I care too much about what others think of me?
I also used to care too much about what other people thought about me,I never showed it though. Eventually, I realized that it's pointless. I now don't give a damn what other people say and it's making me a happier person. Think about it. When you say something negative to/about someone you're usually merely saying your opinion. You also don't probably care that much about what you said or maybe you didn't even mean it. When other people say negative things about you, they probably don't care that much about what they say so you shouldn't care either. Moreover, people will always talk about everyone. Some will say nice things, others will say bad tings, So just take the positive comments and ignore the rest. ;)
I care too much about what others think of me?
You need to understand that they are just thoughts. They are not facts. Thats why it is what they think about you and not what they know about you. Ignore them and dont let it bother because that is all it is, thoughts. Let them think what they will about you. No one knows you like you know yourself. Don't say yes all the time either. People tend to think that people who always say yes have no backbones and walk all over them. Dont let anyone take advantage of you. You don't have to be mean about it but let know nicely like thanks but ill pass, raincheck ? I used to let everything bother me. Then I realized that most people that say negative things about others are insecure about themselves. They do that to put you donw so they can feel good about themselves. Everyone has their own trials and tribulations. They just dont put it out there and discuss it with everyone. Try to relax your probably young and you shouldnt let these things stress you like that. Take care and I hope you get over this.
I care way too much about what others think of me?
You know what? People said bad things about Jesus Christ behind his back. Some of them to his face too. If people will bad mouth HIM, they'll badmouth anybody. There's nothing you can do about it. There are things you can control in life and things you can't, and this is one of the things you can't control. You CAN control your reaction to how others treat you, but it isn't easy. Just be good to other people, no matter what. Some people will like you for it, and others won't, and that's their choice. You can choose other kind people to be your friends. As for being super shy and quiet, I suggest you find some activity at school, a sport or club, year book staff or newspaper staff, whatever it is you find interesting, and join it. Work hard at doing well. You'll get to know people and make new friends, and maybe you won't be so shy anymore.
Why do we care so much about what others think?
Some people care so much about what others think that they are almost crippled by it. I know one woman who once stopped brushing her hair, because another woman was looking at her and she thought the woman thought she was paying too much attention to her hair, so she just let it stay messy. I know people who cannot even pick out clothes unless someone is there to tell them if they are nice or not. I think it comes from a very deep insecurity, these people want to please others so badly they will bend over backwards to do so. Personally, I do not care what others think. I do my own thing, and if someone doesn't like me, or what I am wearing, or whatever, so be it. They way I see it, they are only one person, there are plenty of other people in the world. And for the second question - socially, people only have the power that you give them. if you don't talk to a person because someone told you that you would be a "geek" or whatever for talking to them, it just shows weakness on your part. If you have your own mind, nobody can take that power over you.
Why do I care so much about what others think of me? How can I stop?
Everyone experiences what you’re feeling now. That thing that resides in your head, a creature which is too keen to what other people are saying. That creature who is restless just to know how they do in the eyes of the many.It’s normal to care about what other people say. To get rid of what is normal could just end up in a perpetual frustration.However, I believe you are referring to “approval addiction” and not just merely thinking of what other people think of you. You think of what other people think of you because you look forward for their permission.You can’t continue what you’re doing right now without knowing what other people say, right? It doesn’t change when they say something bad about you, something negative as an insult. You want to hear those insult. how you long for those.There are a lot of ways to shut the mind that craves for approval addiction, but here’s what I’ve tried and found effective:Be honest to yourself about what you are actually feeling. Do you really worry about what other people say? Or do you just come up with an excuse to stop what the important thing that you’re doing? What do you feel?Understand why you feel the way you feel. Inquire more of those feelings. Try to understand their source.Think of the worst thing that could happen. So what if they told you that you’re a horrible person, what would come after that? Would they laugh? So what if they laughed, what would come after that?Isn’t it interesting? So you were laughed at, other people are saying a lot of things about you, isn’t it interesting how they spend their precious time just for you? You must be very important.“Shake it off.” Three words is all you need. Try to sing that out, and it will greatly change your mood.After that, do something greater. Continue what you’re doing and be better.What I’ve got from approval addiction is that people have the need to be understood. But the fact is clear: NO ONE CAN FULLY UNDERSTAND US. ISN’T THAT INTERESTING?