I Keep Getting Attached To .

How do I keep myself from getting attached with people?

One of two things, either you’re a bit immature for your age or you suffer from low self esteem . Everyone seeks approval from friends , colleagues , fellow college students of the opposite sex but one should know where to stop. You have to give them the impression that it won’t matter if they are there in your life or not. A bit of arrogance and attitude at times will go along way in helping get other’s respect. People have no respect for someone who is too nice or too clinging no matter how they treat him. Seek true friends who like you as you are , not because how you look or what you have .These are the friendships which are in the true sense of the word and will last. Also, don’t ‘try’ and be friends with someone . Friendship should happen naturally through common interests and goals and should happen informally .Don’t keep on chasing every second good looking girl that you see. Even the most good looking, rich and famous men cannot have any woman they want.Hope this helps

In an audition, how can I keep myself from getting attached to a specific role that I’m hoping for?

Thanks for the A2A.In my experience, you can’t. But that’s ok.I like getting attached to the role I’m reading for. It tells me I’m interested and excited in the way I need to be to do my best work. When I don’t feel attached, it tells me I might be better off walking away.The great thing about an audition is that, for that short time, the role is yours. From the moment you start prepping until you walk out of the room, you get to explore and make choices and own that character.Whether or not you get to keep doing that is up to someone else, so it’s not worth worrying about. Your job is to do your best work in the time you have. Fall in love with the character. Show the decision-makers what you would do with the opportunity. If they share your vision, you get to keep going. If not, at least you made the most of the time you had.

How can I stop getting attached to guys so quickly?

It is easy to not become attached to a single person if you adopt the "abundance mentality".What is the abundance mentality?The abundance mentality is carrying around the attitude that there will always be more. If I spoke to a very beautiful girl today, I know for a fact, that there are many other similar, if not more, attractive women out there I can talk to. By adjusting to this type of mindset, it is easy to not slip into a sort of obsession over specific people.In practical terms: if you want to stop getting attached to guys so quickly, then you have to live a type of reality that allows you to feel like you have many options. The more options you have, the less likely it is for you to obsess over one. And if this is becoming a pattern in your life, then perhaps there are changes in your life that can be made to allow you to not slip into this type of cause-and-effect in your life. Good luck!

How do I prevent myself from getting too attached to a girl?

The most satisfying relationships are usually built on equity and on a mutally rewarding balance of give and take. If one person has much stronger feelings than the other it throws off the balance of the relationship. Imbalanced relationships are not really good for anybody. The beloved one will have more power. They'll also feel pressure to act in ways they don't feel. The person who has greater feelings toward the other will be hurt a lot and will want things to happen that the beloved one doesn't want to do, can't do or won't do.  You can't fake love and caring. If there is too much imbalance the relationship won't grow and flourish.  As people have more experiene in relationships they will tend to avoid these situations. You might feel this yourself someday if you see in somebody's eyes feelings that you can't reciprocate. It is scary to be on either side of that. As the beloved, you don't want to deal with worrying about hurting the other person or putting the energy into pleasing them when you're not that interested. As the one who yearns for greater affection you might be tempted to get in as deep as possible in hopes the other person will come around. That is a typical rom-com premise, but it is a fairy-tale. If the feelings are too lopsided, you'll be insecure, feel anxiety and not be as attractive to the other person. Your beloved one will at some point bolt, and you will feel hurt. So, the solution--easier said than done--is to go slowly. Don't allow yourself to get too invested unless you can see that the person you're interested in has some degree of interest in you. Don't indulge yourself in fantasies of how things will be once you've turned them. Live in the present. Judge the budding relationship for what it is, not in terms of what you want it to be.  As you feel a mutual caring grow, then allow yourself to invest more into it.  It will be better for you, better for the other person, improve your chances at making the relationship work and make for a better relationship.This is no science though, so figure that any relationship involves some risk. Just know that a good relationship is like a tree. It takes a long time to mature, and you can't rush it.  So go for it, but just don't go too fast.

How can I prevent myself from getting too attached to someone?

It is a practice which you have to follow otherwise you will continue getting attached to people in your whole life.Practice NON ATTACHMENT.Being human one has no control over the feelings and attachments but differentiate,who is faking and who is really concerned about you.Not everyone who meet is you friend. Understand that you cannot please all and even if you try doing this you will disappoint yourself only.Try to focus on yourself more .Learn to make yourself a happy person first within yourself.Read good books on self discovery.Keep yourself busy.Be kind to others and to yourself.Not everyone needs to know all about you.Even in your hardest and lowest times,don’t disclose your problems to someone who is not concerned.Learn to do self analysis.Keep your expectations low.That is all!

How do I stop getting attached to people, places and things way too easily? Why do I get attached?

What you’re describing (getting attached to fictional characters or real people) sounds like me.Okay, basically you’re saying you like to make personal connections, which is what all humans want. It’s in your nature to be emotionally dependent and if you want to get all Freudian, it might stem from your childhood. I personally learned to be emotionally dependent/clingy/unstable from my mother who learned from her mother and so on and so on. Maybe you didn’t learn to be independent growing up. That explains why you’re looking for yourself in others and get so sad when they leave. You feel a sense of betrayal because they owe you to stick around— you’ve attached an idea, memory, intense feeling to them. Attachment isn’t something bad until it becomes harmful to your mental well-being and autonomy.In regards to how to stop becoming attached…I’m still figuring this out daily. Understand your circumstances, your decisions, your childhood, your insecurities, your fleeting emotions, and you’ll be even more self-aware. I emphasize “fleeting” because the people, characters, objects, places, etc. are always changing. You may want to latch onto everything, but it’s not healthy. You have to understand yourself more deeply so you won’t need emotional validation. There are countless blog posts and books on emotional intelligence to read. I mean the Internet literally has everything on it. IF you’re like me and tend to read online and have trouble applying change…do something in person. Go to therapy or join a Meetup group where you can find like-minded people to vent to. You’ll probably stumble across new people in these groups with more experience and advice. Meditate, hike, whatever to relax and listen to yourself. Most of all, go easy on yourself!When you feel like you’re learning something, don’t be afraid to connect with people again and if you overattach, hey, learn from that again and again. You will be working to better yourself every single day.The fact that you’re bringing this up as a concern and asking for advice means you’re self-aware. That’s great as you can really make a conscious effort to change your habits. Be kind to yourself and understand yourself.