Why do some asian parents think that being a handyman/tradesman is a waste of time?
My father is starting to really piss me off. So I decided I wanted to put a couple of shelves around my bedroom, and mount my television on the wall etc. So I bought a drill set on sale, and picked up some free wood (craigslist) as well as some carpentry stuff like wood finishes, sandpaper etc. When I get home my father starts to b*tch about how I'm wasting my life/time with this stuff and I should focus on more important things ie: just paying someone else to do it or buying a tv stand. It pisses me off to the bone, because although I have a full time career and working 9 hours a day behind a computer (yet again another stupid thing my parents forced on me) I really want to live my dream/pursue being a handyman...even if it's just as a weekend hobby. Honestly, even when I was in high school I wanted to take woodwork/metalwork/mechanics as courses, but my father didn't allow it and kept forcing me to take sciences/computer related courses. So now that I've followed pretty much everything they have said to me, I only hope that I get this one thing...just for me, I really want to become a weekend handyman.
My mom DOES NOT want me to be a vet? Help?
The first thing I'd say is "Mom, you know that vet school is actually harder to get into than medical school, right?" And it's true. Then, I'd go and speak with the school counselor about the power struggle that you are having with your mother. She may recommend that you go talk to a therapist so that these feelings don't fester and turn into massive resentment. It will help you be a healthier person later in life. If mom is refusing to drive you to volunteer, contact a few other rescue organizations and ask if there is anyone there that you can carpool with. If mom is concerned about you getting bit, then have her speak with your supervisor about the risk. As far as brother being "smarter", if you really want to get into vet school, your grades are going to have to be nearly perfect. Like I said, it's very very difficult to get into vet school in the US. You are going to need amazing grades to get into an excellent college so that you can get into a good vet school. Pulling a 3.8 at USC and then getting into Cornell should shut her up long enough to prove that you are just as capable as your brother, and even better since far fewer people are actually accepted into vet programs. + Actually, vets get a DVM if they are going to practice, not a PhD. And podiatry training/practice is pretty intense if you specialize in surgery and have a trauma call schedule. My doctor friends are all jealous of vets. Instead of having 50% overhead and having to hire several people to deal with coding and insurance, vets get money as the patient leaves the office AND they can mark up whatever they want. A doctor may be able to only bill insurance $8 for a bandage, but a vet can literally bill you $50 - and get it.
My parents don't support anything that I do?
It's mostly my mother who disagrees with everything that I do, my father is a little more supportive of the things I do but I don't like with him, I live with my mom. BOTH of my parents don't support my decision to go to Veterinary School, but for different reasons. My mother tells me I can't make it and I'm not smart enough to get into any vet school and I should probably just stick to something easy but at the same time she would rather see me be a nurse. And my dad on the other hand, doesnt think I should be one because he doesn't like animals that much, especially if they're not dogs...weird, I know. He wants me to be an Architect because I'm in advanced Art and have won awards but that's not something I want to make a career out of as much as I love art. It's just a hobby, Why won't they let me be what I want to be? If I tell my mother I want to move back to California (where we're originally from) for college and so I can spend time with my family that I never get to see. she tells me no. If i say I want to go to the beach she says humans shouldn't be in the water. shes the complete opposite of me and its frustrating to have to live with her. I got a ASPCA shirt from Forever21 and have PETA stickers on my school binder and shes against that too. She's even against my psychologist because when I got sexually assaulted in January she told me I wasn't allowed to tell anyone especially my dad, but my psychologist told me to do so anyway, I'll be 18 soon I should make my own decisions. Everything I do down to the color on my nails isn't good enough for her. Even for Christmas I spent $100 of my own money to buy her stuff that I know shes been dying to by but she made me go and return it all because of the amount I spent on her, as lame as this sounds that hurt my feelings, I just wanted to do something nice for her since she calls me selfish all the time. Why? How can i make her support something I do and be proud of me? I want 2011 to be so much better! wayyy better! HELP? :) Thanks for answering<3