How can I overcome my nervousness?
Thanks for A2A.Try to read the whole answer.You said, "There is 99% chances that she will ignore me because..." It means there is still 1% chance remaining. This 1% chance is sufficient for you to boost up your confidence. If you really like her then don't sit back and just watch her from corner of your eyes. Go and talk to her in candid and normal manner just like the way you talk with your mates. She studies in your college so don't be shy to talk to her. Try one day, go with a reason to initiate the conversation.Before talking to her keep these things in your mind:Clean yourself, wash your hair, shave your beard or can keep stubble, brush your teeth.Wear a simple dress like blue or black jeans, shirt etc. Avoid unwashed and sweaty shirts. Wear branded shoes or floaters.Apply little and good quality perfume.Don't look like swaggy or too stylish. Keep everything simple and sober just like in below picture.Don't act anything stupid and creepy. Don't compliment cheaply. Do not let her know directly that you like her because it is your first meeting, and you are talking to her for a particular reason. Do not ask her number directly. Try to just give her little hints.Keep in mind, don't come too close to her or try to touch her in any way. Not even in friendly gesture. While talking to her do not look at your phone frequently.Maintain appropriate eye contact. Don't stare too much or ignore her.Learn few english words which you think can be required in your conversation.Don't act like a fool and sound too much desperate. Keep a kind smile on your face. Do not talk to her unnecessarily if she is not showing any interest.Make her feel comfortable and try if you can make her laugh. Do not abuse or say anything vulgar. Do not act like a nerdy or champu kind of boy.If you keep these things in your mind you will look like confident and just talk to her in plain and comfortable manner. Don't be nervous or overconfident. Don't make a fool out of you. Behave in dignified manner and respect her. Don't stare or look at her body parts or try to check her out. Simply treat her like your colleague/companion or just an another human being. Compliment her in smart manner. Like once I complimented a girl, 'Someone is looking cute today' and she smiled back. If she is interested you will come to know about it and if she is not you will come to know about it also. Remember: First impression is the last impression.All the best.
How can I overcome nervousness?
Nervousness: This is a common behavior in a person. The only thing this is the person who overcomes this becomes a Winner. This is my personal assumption that nervousness comes from negativeness we carry. For example:1.) We fear of height. But if we will see we are having a fear of falling. We feel what if we fall?2.) When we go to give speech. We feel nervous. But once we start giving the speech in flow. You will realise that your speech was fine and you are done.Similarly there are other situation which makes us feel nervous. I guess following thing should be in mind once you are doing something.1.) Don't put unrealistic expectation from yourself.2.) Don't think too much of result. Always try to give your best. Let the person on the other side decide. You should prepare well and just leave for the person to judge.3.) Always try to think positive. Try to bring positive of some situation.4.) Take a deep breath and try to calm down.5.) Try to change your perspective of what you see and the way you see.6.) Know your strengths.7.)One more thing don't afraid of failing. 8.) Prepare if possible.and the last thing will be people don’t think about you and what you do that much really.
How do I help my son overcome nervousness during tests?
Oh, this one's a good one! You know, there's one little thing that happens to everybody that feel stressful during exam or tests. They meet a thief. Yup, you heard me right. Our brains have prefrontal cortex which is responsible for decision making, thinking and rationalizing. We use it all the time but here's the thing: When you're feeling stressful this part of the brain gets hijacked by the amygdala or sometimes called reptillian brain.The thief. It's everything that we don't want to feel during tests: stress, nervousnss, adrenaline and such. When your son is going to the test your brain literally is sending him signals to fight or flight. No wonder he feels nervous when he has a test...That's a nature's way of telling him that something is dangerous out there, that these things can hurt, so logically following it would mean that to tell your child that this is okay and it's not dangerous would be a first step. I in your place would simply talk it through with him. What are his fears? what is he afraid of? Is he afraid of failing? ask him what's the worst thing that can happen and then find a solution to that. Usually a good hour spent talking it through does the thing. The most important thing is to make him realize that it's not dangerous, that everything's okay and that whatever happens you will give him your support. :)What son could fear a simple or difficult test if he has all the support that he needs to have? He wouldn't even care about the outcome of the test and as off as it might sound, because of this his results would even be better.
I need help overcoming the fear of germs from my dog?
I just recovered from Mysophobia (Germaphobia), and I recently got a dog. At first I was fine, but after a few months, I saw that she licked herself Everywhere. I now get nervous about letting her lick me and petting her. I used to not wash my hands after wards but now I do. I am also nervous about when I walk her. What gets me is when she gets too close to my leg and her lady dog parts brush up against my legs. I have to change pants immediately now. I am Nervous about getting something from there. I don't know what to do. I wan't to keep her, but that means over coming my fears. Any help would be appreciated.
How do I overcome my nervousness when I am playing piano in a competition, contest, or festival?
