My wife acts arrogant and like i irritate and annoy her?
I'm devastated. I feel like my marriage is a role reversal. I act like the emotional wife and she acts like an arrogant "don't care" dude...rolling her eyes, hands in pockets, look of "shut up" written on her face. I'm sure you will say "buck up man" and I feel like I just need to cut my emotions off so I stop getting hurt. She gets mad at me for everything I say and do...she misunderstands me and thinks the worst, I have tried to communicate with her and have even reads tons of articles on the subject. No, I'm not perfect, but I work on myself and give 100 percent to my marriage. Any time I try to discuss things with her she gets defensive like I'm attacking her or trying to act like she did something wrong. Its like dealing with a rebellious teenager. She is so cold and heartless with me and maybe I'm just too needy. All I want is a happy, healthy, secure marriage and all I feel is insecure. I'm a great guy and I feel she resents me. We had issues in our past and it's like I feel I'm a thorn in her side now. I've never cheated on her, never would, but I feel like the girl here and don't know what to do! I'm at a point now where I can't hurt anymore, don't want divorce, but unsure of how to handle this with her since she acts like she doesn't have to prove her feelings and I'm just a pain in the ***. It kills me that it feels my wife doesn't like me or wants to be around me. She praises me when I work on the house or do something for her. Help!!!!
How do I learn not to be annoyed with everything my wife does? I know I can't change her, so how do I change me?
Good question! It’s not easy to change ourselves, but it’s really worth it. Just don’t expect your wife to notice it right away: it takes time.How you change yourself is difficult for me to explain, but basically it involves making new habits.Do you love her? Does she ever do anything special for you? Then when you find yourself getting irked at her - remind yourself of why you love her, and the good things she’s done for you.My husband is just about perfect. So, today he tossed one of my purses from the step onto the floor and told me about it from upstairs….which was annoying because I couldn’t hear him clearly. Also because he didn’t take any of his stuff off the steps, lol!But compared to his dedication to my happiness, and his decades-long assumption that he’d have to help provide for my sister’s retirement as well as our own - that occasional selfish impulse is hard to stay angry at. Especially since nearly all the time he complains to me, he’s right. Now that’s really annoying! But again, when I complain to him he considers my objections seriously, and tries to change to improve himself…..Our feelings are just not reasonable all the time. One of the other ways to make your life happier is to realize when a feeling you have is childish - and decide NOT to act on it.
Do you find it annoying when unmarried people claim their partner as hubby or wifey, stating that they don’t need a piece of paper to say they are married? Married folks, what are your thoughts?
I answered similarly to a different question. I guess I am one of the few that does get annoyed. I am not annoyed because I think they’re living in sin or because I believe their relationship is unlawful in some way, I get annoyed because they haven’t taken that extra step to call each other husband and wife.I know girls who started referring to their SO as husband, then when asked “Oh! When did you get married? I didn’t know” they then backtrack and say,“Well we might as well be” If you feel that you might as well be, what is stopping you from getting that “piece of paper?”My husband and I were together for 5 yrs before getting engaged, we were living as a married couple for 3 of those years and not once did I refer to him as husband. There is a certain level of commitment not achieved when you’re just living together.What if I had a formal education but didn’t pass the final classes to receive my doctorate? That degree is just a piece of paper anyhow, but without it I couldn’t call myself a Dr. I wouldn’t be able to have my own practice. Would it be fair to the other Drs who actually earned that piece of paper? I don’t see much of a difference, though I know others will disagree with me.If you want to be husband and wife so badly, and it’s nothing more than a “piece of paper” then why not just get married? People love to say marriage is no big deal and that it doesn’t mean anything, if that were the case there wouldn’t be so many people actively avoiding it. The truth is, it IS a big deal. It is a serious commitment that is not as easy to get out of if you were just living together. So yes I get annoyed because I look at them like they’re playing house, and using a title that they haven’t yet earned.
