I Trusted Myself Instead A Stranger .

Can you trust a stranger?

Yes, No and Maybe.True story. My brother, nephew, myself and my 3 sons were backpacking on Isle Royale a few years ago. We stumbled across a gentleman who was hiking alone and had slipped, fell and took a terrible tumble down a rock strewn ridge line. In our group of 6 were 4 Eagle Scouts so we knew a bit of emergency first aide. He’d injured his ankle and we thought it might be broken (as it turns out it was - based on a thank you note we received). So we splinted it and helped him back up the ridge to the trail. It was about 5 miles to the nearest point that he could even attempt to summons any help. We rigged up a crutch for him and had him attempt to make a go of it. He could not. We made a stretcher out of our hiking staves (a reason to NOT use those treking poles that are so popular now a days) and started to carry him back to that point - a total of 4 miles out of our way. About 2 miles in we met another group that was going that way. They took him the rest of the way and left our staves at the ranger station for us when we finished our trip. The rangers asked for our names and addresses. (we’d not given him ours) Turns out that they provided him with our addresses and we received some nice thank you notes. He now has some metal in his ankle and his hiking days are over and he has a permanent gimp in his stride. BBUUTT he is alive.You make your own determination.

How can I stop myself from trusting strangers too much?

You must first understand this - there's a part of you that relies firmly on logic, and another that relies purely on faith. One which seeks proof, and another which simply believes.As an adult, you must learn to strike a balance between the two.Your faith in humankind is what led you to give money to that man. Your sense of empathy relies on your faith, and leads you to believe that people are inherently good, and that their pain can be lessened through your actions.Now, ask yourself - is this a good thing?If I were you, I'd say YES.While logic is a wonderful tool for making decisions, faith is what keeps us going. Faith is the reason we have religion, faith is the reason we invest in interpersonal relationships, faith is the reason we have Hope.You need to focus less on how people will perceive you and more on how you perceive yourself. Did giving that man your money make you feel happy? Did you get a good night's sleep knowing you lessened someone's burden? Did you help him because his story sounded credible, or because you genuinely wanted to help?If your answer is yes, then don't stop doing it. That man's story might be a scam, but it's always the thought that counts. The world needs more kindness - tap into your intrinsic faith and be a welcome change.However, do be mindful at all times - remember that there will always be people who will try to take undue advantage of you, and will even manipulate you for their own gain. Sometimes you'll see through their lies, and sometimes you won't. If you make peace with that fact, and resolve to do good nonetheless, you'll do fine.

How much should I trust a stranger? How nice should I be? How bad can humans be?

I don't like saying it bud humans can be pretty bad. If you consider how we come into the world- with our needs being met automatically. We get food and attention and we cry and get some more. It is ALL about us. As we get older and start to socialize with others we have to be taught all of the qualities that make us nice people. The 3 year old sees a toy and he takes it. He doesn't get that it is not his. He has to learn boundaries. Then he learns to share. Everything from compassion to respect, loyalty, honesty….all of that is learned behavior. If you don't get that education, or don't want to accept it, you can grow into a selfish adult. All about you means nothing about anyone else matters.Now, all that being said, you can still meet someone for the first time and have good feelings about it. You can be nice and cordial but allow some experience to happen between you before you decide to put real trust in that person. Experience means observing what they do not just what they say. There will be all kinds of red flags popping up in your mind as you observe behavior you dont like. That will tell you if you want to invest more time into this person or move on. And no, you can't change people.Most people are actually very nice and can be trusted to some extent. Think about someone whos family you know. How they do things will give you a look into the person you are with.Try to treat people the way you want to be treated- with kindness and courtesy. When they then ask to borrow money, say no. Would you ask that of a complete stranger? Protect yourself. Thats all!

Have you ever trusted a stranger too much?

