Questions about paternity and child support?
I am only answering to clear up to false statements (or misleading) that were made by KP and HeartBroken. First, heartbroken. She said: i've been told that in SOME states, if the parents were never married or living together, he can fight to not have to pay child support. That is COMPLETELY false in every state and PR. Child support is a statutory requirment and BOTH parents have a legal duty to support. The only case where a presumed parent has a right to contest and be relieved of support is if they are found NOT to be the biological parent and are so relieved by the court, or if their parental rights have been terminated, although this does NOT relieve them of any arrears already owed. As to KP's statment regarding retroactive child support, it matters not if the presumed father knew of the child. In all such statutes where retroactive support is allowed, the prevailing requirement is a minimum of when the action was filed, the paternity of the child and from two years to all the way back to the child's birth. What KP MIGHT have been alluding to is fraud upon the father by the mother or some other action taken by the mother to conceal the birth but those statutes require an active participation by the presumed father. In your case, if the father did not know of the pregnancy, there is no active participation and hence, no case for ursurping the statute. Simply put, lack of knowledge on the part of the presumed father is not a defense to retroactive support awards. The correct defense to this award in the particular case at hand, is the doctrine of laches. If arrears are awarded from a period of time before the petition was filed, then the presumed father's defense is that she rested on her rights for 9 years and the court should not allow her now to exercise those rights she herself did not exercise. (Laches- look it up).
Is it wrong to ask your wife for a paternity test?
If he let me know before we tried to have a baby that he intended on getting a paternity test and his reasons for it, I would be okay with it. If I was sitting there after just pushing a baby through me and he picks then to let me know, I would take it pretty offensively.Try this: This is How I Saved My Marriage – Pete Menoi – MediumI guess the big difference is the idea that if I know a paternity test is something my SO has strong feelings on ahead of time, I can respect that. But if I don’t find out until we’re already having a baby, it would definitely seem like it’s ME he doesn’t trust. I feel the same way about a prenup. I will not get married without one. But that’s something I’m going to let my SO know far before getting engaged and not a few weeks before the wedding.I guess the big difference is the idea that if I know a paternity test is something my SO has strong feelings on ahead of time, I can respect that.It would be in a similar manner to a wealthy person asking for a prenup. It’s not that the individual necessarily doesn’t trust his/her partner, it’s just part of the legal formality.agreed. i plan on having this convo before I even propose to the woman. i’m definitely not going to spring it into the midst of pregnancy. i’m glad you understand.I’m an XY who has a history of placing trust in untrustworthy people. If I ever ask for a paternity test, it’s not necessarily because I don’t trust you per se, it’s more because I can’t trust my own judgment.As a matter of principle, I will get a paternity test for all of my children. Any woman who has a problem with this, well we’re simply incompatible. Nothing wrong with either one of us, just incompatible.Which is a shame too, because I really look forward to being a father one day and feel confident that I would do a pretty amazing job at it.This is the fairest and most reasonable answer on here. People get paranoid about things sometimes, however irrational. This is ofter less about the woman’s possible infidelity than it is about the man’s paranoia. Keep in mind, the only “proof” he has is your word.People have irrational fears, and this is a huge one for men. Weight your right to be offended against your value of your long term relationship.
OK, I have a Horrible question to ask. How to cheat a paternity test? My friends and i came up with ideas..?
1st. 2 hrs. before the test, do not eat or drink anything. dry mouth with a towel or rag 2nd. find and form fit a plastic substance to form fit ALL areas of the mouth and tounge.and hold it in place with denture cream or any other oral substance that sticks 3rd. ask a friend for saliva and cheek tissue in a small jar, Then maybe 2 or 3 min. before the time to go in to submit the sample, garggle the friends spit and then take the test. Will this method work ? Remember, this is just hypothetical. I know im going to have 50 chicks calling me a scumbag or yada yada. but this is something to really think about. to any medical proffessionals, please, your input is greatly appreciated. Offended people, please , sit this one out.
I want to get a Paternity Test, does my ex have the right to deny me?
About 3 1/2 to 4 years ago my ex-girlfriend was founf out to be pregnant. She assured me it wasnt mine it was this other guys. I have not seen her about 3 years, about a month ago I saw pictures of her kid and there is a resemblance. So I kind of freaked out and started doing the math on the conception and the day the child was born and come to find out it is like a two week difference or gap. I know that it has already been three years but is there a way to get a DNA test if I may have some idea that the kid could be mine? She is currently in the works of trying to work it out with the alleged father, and the fact is that I dont want to get back with her I just want to know the truth. I am also kind of worried because this is all coming so quickly and she has been rumored to be moving far away in a few months. So I would like to find out NOW! Any suggestions or advice?
