Muslim brothers, how do I find peace?
I have finally completed the goal I always wanted to achieve, to stop masturbating and to stop watching pornography. But their is one thing that I think I can never accomplish, which is thinking about sex! Masturbating and pornography has messed up my mind so bad, that I can't stop thinking about it and I don't even know if I'm straight and I don't want to be gay because I know it is one of the most horrible sins in the Islamic religion! Please don't say anything bad about me my Muslim brothers and I hope all of you and Allah would forgive me, but right now, I have a very very bad/horrible feeling in my stomach because of my problems! Please help me find peace! I only want Muslims to answer this, and I don't want any other religions to help out! This is in the RAMADAN section, FOR MUSLIMS ONLY! I'm not insulting you guys, but please dont take part in this question.
My brother needs help making a ww1 costume for a party?
Uniforms though distinctive have not changed all that much. With a little bit of sewing and tweaking with paint etc any solid olive drab uniform purchased at Goodwill or Salvation Ar,my etc can be modified into a WW One 'Tommy Atkins' uniform. The hardest part might be finding a 'tin hat' but if you are creative you can actually make one from any ordinary hat and by spraying with metallic paint can make it into a Dough-boy hate. Go to any good WW One Sate and you will find photos to guide you. I would send links but my PC is screwed up. Peace//////\\\\\\\
I need help with this genre.?
A well-respected king invites a rival warlord to his palace to try to make peace. Over a sumptuous meal, the king's temper gets the best of him, and he argues with his guest. In a fit of rage he imprisons the warlord — an inexcusable offense against the code of honor. The warlord's brother, who had wanted peace, is forced to lay siege to the king's city. In the end, the king's own people, ashamed at his treachery and wanting to bring an end to the siege, revolt. They free the warlord and imprison the king instead. This plotline is an example of A. Romance B. Tragedy C. Satire D. Comedy
My brother raped me as a child, now my family wants to make peace. What should I do?
There is a significant lack of information here which I understand.First, this is your decision based on where you are right now. Anyone who tries to push the two of you back together after something like that is not doing it out of your best interest.They may make the offer to be the bridge if you wanted to explore healing that relationship but any more than that hints at a larger agenda. Dont do something you would otherwise be unwilling to do if it werent for the pressure.While my situation is different than yours I too suffered abuse from my family. I was well into my 20s before I realized that what I was keeping was more hurtful to myself than the other people.So, one day I had a fuck-it moment and said to hell with everything. I forgave everyone involved and let that shit go.Mind you, there is a difference between forgive and forget. Forgiveness is about your peace, not theirs. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. My mother went to her grave knowing I forgave her (which she didnt ask for) but never allowed her back into my life (which she did ask for.)My choice to keep her away wasn't based on much more than commonality. We were completely different people and wouldn't otherwise get together for any reason. I also couldn't trust her in ways she asked to be trusted so we were more cordial than anything else.I will close in suggesting a book called Boundaries by Henry Cloud. I hope it helps you as it did me.
Should I stay mad my brother for not co signing with me on a new car loan?
last wendesday I went to toyota dealership to get a new car out and they said i need a co signer because i dont have any credit so i called my big brother and he said he didnt want to so we argued now we havent spoken since is it ok for me to be even mad at him or not please help i am
I hate my brother. What do I do?
Be civil to him. Your job isn’t to act out your emotions but to behave responsibly with others in your life. That will be true for the rest of your life. When you are an adult and not living at home, you will have more control over the amount of time and ways in which you interact with your brother. For now, avoid conflict, talk with him calmly about issues, and calmly ask for help if something is truly a serious issue and you can’t manage to work it out with your brother.It’s very common for other siblings to “hate” their younger siblings, even when they admit to loving them. Frankly, it’s really a matter of growing up and gaining perspective. When you’re younger and more narcissistic than you hopefully will be as an adult, any annoyance can seem intolerable. However, siblings often become best friends or at least trusted confidants when they are adults. Don’t throw away the potential for a good relationship by making your relationship worse with him. He’ll have bad memories of you and might be less supportive when you really need him as an adult.You may also want to consider the effects of your behaviors on your parents. Parenting is hard. If one sibling “hates” another and behaves that way, it adds undue stress and concern for the parents. Instead of making big judgments about your brother, ask your parents for advice about how to get along with him better. Sometimes, the solution is to stay out of his way. At other times, asking for his help rather than making demands might work better. Asking parents to help you set up good boundaries with your brother might help too.If there is any abuse such as regular hitting, serious threats, name-calling, or other types of abuse, definitely ask for your parents to put an end to that. If they don’t, talk to your school counselor about how to get help with that situation. Nobody should get hit or intimidated incessantly. Family counseling, parenting classes, and other measures can help. Protection might be necessary as well. Nobody deserves to be abused.Beyond actual abuse, though, you need to learn how to work out situations with your brother to help you learn how to work them out with others in your life in the future. It’s important to learn to make decisions based on a perspective that isn’t just based on your emotions. Emotions are important, but they aren’t reflective of the entire situation. Do what gives the best long term result.
Should I make amends with my brother?
No matter what he did, there should be a level of forgiveness. It doesn't mean that you have to forgive him completely or trust him completely. If anything, you should forgive for the sake of yourself as well as for him. If has recognized and is willing to apologize for what he had done, then it's worth giving him another chance.
What should I do? My older brother is very controlling. I am an educated woman. We have not spoken since last year and my father wants to make peace between us. I know that he won't change but I also love my father.
You don’t have to be friends or accept each other’s values to make peace. Just be cordial and stay away from hot button issues in front of your father. So you father is at peace knowing that you can safely be left in a room together, but both of you know that you are cordial siblings working on making peace rather than accepting each other to be right.I’m assuming the reason you don’t speak is because your values don’t mesh: if there is a history of abuse (emotional or physical) then. safety is more important that your father’s desire for peace.