How to deal with a wife who gets annoyed of everything I do??!!! and never say sorry!! PLEASE HELP!!?
I tried to talk to her many many many maaany times! I prepared surprise dinners, gifts... dinners at nice restaurants, night club party tickets, or a calm restful day at home with wine... everything.... i tried to talk to her at any kind of atmosphere.... I make a nice surprise for a night-club party (she loves dance) . she complains why I let her know so late rather than being happy for surprise and enjoy! she kills the day! Im being very patient to her! I do my best to save my marriage. no matter what she does, I always feel a pure love in my deeps! but that pure is covered too much with big fights from silly moments :(
15years married and feel my wife has lost all "passion" for me. She is more annoyed by me than anything. Help!
Just try to tell her and show her you love her. We all need that and we need to see and feel it. Do little unexpected things for her like sending her flowers of buying her a peice of jewelry. Those little things mean more when they are not for a special occasion. I'm saying this because those things never happened in my marriage and I know if it had it would have meant sooo much.
How to change the behaviour of an irritating and careless wife.?
We are only 20 days old Married couple and its an arrange marriage. (I know many of you will be disagree with arrange marriages but i and she can not do anything against it.) I care her for every little thing e.g. making coffee for her when she woken up in the morning, taking care of hot water for her bath, calling her from office for asking if she has taken her meals and if she is well and doing fine. When i reach at home in the night i ask about her well being and what she had done for the whole day, about her studies and share my day with her. I care her from my heart. But unfortunately i had not even for the single moment felt the same from her for me. She had not even asked nor she shown any interest in talking with me. We had not made love with each other. Though It is ok for me as i also prefer to know each other more before making love. But an emotional feelings and care should be there. She sometimes shown an irritating behaviour but just not seeing at me nor saying a single word just kept scielent. I really feel frutstated many times. But just somehow control on my emotions and just shown her that i am with her. But her behaviour towards me give me very uncomfortable and rude feelings.
I'm falling for a policeman,what are the pros and cons if i get married to him?
Pro - If you need police help, he might be able to call in a favour and fast-track any police work. - You are less likely to have problems as who would annoy the wife of a cop? - Extended surrogate family of all his work buddies and their families. Good network. This could also be a bad thing if you don't get along with any of them. - You will have a husband who is trained in the disarming and 'containment' of any scum that breaks into your house while you are home (or who attacks you while you are out), therefore making things safer for you. - He will be required by his work to maintain a level of fitness, so you will have a buff husband. Unless he does undercover work which requires him to let himself go. Con - he could get shot and leave you a widow. - Crims could break into your house and shoot you all while you are asleep - You won't be able to get away with anything illegal, unless he is corrupt, which I hope he isn't. - some people may think you get an easy deal being the wife of a cop, but really - don't listen to them. - He could be harder on you - law wise - because you are his wife and he will make a show of not letting you get away with breaking any laws. - Depending on his job and who he works for, you might get kidnapped and ransomed cos he pissed off an underworld figurehead. - Any undercover work where he is associated with drugs, as this may require him to take them himself, which may change his personality.
What does your spouse do that annoys you the most?
The other day, I was starting a project. I had all my tools and supplies laid out on the counter. I was ready to work.Damn, I forgot the hammer. So I get up and go to my tool box to get my hammer. I get back to my project and start working. I soon look around for my wrench and I can’t find it. What the hell? I am sure I got that out of the drawer where it is kept. I go over to the drawer and there’s my wrench. huh.So I continue to work. At some point I take a break for lunch or the bathroom or whatever. I come back to where I was working and look around. What the hell did I do with that hammer??? God, I’m losing my mind in my old age.So I ask The Wife, “Hun, did you happen to see where I set my hammer? I can’t find it.”The response back I get is “Oh, I put that away.”Blank stare.Me: “I was still using that.”Wife: “Oops, I guess I’m too efficient.”She does this so often we have a term for it. It’s called going into “Katie Mode”. Basically, when she starts cleaning, she just goes full out and on auto. Individual cleaning tasks don’t really register. She just sees stuff that needs to be cleaned and cleans it up.She does it to herself too. The other day she was going nuts looking for her scissors. I just laughed, walked over to the jar where she keeps them and said. “Katie Mode”
Why does everything that my husband does annoy me? Even things that I used to think were funny or endearing. I suddenly feel like I'm in prison. How do I figure out if it's him or me?