Do men have the right to have a paternity test conducted, to ensure that the child they are supporting is theirs, or must the mother consent?
This may be a multi faceted question. A man has the right in most or all western countries at this time, to have a paternity test conducted to ensure that a child he is supporting is in fact his biological child.Whether or not he SHOULD request such a test is a different matter. Personally, I believe that if there reasonable doubt regarding parentage, as in the case of a woman having multiple sex partners, DNA testing should absolutely be done, with the understanding that the results are not 100% accurate. However, if there is little or no reason for doubt, asking for paternity testing has a big downside. The lack of trust this request implies would probably ruin a relationship, in my opinion.
How do do-it-yourself paternity tests work?
They do send you a kit with pretty simple instructions. You get a swab for the child and a swab for the alleged father. You rub them on the inside of the cheek and put them in a tube. You fill out a form, label the tubes and drop them in the mail. You get the results back in the mail. There is no need to test the mother because there is rarely any doubt she is the mother. The part about making sure nothing happens to it... well the do it yourself kits do not have what is known as a "chain of custody" process so the results will not hold up in court. The only exception is that the results may be acceptable as evidence of a reasonable suspicion to have a judge order official DNA testing to disestablish paternity. If the do it yourself test results come back as a match then there is probably very little chance anything happened to the samples along the way. There is always a possibility something went amiss if the results come back excluding the father but there really wouldn't be any way to tell without another test. The reliability and security of the testing has always been good from what I have seen but I suppose it is possible for a mix up. If you want results that stand up in court you will need to get the test done by someone else and you will have to make sure you get what is called a "chain of custody" test. These are usually a little more expensive.
Should Joseph have asked Mary for a paternity test?
You got some questions girl, i can not resist but anwer them! Of course he should have! I mean have trust and faith in God and never doubt his word. I mean who was he to doubt the truth that it was God that went with his wife, which is obviously an exception, because God can do what he likes, even with your wife and so you know! Accept it and never question it! But also there is this hypothesis that, she did self ovulate or something, some species do that! which is funny in a way, but could have been the case! I just hate to say that I jsut had a vision, of how real natural; people, get made pregnant! But am not going to say it, just in cas I go to the gate and she comes and tells me, you did not belive I was so and so! Then go into that other gate, and burn mo fo burn! (sorry could not resist it!)
As my child does not resemble me, should I do paternity test without letting my wife know, or should we talk openly and do the test together?
OMG, all these people on here basically telling you that you're better off being deceived, or that you're a bad person for even questioning your wife. How dare you have doubts or concerns! Don't you know that as a male, you're not supposed to have fears? You should also know that if a woman has carried a baby to term, she's automatically a paragon of virtue, and calling that into question makes you a bad person. Even if the baby is not yours, the honorable thing to do is never find out, but stay with the unfaithful woman and raise another man's offspring as if it were your own. Sarcasm off.Get the test, but do it in secret. It's not known how many men are unknowingly raising another man's child, but some estimates are as high as 20%. That's 1 in 5! You deserve to know. No one should have to go through life with those kinds of suspicions. Get the test. You have a right to know if the child you're about to spend two decades of your life raising is actually yours.Definitely DO NOT tell your wife about your suspicions, or about the test. While it's very noble of you to want to be upfront and honest, there is literally no advantage to telling her, and plenty of downsides to it.If the child is yours, at best your wife will only be hurt by the accusation, and you're likely to damage your relationship with her permanently. A person can get over being cheated on, but they'll never get over the accusation of being a cheater. It would be cruel to even tell her you suspect.If the child is NOT yours, then you do not want to let her know that you know. Not yet. Not until after you've made the decision of what you want to do about it. You may want to confront her, and leave open the chance to forgive her and work through this. You might also want a divorce. But you deserve to be able to make that decision in peace, allowing yourself time to weigh your options without being influenced by her reaction.If you decide you want a divorce, still do not tell her. Get your affairs in order and quietly obtain a lawyer. Quietly get all your personally important objects out of the house. All your important papers, sentimental stuff, anything that would be personally or financially hurtful for you to lose. Once you're ready, then file for divorce without telling her why. Keep that piece of information to yourself until it comes time to decide child support. Because that's the only time it will be important.