So, I want to move out of my boyfriend's house and live on my own. I still love him and I don't want to split up but I feel like I'm choking here and I don't want my moving out to seem like I'm no longer interested in our relationship. Advice?
The real issue is not the effect of a move-out on your boyfriend but WHY you feel you are choking there.Is it the physical apartment/house which is causing you distress? Are you at a point where you need your privacy and just aren’t ready to share all aspects of your life? Do you need some physical separation to better understand either yourself or the relationship? Perhaps both? Is there something else going on?Since you aren’t married and don’t mention being engaged, the logical thing would be to have a calm talk with him to explain why you are planning to move. While everyone hates the old “It’s not you, it’s me.” if that is the case, explain to him that you feel that you need time to mature, grow, prepare for a life with him in the future, whatever.I would point out that I think you’d be making a smart move. Years ago I read that people stop maturing at the point of marriage - they often stay the same emotional age. Now that was decades ago and I don’t think it holds as true now but I do think that it can take longer to become the person you might become otherwise.You know the reasons for feeling that you are choking while living with him. You have the option of moving out, you’re not married to this man. You have no contract. Do you think he will view your move-out as a break-up? Apparently so which is why you asked the question.I suggest you and a friend look at other places where you could live so that you know what your options are. That way if the talk doesn’t go as you would like, you have a safe fallback immediately because he may tell you to leave.You’re going to have to tell him that you feel you actually aren’t ready to be living with someone or at least someone you love and with whom you are intimately involved. You will have to tell him that you still want to be his girlfriend and you have to do that before he can present an argument or a negative reaction.I assume that you moved into his apartment. Did you replace a roommate? Is there going to be a financial cost to him if you move out? Is that going to make him angrier than the fact of YOU moving?Did you move in with him too soon? Were you caught up in the romance of it all? If so, tell him that you need time to grow as a person so that you have more to bring to the relationship. Tell him you love him and want to continue to date and to hang out together.If you stay when you feel you are choking, how will you feel in 5 years if you stay?
I want to go to my boyfriend's house but i can't, help!?
this saturday is my boyfriend's sister's pre-wedding backyard party. we've been together for 2 years & 2 months already. i want to go but there are reasons why i can't: - parents don't know about my boyfriend - we're both only 15. - parents dont really trust me so they ask me if my cousin is going with me too (sometimes the only way i'll get to go anywhere) i can't just lie & say that i'm going to a friend's house, or else my cousin would have to go with me. my cousin wouldn't want to go to my boyfriend's house anyways. & even if she did, i wouldn't wanna take her & have her feel kinda left out. i do have a friend that lives a couple blocks away from him, but idk how that would help.. just a thought. i really want to go, & he'll be really upset if i don't bc i always couldn't go to his family parties. i've never been to his house before bc this is ALWAYS a problem! ): if you guys could help me out or give me any ideas on how to get there or show up, that would ve awesomeee! :D please and thank you!!
My mom wont let me go to my boyfriends house.?
To start, I'm 21 and would never have had sex at a young age. I've always been "the good girl" and my parents gave me all the freedom in the world because I never broke their trust. I think your mother is being over protective. She thinks that by letting you go over there, you're going to have sex. From my perspective, I think that's a little insane. If you've never given her a reason not to trust you, she should trust you and let you go. If I'd had a bf at 15, my mom would have had no problem letting me spend time at my bfs house because she trusted me. If you've been a good kid, I'd suggest sitting your mom down and explaining things in a mature fashion. Tell her that you don't think it's fair that she doesn't trust you since you've never given her reason to suspect anything. Tell her you know she's worried about you having sex, but tell her you're not even ready for that step yet. Tell her that there would be someone there at ll times- even have her call his parents or grandpa to make sure adult supervision is around. If you have given her reason to mistrust you in the past, then I think you're just SOL.
How to ask my mom if I can go to my boyfriends house?
His parents will be there. I want to go meet his family and hang out. I don't like to date someone and their family have no idea who I am or what im like. I'm not having sex until marriage and neither is he. I'm 15. I want to ask my mom but I'm kind of scared. I did get in trouble last year for sneaking out with a boy. But I haven't done anything like that before or since. I haven't done anything o loose trust since then. Also advice on meeting his family? I want to make a good impression.
My mom won't let me go to my boyfriends house ?
me and my bf have been together for a little over three months, and he's invited me over his house hundredds of times, but I keep having to say no because of my mom. Last night I was in the car with him and his mom and she legit invited me over to "get a movie order pizza " blah blah and told my bf he could invite some other people too. She even said she would talk to my mom if she needed to. I Told my mom all of this and she still said no; she won't even talk to his mom about it! It's getting wayyy too rediccc and idk what to do or say to let me go over! Please helpp.
How to ask my mom to go to my boyfriends house?
Just ask her when you are confortable with it. If you want her to trust you then tell her to call your bf's mom so that his mom can tell your mom that you guys will be supervised and that nothing bad will happen. Also give your mom your bf house number so you can tell her that you can call this number just in case. If you mom isn't strict then she may be okay with it but if shes strict then there's nothing much you can do b/c nobody likes their daughter going to the boyfriends house.
I'm nervous to go to my boyfriends house?
it is normal because it sounds like your just like me, you like to impress your boyfriend and scared to "mess up" or look dumb. but my best advice is for the first time, eat before you go over there, and when he asks if you wanna eat dinner, politely say "oh im sorry, i ate before i came over, i didn't expect for you guys to offer me dinner" and then just hang out with him/and his family while they eat. after the first time over there you'll be completley comfortable going over there again. just have fun and try to look at it as you guys are just hangin out again at his house like you did when you were friends. it'll be fun. i promise:)
How to convince my parents to let me go to my boyfriends house?
So my parents are pretty strict and won't let me go to my boyfriends house. I want to try to convince them to let me, but I don't know how to make the right argument. They're pretty protective and I get why they wouldn't want me going to his house (I'm 16, he's 15), but they shouldn't be worried. I'm not going to do drugs or drink or have sex. I'm really shy with like physical affection so there's no way I'll be doing anything sexual soon, but my parents don't really know me so they probably think we'll have sex. They won't even let me go to a friends house when there isn't a parent there and I don't see why! They have no reason not to trust me and I'm responsible. Well actually as far as they know they have no reason not to trust me, but I've had to lie to them every time I've hung out with my friends and boyfriend because they wouldn't let me do anything otherwise! They're letting me go halfway around the world for a school trip for 11 days, but they won't let me go 10 minutes down the road to hang out alone with my best friend. That's ridiculous, right? So how do I persuade them to be more lenient and not be so protective? I've brought this up with my mom before but she just shut me down and said it wasn't up for discussion. I almost want to tell them of all the times I've lied to them about going to my friends houses so they see that nothing bad happened, but then they wouldn't let me go ANYWHERE. I think they'd be surprised that I've already been to my boyfriends house twice and that nothing bad happened there either.