Is moving in together after getting engaged a good or bad idea?
I took a sociology class a couple years ago, in my undergraduate days, and someone asked our professor the very same question. His response was that it depends on how you act. Couples who move in together when they are engaged, have a wedding date set, and behave like a married couple (sharing finances, dividing housework equitably, making decisions with the other person) experience no detriment by living together. They do not have an increased risk of divorce or other problems compared to the general population. Couples who move in together and act like roommates (no engagement or an "endless" engagement with no wedding date, who do not share finances or make joint decisions) are more likely to break up. If they do end up getting married, they are more likely to divorce compared to the general population. He said that this was based on a cohabitation study done several years ago, but unfortunately I don't have the citation. I bet you could look it up though.
How long before you move in together?
We got engaged after 1 yr together & moved in about 4 months after that. It's really an individual thing. We were both in our 30's when we met (still are), both of us had lived with someone before, no virgin situation or family that didn't agree, and we were each paying HIGH rent at our separate places. It just made sense for us. How long would I have waited? I don't know. I was going a little nuts for a bit because of working too many hours with a long commute, showering at my place, packing bags to stay at his place 6 nights/week, paying rent for a place I never slept in, etc. It probably would have taken its toll eventually but I don't think I would have left him over it. Our lives would just be different & probably on somewhat of a disconnect right now if we hadn't moved in together.
Is moving in together before marriage a good idea?
To many, it seems quaint, and at worst incredible, to even question the morality and value of living together before marriage. It is more and more acceptable in our society nowadays for young men and women to "try it out" before committing themselves to a life-long relationship. But living together really is not a good preparation for marriage. One secular book on marriage states that there is "no relationship between whether or not a couple lived together-and how easily they adjust to marriage, how happy they are in marriage, and how satisfied they are with their sex life in marriage"). In fact, couples who lived together before marriage have significantly lower marital satisfaction than those who did not cohabit before the wedding. It is eye-opening to note that during the same time period in which living together before marriage has become acceptable, the rate of divorce has skyrocketed. Living together, instead of helping cement relationships, has taught young people that commitment is optional. I was engaged and we decided to move in together. We broke up a year later. We had lots of problems, but it was so easy to say get your as* out of here... I think that if we were married that wouldn't end like that. Then I got engaged again, got married and the way you see things... It's so different. You care more about your partner, I mean it's the real thing, u know? >> Conclusion: You never know, it might work for you. The experience i had was very good. We did great things together. But when you move to your house wit your hubby is so overwhelming But if you wanna try it out - and if you're happy and excited about it, go ahead. Good Luck!!!
Is 17 too young to get engaged - not married yet?
I think 17 is to young but they got married earlier than that in the olden days. So maybe you could think of the ring as a promise ring.
Engaged for over 5 years but fiancee doesn't want to make any plans together, but doesn't want to break-up.
He is finacially responisble for his mother and sister, my biological clock is at 11:55 and 59 seconds - we got engaged over 5 years ago, but he will not make any plans to get married. I think we should break-up but he won't leave me alone. What is your thoughts on this. I was willing to help him financially and even live in a related living situation, years ago, not anymore.
What can I do if my girlfriend is getting engaged to someone else?
I met this amazing Mallu Christian girl “[I’am a Brahmin]”, 2 years back when we joined a TOP MNC as freshers and we instantly fell for each other.Both of us were 23 at that time and were starting our careers.She is the purest soul I have ever met.The love grew day by day,we were deeply in love,hence everything was going well.Suddenly,her dad was diagnosed with Cancer and he underwent a treatment for that.After that he had a Heart attack,by gods grace nothing happened to him.Then her parents started looking for guys to get her married as soon as possible.I was always by her side all through this.Last week,her parents fixed her marriage with some guy.She cannot say no or tell about me because she doesn’t want her dad to go through another heart attack.And I totally respect her decision.I’am still standing with her.I’am trying to act mature and pacify her when she is crying.She is totally heartbroken. I've never seen her like this and I don’t want to see her cry that’s why I hide my tears and stay strong.She doesn’t want to let go the memories we have. So just to cheer her up ,I gave an idea that we can remain friends so that we can at least see each other through the Ups and Downs of life. This thought is the only thing which brings her out of her misery and to an extent mine also.PS- I WILL ALWAYS BE HAPPY. BECAUSE MY HAPPINESS LIES IN HER HAPPINESS AND HER HAPPINESS LIES IN HER PARENTS’.Same goes with you also dude.True Love never dies. Try to embrace whatever is coming your way,be it good or bad.