My boyfriend's mom hates me and she doesn't even know me?
Me and my boyfriend are both 19 year old college students and we both live with our parents. We have been together for almost 5 months. I met my boyfriend's mom a few weeks ago under rather unpleasant circumstances. We were hanging out in his room, making out and such, and then she got home. I thought about just coming out and saying hi but my boyfriend said we should wait until she left and I didn't give it much thought. All of a sudden she went knocking aggressively on my boyfriend's door asking him to come out, and then she said "you know what? The both of you should come out!" - when talking to me she went on and on yelling at me and pointing me with her finger about how I'm easy and I don't respect myself (which is not true at all) and then about how my parents didn't raise me well and she would've done a better job, and that's pretty much how it went, she disrespected me and said she had the right because I'd disrespected her and her home by being in her son's room. My boyfriend told her it wasn't her place to tell me what to do and what not to do, stuff like that I took the beating, didn't answer much and didn't see her again until yesterday. My boyfriend and I went and bought one beer for each and some chips and gummy bears, we sat on his car and just hung out and talked. A few hours later we took off from where we were to his home to pick up his mom and go pick up their dog from the vet. The moment she sees me she starts yelling, we both get out of the car and she and his dad get in and take off. She comes back and is pissed because the car smells like food and beer and then she told him, "you've been out of control since you're with THIS woman" - he told her to leave me out of it because I had nothing to do, she told me she hadnt yelled at him in years, and told him he was late To pick her up (when he was actually early) and made him take me home in a cab. Two times I've seen this woman and two times she's mistreated me horribly. I'm a decent person, I have good grades, am pretty polite, I don't drink much and I never do drugs or such, I am no slut or anything of the like, but she doesn't even sit and talk to me, she doesn't even care for getting to know me, she just judges me. What should I do? Is this going to go on for as long as I date this guy? (whom I actually think I'm pretty serious with) is there any way I could convince her to even listen to me and get to know me? Please help!
Why does my boyfriend's mom hate me?
Hate is probably too strong a word. Maternal love is deeply rooted.I’ve been married for 40 years this year and my wife has never been convinced that my mother likes her. My mother doesn’t come from an expressive warm and fuzzy family, my wife does. My mother doesn’t express love well or openly.I’ll assume that you have no publicly known or rumored evil past that she’s judging you on.She’s afraid of your presence. She’s worried for her son, she wants the best for him, she doesn’t know you well enough to trust you not to hurt or use him, she’s afraid that he’ll one day be more in love with you than with her. Perhaps you’re taking his focus away from his family or his studies. Anything he fails at will probably be blamed on the relationship with you, after all he was a perfect son until he met you.All very natural and all expressions of her love for her son. If you’re in it for the long haul then make sure he doesn’t ignore his family life, better yet get yourself included in his family events. Blend in, stay calm, the soft sell is better than loud or brash. Look her in the eye when you talk to her. Ask to see baby pictures of him, show interest in his family life. A million small things will eventually show her that she can trust you with her son’s happiness.She’s a mom, she may never completely trust you, she may never really love you, but hopefully she will eventually like you forty years from now.
My boyfriends mother hates me?
Let me give you some personal advice. Reading your question made me angry because it sparked memories of when I went through what your going through. You need to end this disrespect NOW. She is that mother in law from hell that doesn't want to let go her "precious baby boy" so she will put you through hell and back to try to get rid of you. She is a bully and in no way do you have to take this. Treat her EXACTLY like she's treating you! Don't dare sit and do nothing while this woman walks all over you like a piece of garbage. She's looking at you like your not good enough for her son. One day she will regret what she's doing if you and him decide to have kids because she will have to kiss your *** to see that baby. When I had enough of my mother in laws bs I cursed her out like no tomorrow and refused her visitation for my son. That straightened her out quick. She was at MY mercy. And your boyfriend needs to be sticking up for you to that ***** of a mother he has. Assert and stand up for yourself!!
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