The truth is there is nothing you can do before a performance at the last minute. The nervousness is taken care of in how well you prepare. The more secure you know a piece the less nervous anxiety you will have. Nervousness occurs because of a lack of confidence in ones playing. I'm sure you and many others (i have myself) experienced this - prior to a performance you worry about the part that you messed up in practice or the section you could never get right. Then you try to psych yourself up so you play it well.... Unfortunately that doesn't work. you have to spend your time at the piano wisely. Learn consciously. Always tell yourself places to jump to in the event of a memory slip. Remind yourself of what key you are playing. Memorize fingerings, sequential patterns, harmonic progressions. The more you know about the piece, the more secure you will be and the less nervousness you will experience. You will always be a little bit nervous - so eat a banana before you hit the stage. Bananas have enzymes that help relax your nerves. All this envisioning stuff.... 99% audience thinking... it doesn't work.... Your preparation months ahead of time is what you need. It is not a quick fix 10 minutes before your performance... By then it is too late. Spend the practice time before the performance preparing yourself by doing as much slow practice as possible. Play things hands separate. Score study so you know the music completely. Playing through a piece won't work either. Never close you book and "test" the memory. You need to keep the music in front of you, memorizing everything and when you think you have it memorized, do it again. Try hands separate memory. Trust me on this. None of my students have memory mistakes or feel nervous on stage. They are always prepared and play beautifully every time. This is the same preparation that I do.
How do I overcome my anxiety, nervousness or fear when I talk?
First of all, it's okay to feel nervous sometimes. But nervousness should not overcome your talent or knowledge. If you can think well, then speaking it out well should be made a habit. We feel nervous due to many reasons but there is always a way to overcome it. While talking just think you are putting your opinion or thought of mind in front of somebody. Don't think about whether they will appreciate your opinion or not. Start appreciating yourself first, and the world will clap with you. When you have to say something, just say it. There is no need to feel nervous while one talks because no one in this world is perfect. You can first start communication sessions within your family or friends to raise your confidence and gradually you will be more comfortable to talk to other people also. All the best.
How can I overcome nervousness during group discussions?
Ok,so you get nervous while you're in group discussion . It's completely natural to get nervous sometimes,though we should desist nervousness to become our weak or negative point. To answer your question I would be forthright and explicit.Basic cause of nervousness in group discussion:A very basic cause of getting nervous in GD is not having much knowledge about the given topic . People who tend to read less are often the one who gets more nervous during GD . Why?They dont have enough gathering of knowledge about a particular topic that is being discussed. Because they dont know much about the topic they try to think while their peers infer their points and get through GD.Since,GD is all about being impromptu,time plays an important role. You might get only 1-2 minutes to make an impression on assessors. If you keep thinking in those minute,its obvious that you would be nervous and your GD would be fucked!Okay,now you know why people get nervous. How can you overcome nervousness?Before I discuss some of the key points that will help you overcoming your nervousness,I'd like to share one of my favourite quote."Great pleasure in life is doing what people say you can't do"So never say never. Keep trying untill you overcome your nervousness. Its easy. You just have to put in some effort.You have to replace Nervousness with CONFIDENCE!Stop being dubious. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Read as much as possible. When you start to read more ,you'd notice a sudden change in yourself. This is the only way to overcome nervousness.After reading ,you would have enough knowledge about a topic.You dont have to think 'what to say' in GD because all the points about a particular topic are already clear in your mind. Your just have to articulate and infer those points.Since you have read much about various topics ,you know that what ever you are saying is 100% percent genuine and not just perfunctory facts.Reading magzines,newspaper,books will give you immense confidence. Watching news on Al-jazeera is also a fine way to gather knowledge.Conclusion:In a nutshell I can tell you ReadSpeak with confidence about knowledge that you have gathered by readingHave attitude while speaking in GD.You could definitely crack any GD ,keeping in mind ,what all has been said above. I hope this helps. Thanks.
How can I overcome nervousness while having exams and competitions?
Sometimes you just have to allow yourself to have a small "panic" moment and go from there. When I was much younger I was chosen to sing a solo for a huge public appearance and I coped by making my hands lie flat against my body but later learned I looked very scared and tense so I learned new ways to adapt. Don't try to take complete control of your body - let your breathing be as natural as possible and allow yourself to hyperventilate a little so you get over the first rush of nervousness. Don't fight with your natural expression of being nervous - taking exams or being interviewed are probably things that will occur from time to time and you need to take them in stride. Almost everyone has these feelings so you are not alone and the person(s) in charge are aware of your feelings. If you can, get a normal night's sleep beforehand and have something to eat so your basic needs are met before you stress out your body and mind - be yourself - study if needed or do your research well before you need the information so you are processing a known quantity and not cramming information into your brain that you have not seen before or thought about. Arrive on time or before time so you alleviate the rushed feeling of being late. Try to relax and accept the experience as a natural event. Afterwards, do something you enjoy - take a walk, but an ice cream cone, go to the book store, have a cup of coffee - it is over and you have passed through the event.