Are all girls in their 20s so immature?
First, why are you still living at home if you're in your late 20s? You don't have to sleep with anyone you don't want to, nor do you have to have sex if you don't want to. But you ought to be out on your own by now. There are girls around who want a guy who's saving himself for his bride (I don't know of any but I've heard rumors). You'll just have to look harder and be patient because it is not a very common attitude anymore. I think you have to examine your own self, your own motivations. Are you still living at home merely because it gives you an excuse not to get physically involved with anyone? And you can be physically affectionate without getting slobbery and overly demonstrative--being too cold adn avoiding physical contact can mean there's more problems there then one can see. Usually after 2 years of dating someone steadily, you expect to be a little freer with each other physically, a little more affectionate with each other. And sex before marriage does not indicate "dirtbag"gedness. Someone can be a dirtbag and still be a virgin. Why don't you have any drive to move out of your parents' house? Afraid to have to live on your own, have to do for yourself, have to grow up and face all the aggravating mundane things you'd have to do if you were on your own. Don't blame the girls--they wanted to get more involved and you said no so they moved on.
Is there anything wrong with guys watching girls go by and rating them on their looks?
“Wrong”. That’s a fun word. In what sense is something “wrong”?Trigger alert (it’s fun to say that)It’s not illegal.Is it immoral? I suppose there are some religious types who would say so, but they’re a distinct minority in our society. If you were a member of one of these groups, you probably wouldn’t be asking the question.Is it disrespectful? Well, sometimes. It probably depends on how you do it. I’m guessing that if you had signs with “1.0” to “10.0” on them, and held them up as women passed, you might get a few snide remarks. You’d probably want to make sure you can run fast, too. Some of those women, or their friends might not take too kindly to your game.But… (and here’s where I get controversial) guys do this all the time. When a stunning woman walks by, the unthinking part of a man goes “whoa there!” He will check her out, just to make sure. When a homely woman walks by, a part of him says “nuh-uh”. And when an average-looking girl walks by, he’ll just notice. ’Cause she’s a woman, you know.Before you get all righteous on my ass, let me tell you that all of this is completely involuntary. We could not stop it if we tried. It is the way we are built, for good evolutionary reasons (yes, I acknowledge gay men, asexual men, etc. I’m talking about the vast majority of us). And it’s internal.The difference between a decent guy and a sleazebag is not that one ignores women he meets, or completely misses the difference in looks - it’s that he doesn’t act on that in a stupid, insensitive or mean way. He doesn’t cat-call. He doesn’t draw attention to it. He doesn’t demean the woman with his buddies.I���m married, and I like it that way. I know that looks aren’t everything. But I also know that they’re something, especially when that’s all the information you have to go on (in the situation the OP contemplates).I’ve got three daughters. I’m a guy. I know what they’re going to go through as they become women.Guys, don’t be ashamed of who you are. Just don’t be a jerk. Because then you’ll never get to date one of my daughters. And boy, will you be missing something.
What should I choose between a good looking/immature girl and a not good looking/mature girl?
You need to ask yourself what qualities are you looking for in a woman and are non-negotiable. I am not sure your age but this was very valuable for me especially in my late 20's after dating awhile. Going through this exercise helps one focus on what's truly important in a partner and it helps you see right away if the relationship has a chance or not. I would give anyone whether a guy or a lady the same advice since a wise person gave me the same advice a few years back.
Is it immature of me to be angry at a girl who played with me but didn't date me?
Sorry for going Anon but I don't want to answer more questions on relationships. Theres just too many and I'm really bored of them.I chose to answer this because ok.. One more for an aching love lorn heart!What you are feeling is often a part and parcel of growing up and understanding people, relationships and how to project your personality and intention effectively. This is a learning experience.When things don't go as per expectations we must see where we took the wrong turn.Your wrong turn was always being available for her. Knowing you're her back up guy and she will use you for everytime she falls out with her boyfriend.Now. I don't know why you did so.. Was it the fear of being alone? Of being left out?Your wrong turn was - respecting her desires and wishes without being aware of your own. Your need for commitment is a priority to you. I hope you can see that now.Now tell me. Why should she care about you. When you yourself don't care about yourself?Another thing to understand is that, all the while she was friends with you, you knew that she is rebounding from a break up. Do you realize your own ulterior motive to lend her your shoulder to cry on? Be clear next time. Either a person is a friend or somebody whom you want to pair up with romantically. And your actions and feelings should be in accordance with your motives.When you woo a girl. Do it with honesty and integrity. Be clear. And let her know what you feel right at the start. It's a bum deal to just hang on in the hope that she will reward you for all your support and start dating you. That is really desperate.She knew why she came to you and you knew why she came to you. You're quits.The anger you feel might be at yourself for not being in charge.
Girls, You keep choosing "Hot" guys who are immature. Why?
That is is very good observation. But then they will run right over to there best friend that she has known her whole life(who has pretty much been single his whole life) who is not that "hot" for some comfort. Then he is gonna feel obligated to do that so she will feel better and he is gonna try to get the courage to ask her out, but by the time he gets to that point, some "hot" asks her out, and she will go through that whole process again and again. I am not saying she dont deserve it, and i am not saying she does. She just need to pay attention to what is around her to where she can make it easier for herself to be happy and not go through that much pain. I know this because, I am usually that good friend that comforts my friends when something like this happens.
Why do I attract all the young immature girls, but the girls that Im attracted to...?
From a sexual attraction perspective- young girls are the most desirable of all groups on the planet. So, share with us a little of what you've got.
Girls, Is "innocence" from a guy seen as immature?
or do you like it? i'm feeling that i'm ready for a relationship because i want somebody to care about. i've never had a real one before (19 yrs old) but the problem is that i've noticed that most girls my age are more interested in the party guys. you know, the ones who drink every weekend, bend the rules, smoke, have sex, etc. i have nothing against those guys, because they are living life the way they want to. but it makes me wonder if girls really care about "innocence"..meaning, guys who don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. guys who are virgins. guys whose sense of humor is a little more G-rated, guys who just want to have a girl to care about and would treat her like a queen. i don't know. I've always been one of those guys but not with much success. makes me wonder if what i am isn't what most girls look for. Thoughts?
Why are only the wrong girls chasing me?
I'm a really young-looking 34-yr-old guy really hanging for a nice compatible gf? But why, why, why, are only the wrong girls chasing me. A customer, an ugly mom with four hyperactive disfunctional kids, has been sending me flowers and calling. A foxy but immature 19yr girl at work is really comming onto me. It never ends, why? Why aren't compatible girls chasing me?
Is it wrong for my boyfriend to think another girl is pretty?
I have been having alot of issues you with my boyfriend lately. We are both 19 years old and have been in a relationship for almost 4 years. I'm a pretty jelaous person and he knows that.He tells me that my jealousy is immature and I should just get over it. But jealousy is hard to control, he doesnt understand. So, is it wrong for him to tell me that he thinks other girls are pretty? By him telling me this I feel like there is something wrong with me..Shouldn't I be the only attractive one in his eyes?