Me and my twin sister have different fathers?
twins CAN have different dads. only if they are fraternal twins... (dizogitic) but she should treat you the same. is she half white? if you were my daughters i would treat the one who wasnt getting in trouble differently too.
My Mom just contacted me to say she is leaving my father after 40 years. I am in disbelief and don't know what to do, please help?
That is tough. I understand how disruptions are especially hard, and this one is quite a change to everyones life. As for your "horrible hope", that is in no way a guarantee that they will stay together... I've know several who were totally unsympathetic to the plight of their former partner (my sister in law is one example -- she died horribly, starting with lung and eventually brain cancer, with not a word from her ex). You are an adult and will just have to learn to deal with it. Your "routines" will eventually get modified and you will adapt to the new status quo. Many thousands of others with AS survived this, and so will you. Hang in there.
Is it normal for first time parents to want be 'stingy' with the baby?
Goodness yes, its natural to be "stingy" with your new baby!!! You are waiting so long to met the baby that you want to get to know him or her!! You won't be able to get enough at first. Tell your family that eventually you want to take them up on their offer (there will be time when you will need a break or date night), but that you will have to play it by ear. In the meantime, if they are insistant, make sure you do allow time to visit with family with the baby that will make your family feel "special". If you need to shop or run errands, plan it during nap time and let family watch the baby. If mama wants to sleep in, have a family member come over to relieve her in the morning. Once they feel you are letting them bond with the new baby, they will back off. This will pass, trust me. Everyone will get over the issue when the newness wears off and eventually, you will love having free baby-sitters!!
Why would homeless people's family allow them to be homeless?
A large number of homeless people are mentally ill or brain damaged and their families cannot deal with them any longer. My own father went homeless after being released from prison for pedophelia, having sexually molested me, my step sister, and a child he was babysitting (these are the ones known, there are probably many others). The family could not deal with him any longer. He was brain damaged from repeated concussions from sports and several car accidents. It's hard to know what caused what. Did he drive so crazy and have bad judgment from brain damage, or did he get brain damage from driving fast and poorly? But it released his inhibitions and allowed him to prey on the innocent.Pedophelia was not the only manifestation of brain damage. He was also irrational and quick to anger. He borrowed or stole things from the family. He couldn't keep a job. He pushed the family towards the poorhouse.It was an attempt to stabilize the family that led to my dad being kicked out of the family home. He was likely 30 by then, living with his parents. He had been lovingly called the black sheep until his conviction. After that we just did not talk about him at all. It's as if we were part of the family by adoption rather than birth. The family kept tabs on where he was and gave him some money occasionally. He eventually was employed enough to rent a tiny studio apartment and buy a beat up bicycle. Rather employed long enough in a union job to get unemployment whenever he was laid off. He lived in that apartment over 10 years until he died of an illness rather suddenly. He never did admit to having molested me, only saying that he did not remember. Perhaps that is the brain damage, but I don't know how a person could forget a thing like that.It's painful to have a family member who is homeless. When people ask about your family, you either have to lie or become a victim of their pity. It's kind of horrifying, but the family was being ripped limb from limb while he was present so this is the best alternative. It is a relief that he is no longer around.
I'm 25. My parents do not want me to leave their home. I am an engineer with a good job. What should I do?
Clearly your parents love you a lot. They may be afraid to let you go. You are their baby after all. I think they may need some reassurance that you're still going to be part of their lives.As a mother I can kind of see where they're coming from. I say kind of because I have an 11 year old son and the thought of him moving out when he gets older terrifies me however I hope when the time comes I don't get nutty and insist he stay.If I were in your situation I would talk to them again about this. Let them know that you love them and will miss them. Reassure them that you will still be part of their lives like a weekly dinner and maybe some special bonding time with just you and your dad.I'm not going to lie to you, this is going to be difficult for them weather you move now or wait for a year or until you get married. It sucks but remember this, they love you. Do you really think your dad is going to cut you out if his life or your mom is going to die of a broken heart? They will need time to adjust for sure, they will eventually though.If you feel the time is right for you to be on your own you're definitely ready. Don't let them make you feel guilty for wanting your freedom. Your parents may not be crazy about the change but they will adjust.I wish you all the best in your new place!♡
Will my parents be disappointed if I choose to stay single for the rest of my life?
I have seen what relationships are like with my other siblings and a few of my friends and that is not what I want. I am 18 and am moving away for college and I have no interest in being with anyone or dating but would my parents be disappointed about that. They are so involved in my life and I mean eventually they would realize I don't date and ask why.