Is life depressing after high school?
I left high school about 6 months ago to go to college and to be honest, life hasn't been the same since. I've lost so many friends and find it hard to make friends in college as most people in my course live locally and have done for their whole lives and stick to their tight friend groups excluding outsiders like me. You also feel lonely sometimes and for me its like I'm not living my own life at some points. It just feels so strange being in such a different routine than what you have been in for your whole life! When I started college it felt like my life had been screwed and nothing would be the same again. And six months on I'm still not sure if I made the right decision... I hope that whatever you choose you'll be happy. Good luck!
My step daughter is making bad choices! Any advice!?
Both my wife and myself live with my 20 year old step daughter! She quit college away from home to move back with the promise she would go back to school this summer! Now she says she doesn't know what she wants to do! She work's part time for a minimum wage paying job and the rest of the time she is partying with a bad crowd who drinks and smokes pot! All minors! Sometimes she does not even come home! Whenever anyone tries to talk to her, she starts shouting and starts having a tantrum, saying we treat her like a child! I am getting her a much better paying job and now she tell's me she can't pass a drug test! I am so angry at her! I snapped at her this weekend and now she is going to stay with her father this week! She acts like a little brat! She is getting out of control! She has no respect for her mother and I am just about ready to lay my cards down with her! Give her an altermadem! Don't get me wrong, she is a good kid and I love her very much! It just hurts me !
I am 25, not yet settled and depressed about my career. I have written a lot of competitive exams and failed in all the exams. What should I do?
Sadly… This is life. My mom always tells me that Life isnt a golden platter. Everyone has a bad phase in life and this is just your bad phase. the way it came, it’ll go as well.Let me tell you my story. A bachelor and Masters Degree from a Top B School in India. Second Masters degree from Abroad. I am still jobless. Everyday I see my friends as compared to whom I am way much smarter working in really good firms in Mumbai and Delhi. When I wake up and I see people getting dressed and leaving for Office, I feel someone is piercing my chest with a very sharp knife. But I am helpless. I have given nearly 150 job applications, 20 interviews but still at the last moment some shit happens and I lose it.When this Wasn’t enough, the Love of my life turned out to be a hopeless cheating loser. When I somehow managed to cope with these two sorrows, I lost a Family Member.Hence, I sometimes feel like screaming at God for doing so bad with me for no fault of mine. I believe that every human has an emotional threshold, which once crossed, we fall apart.This is life mate. Everywhere u see you will find injustice and unfairity but we have to live with it. I trust myself that academically I was Smart, hardworking and today the only problem is luck isn’t on my side. Its the same to you. Its just your bad phase and everything is gonna pass soon and you’ll see success in your career. You are just 25, you have a long way to go. To hell with all the negative minded people in your life. Don’t be very hard on yourself. Just have a little more patience. Trust me when I say this - “ONE DAY, EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY.”
Depressed, Don't feel human anymore. Please give me advice.?
The critical thing to do about this is to get at least one other person in this world on your side. And I mean in the real world, out there with you. So here's what you do. Copy, word for word, everything you just said here. Write it all down on a piece of paper. Keep it with you. And find someone. Find a doctor, maybe a teacher, maybe someone at church. Find somebody you know and trust and show them this. Talk to them about it. Open up. That's the first step--breaking the really bad habit you've got there of keeping secrets and isolating yourself. Once you've found an adult you can trust to be your friend and have your back on this....the rest becomes tolerable. Not easy, but doable. Because there is more that you need to do. Once you find an ally, you two need to work on getting you to see a doctor. I won't lie--the medications for serious depression are far from perfect. There's too many side effects and way too much trial and error in the system. It's not on the same planet as an exact science. But it beats doing nothing right now. And you have to do something positive that keeps you safe, keeps you from bleeding and/or thinking of dying. And then, once you have an ally and once you are seeing a doctor or therapist....you really need to have an escape plan. Not just to get out from under your parents--though it's clear they're not helping. Everything you've said so far about your hometown tells me it's not helping. Being excluded by your high school buddies doesn't help. Not being able to find work doesn't help. Having problems with a place to live doesn't help. This is where having an ally comes in. He or she can help you get some ideas, get you to planning on what you want to do with your live--even if it just means getting your own money somehow, and a place of your own to live. But again, this is not the kind of stuff people can help you with on this internet. Your ally has to be someone who shows up and is there with you. I know, the first part is the hardest part, but it's also the most necessary. Hang in there and fight this thing. The only way life won't ever get better is if you don't give it a chance to. You will only lose if you quit. Seriously. You're young and there's nowhere to go but up.
I feel like I'm slowly sinking into depression. Help? ENCOURAGEMENT & ADVICE WOULD BE NICE!?
Dear Meg, Smile. You're smart. You made a very good choice. What would you want with a stupid pig who indulges in Phone sex!! You lost a loser. Congratulations. Now forget him and get past it so you will be emotionally ready for that simply super guy coming into your life just around the corner. How do I know? Because you are so nice; But I hate to tell you, too nice. That person who said all the bad things to you, you should have lost them before the second nasty remark was made, and left them lost from now on. A second loser. Now, with two losers in a row, I wonder if you think you deserve only losers, tolerate them, attract them? Take my word, you are nice,very intelligent, interesting, and I can tell that from just reading a couple paragraphs you wrote. It's true even jerks like that ex leave a vacancy of time and space when you lose them, but keep busy, and it will pass. Perhaps a little volunteer work would yield appreciation that would salve an undeserved bruised ego. If you don't have a dog, get one, and don't neglect it's walks. Dog people are nice people, and you might meet Mr. Special walking his dog, or bowling, or skating, or something active. The library is good too. Use the library computers and remark to the most interesting guy there about the long waiting time. Who knows-- I think you can pull yourself out of this depression-- UNLESS-- If you have thoughts about suicide, Get Help Now. This is an illness, and needs a doctor. It is called a permenant solution to a temporary problem, and that is the best you can say for it. My nephew got depressed over temporary problems, In a moment, his parents lost their only son, the dozens of young people at his funeral lost a friend, I, and many of our relatives lost this very special caring young man we loved so much. He ended his fathers line. There are many of us who will always wonder if there was anything we could have done, or any way we could have known. His mother will always have this aching pain in her heart, and empty arms that will never hold the grandchildren she would have doted on. His reason was Not Good Enough. I don't really believe you are ill, but you know for sure. If you are, do another smart thing. Get help now. Otherwise , quit moping, get cracking , headed toward a fantastic future. Your questions really touched me, and I care what happens to you. I will pray for you. All the best.
I'm an only child and I can't have a dog...i feel totally left out and am depressed and crying all the time..?
The person W. who said you should grow up was not nice. That is a very bad answer. A cat can be a good idea. Is there someone in the neighborhood whose dog you can walk? Ask around, don't get discouraged. It would be safer to get attached to that dog than one at the shelter. If you are crying alot, this isn't good. Please talk to your guidance counselor at school. Teenagers can have depression problems and depression problems must be addressed. I'm so sorry you can't have a dog. Do you have a grandparent who can help you out somehow? Do you have a best friend at school you can talk to? How about a favorite teacher? Tell the teacher about your depression and how hard you try in school and volunteer at the shelter. So sorry to hear about your situation. Wish I could help more. Crying a lot isn't good. Be persistent with the guidance counselor or favorite teacher. One of them will listen. Good luck.