Is it okay not to invite several relatives to my wedding because they treated me badly in the past and still do (they will never change)?
Weddings, births, deaths, graduations etc, are social occasions, and they are subject to all of the rules of social etiquette. Referring to a wedding day as being exclusively the bride's special day is erroneous, the most obvious example of it being ridiculous is that the occasion should be equally special to the groom.Weddings are social events which bring together two families, to recognize and support individual members of each family, who are now beginning their lives together.Within every family, every person gets their feelings hurt from time to time; but there is still a bond and connection that endures between family members that deserves recognition, and an opportunity for righting past wrongs, during major life events.If you choose to exclude certain people, you will hurt and embarrass other members of your immediate family, and you will give your fiance's extended family a glimpse of your self centered, self rightous, stubborn and unforgiving nature. In effect, you will be making it easy for them to dislike and reject you.If you feel entitled to participate in all of the social events and customs which are traditional with wedding celebrations, then you have an obligation to adhere to all of these traditions yourself.Try and take a long term view. Various individuals, with long standing relationships, are what families consist of. Some members are close, and some touch base only during the major events listed above. Do you want to exclude, permanently, certain individuals, and in turn probably be excluded yourself, by them, and other family members who will support them, who feel you shouldn't have excluded them?A wedding and celebrations of births, are celebrations of new beginnings. Be gracious, be kind, be forgiving, and put aside your petty grudges over past hurts and move forward.Obviously, from reading the other responses, there are many young women selfishly believe that being a bride creates some sort of immunity for them from acting rudely towards others. Sorry young ladies, it doesn't.Once your special day has ended, the memory of your inconsiderate behavior towards others, if you choose to exclude them, will linger on. It's doubtful that it will have a positive long term effect on your life anytime in the future.
Should I invite my ex(father of my child) to my wedding?
I have a beautiful 2 year old girl with my ex. We loved each other but it just didn't work out. We still have a great friendship as we co parent our daughter together along with my wonderful fiance. The two of them respect and like each other. Our whole relationship is drama free with one exception: his new girlfriend. She is loud, obnoxious and his entire family hates her. In the time we were together I became close with his family and vice versa. He has 2 children from his last marriage whom I adore. The girl is going to be my flower girl with holding hands with her younger sister(my daughter) down the aisle. His son is the ring bearer. His sister is a bridesmaid. His other siblings and parents will definitely be in attendance. The last time I dropped my daughter off to spend the week with her father his new girlfriend made a snide remark about how she knew he wasn't going to my wedding. I am sure he would want to see his 3 children in their first wedding. Should I invite him? I really don't want her there though. If I do invite him how can I tell him not to bring her? Again we are really great friends and have been through so much together I would want him there. There are no left over feelings or anything just two friends. Who have love for each other and 3 innocent children. Please help.
Only family member not in wedding party?
I am not sure if I am legit in feeling very hurt and left out by my brother in-law and my soon to be sister inlaw. I have been married to my husband for almost a year, and now his brother is getting married. His brother and his fiancé have asked every single brother, sister, sister in-law, and brother in-laws to be in the wedding party (including my husband obviously) but didn't ask me to do anything. In fact, they have never even discussed their wedding with me. They have not asked me to do anything and while the entire family was sent an invite and information on the wedding rehearsal and dinner, I didn't receive one. They also have decided not to have me sit at the head table with the rest of the siblings, even though I would be the only one left to make the head table complete with all the siblings and their husbands or wives (or girlfriends/boyfriends) My brother in-law has always been decent to me, but I have never really been sure what my soon to be sister-in law (his fiancé) thought of me. I feel like to should take this rather personally.. Or am I totally reading into this too much? Can anyone offer their take on this, even with the limited knowledge you have of our lives, etc? Thanks
I have a dysfunctional family and don't know who to invite to my wedding!?
Some of my family has "disowned" me (that's a pretty harsh word but can't think of a better one). i want to show them that i am the better person and send everyone an invite but i am worried that they will show up and cause a scene. they "disowned" me because of a controversy between my father and me and it really wasn't any of their business to get into in the first place. so my question really is should i invite them or not? any input will be appreciated but i don't need anyone telling me to apologize because it isn't my fault that this has happened. thank you
My sister's boyfriend in our family wedding photos?
Can't you take some photos with only blood relatives and some photos with significant others? You mentioned your other 2 siblings are married, aren't you concerned about when they get divorced and their ex-spouses are in all your photos? Take a group shot with everybody, then a shot with just the siblings, then one with just siblings and your parents. You could even do a just married siblings group shot. You don't have to make a big deal out of it, just do a bunch of random combinations. Edit: It may be negative, but it is EXACTLY how your sister will see it: why would you allow the significant others of your married siblings, but not her significant other? As far as she concerned, you think she will OBVIOUSLY break up with this guy, but you trust your other siblings to stay with their partners. That's going to hurt her deeply. Just go with a bunch of different combinations and let the photographer direct things, just be sure to let him or her know that you want one with just your siblings without partners and one with just your siblings and the 3 married partners, but don't make a big deal about it if you don't want to hurt her.
Should I invite my sister to my courthouse wedding?
My fiancé and I's budget is tighter than tight, and a huge wedding doesn't really matter to either of us. So, instead of going all out, we're just going to have a courthouse wedding and then a small get-together afterwards. I was going to invite my mom, and that's all that's decided. His mom is in another state, and can't make it, and we just want it to be family. We would invite some friends to come along, but my best friend is moving to Texas (we live in KS) next week and the 'wedding' will be mid-Feburary, so she can't make it either. And he just moved from Florida last year so he doesn't have many close friends. We need two witnesses, and the only person is coming so far. My sister....ugh. My sister is a drunk. She has an 8 year old daughter though, and she's my everything. If I could, I would adopt her and take her out of the horrible world her mother has put her into. If I invite my sister, her boyfriend will come too. There's no way around it. They're living together and they're pretty much a package deal (a f-ed up package deal). And there's no way my father is coming. He hates everything about my fiancé and I'm not even going to tell him until after the wedding is over. Should I invite my sister? I used to like her, but lately, she's just too much. But she's still my sister....so I don't know.