If someone hates you back, should you hate them back to them?
Speak your mind!!.Hatred is solved by just having a person to person talk, i can prove this with an incident happened to us few months back.Story goes like this,We were planning to extend our house upwards and the work started. The work included all the demolition with, cement, sand ,bricks,dust and noise. You can imagine how the neighbors would react when something is happening near by affecting their peace . Thankfully since we were residing there for more than 10 years people understood and adjusted those.But there was a person who is residing backside of our house and right from the start she was opposing us for building the structure because a part of common side wall is shared between we both and we built on a half of it which she didn’t claiming her own reasons.(Please assume both sides of the wall to be backsides of each house)(Source:New twist on traditional terrace)Also we got a message from them that they’ll take action legally for building on the common wall and get a stay order. Things remained tensed for few days but We didn’t budge for those threatening and continued as per the plan. we just tried to reason them and solve the issue which was ended in vain.Thankfully the other person in that house called us for a talk and unexpectedly things were so smooth ,they welcomed us and gave some snacks and discussed the issue.We couldn’t believe as problem was solved right there like it never happened.So what i am trying to say here is that when people hate each other it is highly advisable to talk the issue than to respond with hate which never ends well.For those who don’t want to initiate a conversation guess the following would be suggested ;)Keep quiet!!!I cannot remember when or where i saw this meme in quora, i just saved a copy of it but you can relate it to this question just replace the word ‘ignore’ with ‘Hate’.You can see that the person who keeps his peace of mind is relaxed and the other one is actually reacting on him for being so. It doesn’t cost much to record and observe than to react instantaneously. You don’t gain anything except high BP, tension, etc. by hating back.Hate is followed by anger which just brings unnecessary trouble hindering your ability to judge and respond, leading you on your own path of downward spiral.Thus the choice is yoursspeak the problem orkeep quiet orhate till you wish.(Note: Please consider only the words in the meme and not from whom it is coming from ,posted it just for an understanding.)
How can you tell if someone hates you?
I think unless you are in school then you would easily know if somone hated you. By the way they talk to you, treat you, never return your call, avoid you etc etc etc But if still in school well I guess there really isnt a good way to tell apart from the above as sometimes peeps when young pretend to hate someone meaning they really like them but are scared of rejection from both a potential gf/b and just a friend
Should I hate someone for not loving me back?
Warning: please sit down, cover your head with your arms and use a pillow to dodge any further attacks, because this reality check is going to hit you harder than Brendon Urie hits those high notes.Are you ready for it? I'm going to use some big words, so please proceed with caution.IF YOU HATE SOMEBODY FOR NOT LOVING YOU BACK, YOU DIDN'T LOVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE.(I've warned you about the big words…)Love can be a tricky game, I know-actually, I don't. Humans will most likely colonize Mars before I get a boyfriend.However, trust me when I say that if you're able to feel hate towards the person who used to be the apple of your eyes, in such a short time, then…it wasn't love in the first place.If you cared for them enough to feel the strongest emotion a human can feel, and were ready for a romantic relationship, then why wouldn't you be ready for a friendship?Probably because you were blinded by the idea of them and the way you feel, you weren't actually seeing reality.Okay, I think that you can pick up your pillow now; you'll most likely need it for some punching- but before doing so, ask yourself: “is this really worth it?”
Why should I not care if someone hates me?
I completely understand you. It happened to me many times. i was nice to other people but they disliked me for no reason. However the LAw of Retaliation shouldn't be applied here. If they hate you for no reason, then it's their problem. It's not your fault and you can't please everyone. There will always be people who will not accept you. But it doesn't mean that you need to care about them. I advice you not to, because there's no use doing it. If you hate them back, you'll feel bad and you'll be desolated. It will make you be sad and angry with them and probable you won't be able to think of anythinh else while hating someone. So don't think about it. If they don't like it, then something's wrong with them, not with you. All you need to do in this case it being happy and staying positibe around them. I remember that once there was a guy who didn't likfe me and always made fun of me for no reason. I was offended and felt really terrible but I didn't pay him back the same way. Instead I helped him with his homework and some other things. After that we became great friends.Surely it doesn't work that way with everyone but don't worry about it. Just be yourself, enjoy your life and never think about such silly things. You're fine and happy and these are the only things which matter to you.
She hates me. How do I win her back?
Give her some time , if you have already tried to talk to her then there is no use - You are making her dislike you even more. You should just text her for the LAST TIME explain and apologize and tell her that you are not going try to contact her further because you know that it makes her feel uncomfortable and Don't forget to say goodbye bye, all the best in the end , make her believe that it's your last attempt tell her that you are sorry but you did everything possible to make things okay . DON'T TRY TO CONTACT HER NOW , THIS IS YOUR LAST BID.After this, you can't do anything except wait or move on. Don't think about the uncertainty of the future just start learning to be happy without her.Trust me she will come back on her own if she has to , don't wait for her and make her feel that your life moves on with or without her.
Have you experienced apologizing and taking back the hateful words that you sent to him/her? Was it hard lowering your pride to someone who you have hate?
well, to apologize it’s so difficult, that’s why we call who apologize as bravei hurt a lot of people and i’m not proud of that but the only right thing i did is the apologizingi remember that time when i had to apologize to my dad about something i did, it was so easy because i wasn’t feel guilty, feeling guilty who make us feel that difficult and who makes us humans tooso, it’s the right thing to apologize when you made a mistake whatever you feel about it, do not hesitate to make things right
How to make someone that hates you leave you alone?
Don't talk to her unless she asks you a simple question, which in that case respond with a simple answer. Chances are, you probably hate her back for hating you so try not to show it and if you guys can't become friends, at least try to be neutral towards each other.
What should I do if someone hates me? We were friends in college. He is mean and unreasonable, but he is also hardworking, knows how to get things done and I think he’s compassionate. After a power struggle in a club, we developed a mutual hatred.
This is a story about buddha I read once. Maybe it will help you.Buddha was walking into the city market one day and near the city entrance an old bitter man was sitting on a box glaring at Buddha, who carried a bright smile on his face. At the sight of him this old man started cursing Buddha up and down, left right and center, telling him how pretentious he was, how much better he thought he was and how he did nothing worthy of the air he breathed in this world. But Buddha simply smiled and kept on walking to the market to get what he needed.The Next day Buddha returned to the market and once again that old man was there, this time his cursing intensified, screaming and yelling at Buddha as he walked by, cursing his mother, cursing his father and everyone else in his life.This went on for the rest of the week and finally as the Buddha was leaving the market the man came up to him, as his curiousity had simply gotten the best of him.“Buddha, every day you come here smiling and every day I curse your name, I curse your family and everything you believe in” the old man says ” but every day you enter this city with a smile knowing that I await you with my harsh tongue, and everyday you leave through the same entrance with that same smile. I know by speaking to you now that you are not deaf, why do you keep on smiling while I do nothing but scream the worst things I can think of to your face?”Buddha, with the same smile still on his face looks at the old man and asks “If I were to bring you a gift tomorrow morning all wrapped up in a beautiful box would you accept it?” to which the old man replies “Absolutely not, I would take nothing from the likes of you!”. “Ah ha” the Buddha replies “Well if I were to offer you this gift and you were to refuse then who would this gift belong to?”. “It would still belong to you of course” answers the old man. “And so the same goes with your anger, when I choose not to accept your gift of anger , does it not then remain your own?”