I think my best friend is in love with me? (both girls)?
Sorry this might be kinda long.. Alright so first of all I just want to start off by saying that I am 100% accepting of the LGBT community and I sorta think that I might be bi myself. Anyway, so we are both 15 year old girls and I have a feeling that my best friend (J) might think of me as more than a friend. We have a group of about 8 people but it is clear that we are closest with each other than anyone else in our group. J kind of touches me a lot when she talks to me. Now I know that its normal for girls our age to act like that but it definitely seems more than coincidental. For example, when we will be talking she will grab my hand and lace her fingers into mine, or hold my arm. When we are sitting next to each other she practically sits on top of me, and will push her body up against mine or rest her head on my shoulder. When we are walking down the street she will either link arms with me or hold onto my arm. Also she does flirt with me. She always jokes about being in love with me and wanting to get married and sleep with me. When we text she will end conversations with a little "<3" sign almost always and tells me on a daily basis that she loves me and would die without me. Can someone please tell me if this is just normal behavior or if you think she's interested in me as more than a friend? Also some suggestions of how to find out discretely without like making her think that I'm suspicious. I really don't want to make things awkward...
I love my best friend, and we are both guys. What should I do?
Thanks to everyone for all the supportive, insightful, flattering and imaginative answers! What an amazing group of people you all are, and its reassuring to know that it's not just me that has had/has this problem. I really appreciate your help, and I guess I chose your answer Bret to be the best answer because it kind of summarised what everyone else was saying, as well as your own advice. There's a huge risk, and I'm nowhere near ready yet, but I love him more than anything, and I always will. I will have to tell him, but for now I can just make some progress, and the Too Gay Game sounds like a very good idea. I have more questions about stuff, and obviously as I get older I will learn more about myself, but if any one of you want to friend me, or follow my questions or whatever (sorry I'm very new to Y!Answers) it would be great. Thanks again everybody.
My best friend told me he's in love with me?
The most awkward situation I have ever been put it...We have been friends since 7th grade (11th graders now) and we are really really close. He told me over the phone saying "I want you to be more than a buddy." Then says "I don't exactly know what love is, but I think I'm trapped in it with you. I guess what I'm saying is...I love you more than a person would generally love a friend." I never thought a close friend would develop romantic feelings for me. I never looked at him like that ever. I see us as partners in crime, the Batman and Robin type relationship but not boyfriend and girlfriend. He's always hugging me and grabbing my hands and kissing my cheeks so I guess I should have caught a clue? I didn't know what to say so I just laughed and he did too and we kinda drifted off on to another topic. It's saddening me because I really do love him BUT only as a friend or a brother. I don't want to hurt anybody. Please help me :'(
My best friend... Just said he's in love with me.... :/?
oh man, been there and can even remember the nausea i felt while he was telling me. i was shocked and gutted (and a little horrified). when i said i just wanted to be friends, he said he was cool with that...but he wasn't. the incident was always with us and we cld never regain our prior grroove. we began to do less and less together until we finally drifted apart completely. i loved him as a friend and it really sucked. it's probably true that you won't be as close as before simply because it is hard for a friendship to sustain a disappointment/rejection like that (for him) or the constant questioning of motives and feelings (for you). if it helps, part of our downfall was my discomfort in sharing with him as much as I had previously simply b/c i knew what perspective he was looking at me from. i worried about hurting his feelings or being insensitive, like talking about guys i dated or falling in love or being sad after being betrayed or ignored by someone, etc. to the dumb extent that i wldn't even see a movie with him if it involved someone falling in love and being rejected. and that is the one thing i wld have done differently and suggest to you: don't edit your words or actions but treat him and your friendship exactly as it was before. if your behaviour changes, the friendship changes. i thought i was doing the right thing, the considerate thing, in stepping back a bit, but all that did was emphasize how very much everything had changed between us. and ask him point-blank if he thinks there is hope for your friendship or if he was on a kamikaze mission and wanted you as a gf or not at all. Good luck!
My best friend loves me. I don't love him. What should I do?
“Love and Friendship”, both the words have their own importance. Love gives us pain and frienship gives us peace. Love is unconditional but it's a need. Friendship is forever but it's a Joy. Love is eternal and friendship too. But in love you think about the other person and forget youself, but in frienship you love the other person not by forgetting youself. Frienship makes you stronger and loves makes you weaker(Exception are always there). There is a very thin line between love and friendship.Both the words are very powerful. If u say , “you love him as a friend” , that means you love yourself first and then your friend.If u say , “ you have fallen in love with him”, that means you love him first by forgetting yourself. He’s more important than your life.You got to understand this, “Everything that falls, get broken”. Without a heartbreak you can't say , that you have been in love ever.Now just take time, and think. Do you love him or not.??Is he your friend??OrIs he your lover??OrIs he your soulmate??As of now. By looking at your question. I think you are puzzled in your own thoughts.Solution to this is : Get distinct from your Bestfriend. Stop texting him for few days. You would get to know the real truth of yours. Just listen to your heart. Imagine that he is not your friend anymore. You would get to know , the feeling you are going through is love or it's just a friendship.If you are clear on this, that he is just your Bestfriend! Nothing more than that. Then why are you so much concerned about him.If you think , that he is your Bestfriend than just go to him and tell everything straight forward.Why are you hesitating ??If he is your Bestfriend , he would totally understand your situation. Because friendship is more important that love. If he is your true friend, he would choose friendship over love.Don't get conscious. Be brave enough to face it. Wether it's a breakup or rejection. (In terms of frienship).P.S - Friendship and love are like worshipping a god. Needs more devotion and patience. Don't destroy it. It takes million of days to build it and a second to destroy it.All the best.