Yes, I have,A warning that this may be triggering.He and I had just met, and he seemed like a cool guy, we hung out that day and hung out with my boyfriend at the time.My bf went to his best friends house and I hung out with this emo guy I had just met longer, we went for a walk and passed by his apartment building. He said he wanted to go inside for a glass of water and I was thirsty too so I went with him. He showed me his place and we drank water. and said he wanted to show me something.so he showed his guitar. and we played a game just hung out that game was 21 questions when he asked me what I thought about him, I told him that he was cute, had nice hair and I enjoyed our time together. So I asked the same to which he told me he thought I was fat but pretty and looked kissable. He told me that he believed I wanted him. Then I said I should probably get home and he grabbed me and kissed me. I pushed him away and said that I should go again.He said he would tell my boyfriend we had sex if I didn’t sleep with him since he knew I wanted to because of the kiss I pushed him from. This was a delusion. Then he threatened to kill himself if I left. So I didn’t leave. and then 20 minutes later he kissed me again and I said I should go, again. He held me down and kissed me more.At that moment I disassociated, I could only see what was happening. I was elsewhere in my mind hoping it would be over soon. As someone who had grown up with the belief that “this was how you showed someone, you cared” due to certain members of my family. This kind of scenario was sure to happen more than once in my life and that was how I dealt with it. The body reacted, the fluids flowed. But my mind was gone.He fell asleep on me, and I came back to my body. I grabbed my clothes and he woke up. He asked what I was doing, I said going to go to the washroom.I went to the washroom, got dressed, heard him snore. and quietly left.Cried all the way home.My bf was not home.. But I poured a scalding hot bath, and scrubbed and soaked, and scrubbed as well as cried.I told him what happened when he got home. Good thing that guy never came around the house again..

When and why have you ever trusted a complete stranger?

I am a CA student currently doing my articleship, we are often sent to clients place for audit. I was supposed to go to one such place yesterday. Though I've already been there with my sir once ,my super smart brain didn't remember a thing I had no clue where it was whatsoever. I just knew that it's someplace in the Industrial Area but with complete confidence on the Google Maps the feminist (coz usually only guys are sent to those areas and I felt equal for once) in me said yes to sir when he asked if I'd go.I reach the Area entrance only to find my phone dead(I know what you're thinking ,how careless of me right).Industrial Area is this huge concrete jungles with no scent of houses nereby whatsoever only huge industries and people working there and staying in quaters (mostly people from other states) I could go back but I dint want to,it's just a place I've to search in broad day light, what if I were tiny little girl I am not a fattu I said to myself.I managed to find a decent looking uncle and asked for directions he obviously had no idea, right behind was a stranger he looked scary to be honest, like a kannada movie villain.He offered to show me the way. Though my brain was screaming a big no out loud, I decided to follow him. As I walk I am realising it's not the same route which I've gone before, it's all new, I am scared now and no much people around,all bad thoughts in my head, I can run, scream etc etc what else i think to myself ..And I am about to ask him to stop and there!!.I see a familiar building , the one I was looking for, I thanked him and entered the place with some familiar faces..Later I came to know that the person had taken me from longer route so that I get more shade, less dust and a route away from all the tapori people around.I expected him to be a rapist and he turned out to be decent human being.So moral-don't judge anyone by looks..Never..Aaand please charge your phone it's necessary most of the times

Should I trust strangers in my life?

Not all the time ………..but trusting a correct person is not a wrong thing………The important thing is that you should know that he/she is a correct person to keep trust on…In my life i had come across such a person…….who is my best companion till date…….And he is the one with whom i feel more comfortable to share my thoughts and almost everything that is happening in my life ……….I would like to share my experience with you……….One of the unforgettable day in my life…… we started our friendship through the social media(what’s app)……though i am a kind of fearful and more respectful daughter to parents, I will not text to strangers……….Even though if I get any….. i would block them off……So at one day , I got a message from the unknown number saying that “Hi…….It’s me Arun….” So i replied that……”Sorry!! you are up to the wrong person”…..So this is how I started my friendship with the unknown person(who became the most special best friend now) ……but we can’t say that we can trust everyone…………I trusted him a lot because of the way he approached and his words made me think so……And not even once he made me think that I was wrong on trusting him…..he was very genuine and true to me not only in words but also in every moment that we spent together….. i.e.,both in good and bad times……We are been friends for more than 18 months we haven’t met each other till now………we chat almost everyday and i will feel that something is missing if I don’t get a call from him even for one day….Its all about trust that we have on people…..Actually saying………..I thank god for making us friends and for making us connected……..So I got the one who is supportive in nature and a best guider to my life…..Not everyone will get such a friend………:)To be very honest I haven’t thought that I will be giving such an importance to a stranger in my life and none can replace his place in my heart……I hope that I had answered the question…………happy that i had shared my thoughts for the first time in Quora……..:)

How can I start trusting myself again?

To trust yourself, you must know yourself. Many people do not trust themselves because they are stranger to themselves. They admire others that they failed to have time for themselves.Give yourself the opportunity to achieve something, no matter how small. Build small successes so that you’ll be able to stretch your comfort zone and discover the potentialities that you have. The more success you create for yourself, the more that you’ll trust yourself.When you fail, be willing to forgive yourself. Yes, just like you forgive people around you. Don’t dwell on your failures, but on small successes that you create for yourself. In fact, I suggest that you fail forward faster because that’s how you’ll learn. And trust that you’ll recover for you will.Further reading: Youer Than You