how you feel about specific issues and write some things you'll try to do to improve your relationship. Do the same with your sister, and even your mom if you want to. Ask them about things you can do because maybe they've noticed qualities in you you weren't aware of. Things you do to provoke. At the end of the day you can choose what to change, where to compromise and what you see as qualities you refuse to part with. Ask them to write you back to give you the opportunity to see how they feel because talking can lead to arguing which doesn't lead to solutions. After you get it all out- then sit down and have a conversation. Hopefully your situation will improve, but stop looking at yourself as some hopeless victim. You have power. You can change your situation, even if it's just a matter of changing your attitude.
I'm atheist, my family is Christian; can someone give me advice?
Now, I'm not here for guidance on my beliefs at all, so if you will please not do so it would be greatly appreciated. For a little info on my dilemma; Parents are divorced, but friends. Dad still comes over for dinner and coffee. My father did want to become a priest, my mother and brother are as deeply believers as he is. When I turned 12 (into an age I began to really think for my self) I was questioning beliefs, and found out how much I'd been oblivious too (all the other possibly reasons for our 'creation'). After a while I had to tell my family, because....well, they're your family and they have to understand, right? Well, let's say there was a lot of drama including sobbing from my mother, my father pointing out I had to fix my problems and notice that I was the issue, and my brother telling everyone that I'm possessed. My family has rejected me, and it is greatly effecting my social life as well as many decisions. Without family support your life goes down the drain; when your 14 and just going into high school. What I'm asking is; How do I 'fix' this. I want to make it seem like nothing happened, but no way can I erase their memories. Plus, I have a sibling who makes sure your parents don't forget ANYTHING, plus I'm younger so it means I have some sort of advantage I don't know about. I just need to know how to get out of this ditch.
What are some moral dilemmas teens face nowadays?
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How does it feel to have a broken family?
It feels like forever walking on a crossroad. That every now and then, you would be in a dilemma.I have a good relationship with both of my parents even though they are separated. I am past the hate and blame stage. I have seen enough to realize that we are mortals whose life can be taken easily just as fast as it was given; spending it on useless selfish feelings would be a waste. But loving and caring amounts the same effort and energy as the opposite. To them, it may seem that I have adjusted well on the situation since I am an adult, however its a struggle in every way.Whatever I do, consistently there would be two choices. In every action, both sides must be considered. It’s tiring and stressful at the same time but family has always been and will always be my number one motivation.Its hard during holidays and other special occassions as birthdays or celebrations. Both sides are expecting us to spend it with them that you wish you can split yourself in half. Being stuck in the middle, your choices, whatever it may be will cause varying degrees of pain to the other. This is a cycle hence I worry endlessly.It’s harder when you ask for advice and they give different suggetions. No matter how long your explanations are as to why you chose one from the other, jealousy will always sneak its way in. That is why I rarely ask for advice from my parents and have made all decisions on my own since then. But this has a backlash. Nowadays, whenever I ask for their opinion they would constantly say the same thing. That it’s up to me and whatever I chose, they would support me all the way which doesn’t really help when you are in a serious quandary.The hardest would be when misunderstanding happens. When a fight broke, my role is the mediator. At times like this, I would always hear phrases like “you love them more, that’s why” and “why are you defending him/her you should be on my side”. You would think that they would be rational enough since they are older but sometimes they undergo regression and you’re left to deal with the situation.If worse comes to worst the whole family from both sides will get involved that will make you want to run away forever.Whatever the cause is, in a shattered home, the fragments are impaled the deepest and the burden is heaviest in children.
My parents plan to disown me if i join the military. Need advice.... Any help is appreciated.?
Hi all: I always have problems with my family recently. Im a sophmore at a 4 year university. I'm planning to go to OCS for the navy. However, when my parents heard about it, they refused to fund for my education and won't recognize me as their son anymore. Theyre completely antimilitary and refused to hear me out when I tried to explain to them that the navy has more technical jobs and the differences between an officer and an enlistee. My dad is a vietnam war refugee so that's why he hates the miltary. And my mother thinks people who join the military are uneducated, have no future,and are all associated with gangs. i know this can't be true because some of my friends are doing a great job in the ROTC program at their college. Since my parents refused to fund my education and i have no other support, I will have to drop out of my university. In the meantime, I want to join the navy as an enlistee for the benefits so i can continue school and earn my degree. However, the moment if I step inside a recruiting station, my parents will disown me without hesitation. I will have no place to live and i don't have connections with anyone I know who will offer me a place to stay. I believe i can have a future and make a good living and career in the military since it has been my goal for a long time. I also think I'm physically and mentally prepared to take the PFT and ASVAB. Can someone provide me some advice how to deal with this dilemma I have with my parents.
I have trouble being shirtless or in a tanktop around family?
The only way to get past this is to go shirtless. You need to challenge yourself and leave your room without your shirt on. Since the warmer weather is here, it's more normal to be shirtless. Pick a warm day and plan to do something outside for a bit, go for a run or do some yard work, what ever you do just don't wear a shirt when you leave your room. Once you get past the first few minuties you will realized that it is no big deal to be shirtless around your parents.