When my wife and I dated I loved her cute quirky habits. Because, well, I was smitten in love.A month into marriage some of those endearing traits grew, what shall I say, annoying as hell.I think she felt the same but I’m not as cute and endearing to begin with. So she knew more what she was getting into.I remember coming home one evening and tripping over her shoes by the front door. For like the twelfth time. In a month.You’d think I’d expect them.I said, “So would there be somewhere else besides the front door you could leave your shoes?”She replied, “I just kicked them off there. I’ll move them later.”“Could you have a place other than the front door to kick them off so I don’t keep tripping on them?”“Ok, I’ll try.”And she did. And then she’d forget. And then we’d discuss it again.After 45 years of marriage, I tripped over her shoes by the front door yesterday evening again. I’m not holding out hope this issue will get resolved.Through the years there are little things she does that annoy me.And I know, sometimes, I can just in general be annoying.Eventually, we talk it out. We both try to fix it. Some improvement occurs. And often it pops up again.Just two very different people who function exactly opposite.So I’ve learned on the small things, just to let them go. She’s been good at that since day one.This morning I went into the bedroom to wake her after I’d finished breakfast. In the dark I tripped on her shoes.Yes, the good news is they weren’t by the front door. The bad news is they still were out where I could trip on them.Instead of saying anything, I slid them over under the footstool. I walked over, leaned down, kissed her gently and said, “Good morning my love.”She rolled over, blinked, and responded, “Good morning sweetie.”That’s a lot better way to start the day than fighting over shoes.Oh, and after 45 years, she’s trained me well.Perfect marriages are built by two imperfect people working on and accepting the imperfections.
What are the ten habits of an Indian wife that annoys their husband?
Here goes :Taking forever in the shopping or vegetable stall.When about to go out, packing or getting ready at the last minute whereas husband will be waiting in the car like driver.Cribbing about some silly issue in the society or in the serial and going on and on and on about it like its affecting her more than the people in the society or in her serial.About getting bored (for non-working wives) and not being taken out on weekends, especially during the bed time when the man is about to take some rest from the harsh day in work.Unending volley of questions like Instead of watching the movie quietly and understanding the plot as it unfolds, most women love to ask a million questions while it is on (‘Who is he?’, ‘What do you think he wants?’, ‘Do you think she will survive?’)Constant criticism : Wives would constantly criticise their husbands for all the things that they do wrong, but would hardly be appreciative of their good deeds.Involving a third person : Women like the sympathy they get from a third person by proving their men wrong. Men are the exact opposite of this; they would never like to ‘wash their dirty linen in public’. Men do not like involvement of any third person in their relationship; they feel it is an invasion of their privacy.Ignoring their advice : All women (mostly all) like to take their husbands along while going out for shopping. While in the trial room, they try on a hundred outfits and ask their husbands for their opinions. No matter what their husbands say, they ultimately chose what they like. For men, the most annoying part is when they do not pick up even one outfit after spending hours trying on so many.Doubting him : When their husbands look at other women, most wives become paranoid. When they do this, it makes their husbands feel that they do not trust them. Women need to understand that men are only visual creatures. It is their tendency to appreciate beauty. Looking at other women does not signify that they might go and have an affair.Barring lovemaking : This is one thing that most women use as a weapon in a relationship. Men express their love through physical intimacy. A problem faced by almost all men is that whenever there is a discord, their wives decide to withhold physical intimacy. This not only hurts their feelings but also makes them feel unwanted.