TEENS: Have you ever lost a friend?
Yeah, and it still makes me sick. My mom had been friends with someone she worked with, and we all grew up together, and I'm still not sure what happened, but she had some mental freak out while my mom had surgery. I wanted to stay with them while my mom had a big surgery, since we were good friends, and all (It wasn't as bad as it sounds. When these kids parents left to do something, we ALWAYS kept these kids. We always had, and it wasn't a big deal.). It's pretty much all faded now, because I try not to think about it, but she basically had a mental breakdown. She screamed at me, she wouldn't feed me one night (Didn't really care, because I was so sick from crying.), she just wasn't who she had been all the years that she and my mom were friends. My aunt called me while I was there, during one of her screaming fits, I couldn't breathe I was crying so hard, my aunt flipped, and came and got me. The lady hates, yes I mean hates, overweight people, and I'm not going to lie, I'm slightly overweight, not bad, but not what I should be. It's in my genes, my doctor has even said. So I really think she's had all this bottled up for years, just never had the guts to scream it. There were other things that I think may have led up to this, but, I don't feel like listing them. I told all the kids, no matter what, I would always be here. If our parents never talked again, fine, but I'm not going to hate them. I have most of my best childhood memories with them, I could never hate them. I don't hate them, if the kids grow up and get out, and decides to talk to me again, I'll listen. But, God only knows what that lady has brainwashed them with. I'm sure they hate me. I'm sure, to them, we're the spawn of the devil.
Ever had a close friend die?
I'm sorry. I haven't had a close friend die but I have a couple of friends who attempted suicide and my best friends mother died of Lupus last year. It was really horrible for me because she was closer to me than my real aunts and I mean she's the one who took us to the pool, told us to shut up when she was tired and needed a nap (lupus makes you super tired), made hundreds of cookies with us for the spaggetti supper. It's really scary and throws your whole world off balance. That's what it felt like to me. You just have to find a new balance. It takes a while but it gets better.
The more important question is how someone brings this up in conversation.“Hey, how are you?”“Good! I just got done masturbating while I was thinking about you, haha. Wbu?”Like, what?How do you even approach that?I’m not sure. But let’s assume there’s a way.Now, if it were a significant other with whom such a sexual relationship had been established who said this to me?Sure. If that’s a thing we’ve spoken about before, I don’t think that would be weird. It’s pretty fair that someone might do the do thinkin’ ’bout their boo.But the question says friend.It wouldn’t matter which friend said this to me— I would feel uncomfortable.That’s just not a thing you say to someone you deem a friend.I don’t want to know what you’re thinking when your hand takes a trip south.I really don’t.I wouldn’t care if the sentence was “I masturbated thinking about George Clooney”— even though that’s totally fair and reasonable, I don’t want to know about it.I don’t want to hear about your masturbation, period.I’m sure some people feel comfortable talking about this with their friends—power to you. I’m not judging.But me?No, thank you.I will get mega-uncomfortable and our conversation will be over very abruptly.
Girls, have you ever ended up liking your close guy friend?
yes i had my close guy friend for a year and he eventually told me how he felt about me. and then a while later he eventually asked me to do dates. i wasnt sure how i felt about him because we became friends through the past year and i became really dependent on him about my problems and i loved him very much as my best friend. but i thought if i could trust him that much and he would treat me well and he is the nicest guy on the planet then i may as well try it. the added bonus was just he was quite hot lol. so i did the date and i thought we're too close but that was just one of the thoughts out of the rest of them. so i said no to anymore and i really broke his heart. now he has a slut of a girlfriend who he deserves better and everyone says so lol but hes happy so i dont say anything to him because i love him dearly. then his best friend asked me out haha but i don't like him i actually like his other best friend. pretty messed up story huh? haha but overall yes i have liked my best friend i love him soooo much but sometimes if you're too close to someone it can barricade you from going any further.
I love my best friend and I don't know how to do what's best for her or myself.?
I have an obese friend and she is one of the most stable and mature people I know. I also have a friend that is 104 pounds and is also stable and mature. Size doesn't matter. Health does though. So, it's good that you don't obsess over your weight and let it like consume you like so many people do. Life's short, be happy :) She shouldn't lose so much weight that she's unhealthy, you're right. I understand your concern for your friend, but she says she's changed and it sounds like she has. It is tempting to fear she'll go full steam ahead with the weight loss thing like before, cause that's a weakness for her, but right now it's okay because she's just losing 15 pounds or whatever. When she gets back, I would just be supportive, talk to her about other stuff to help keep her frome obsessing over it, and emphasize her goal of a certain, healthy weight. If she wants to lose 15 pounds, say that part a lot, not just losing weight. That helps set a limit, and if she gets tempted to go over it, opens the door for you to be all "wait you wanted to just lose the extra bit, you look great at (target weight) I think you should stop there" etc. As for your weight, I like that you don't worry about it, but if you are unhealthy or kinda wanna improve, there's no harm in that either. Just be happy and healthy :) God bless
Friend gave away dog, what are my rights?
"It was totally breaking my heart to think of her alone all day so I decided to rehome her ' You relinquished all rights ot the dog the moment you dumped it. You clearly didn't care that much about the dog since you dumped it instead of taking care of it or making time which wouldn't have been hard at all. " I am very worried about my dog. What can i do?" Nothing at all You relinquished all rights to the dog the moment you dumped it. By law there is nothing you can do at all becosue you legally gave up ownership of the dog, he new owner flipped the dog becouse the dog was legal hers to do so with and there is nothing you can do. The cops have better things to do then deal with an owner who dumped their dog and wants it back even though they have no legal ground to stand on "neither my friend or I agreed that it was a permanent arrangement, even her mother asked if it was just a trial run : doenst matter. You relinquished the dog and have no proof that states other wise.
I had weight loss surgery 17 years ago at almost 300 pounds. In the community I am called a “light weight” because I ONLY had 130 pounds to lose. I have had 5 close friends in the 600-700 range and another friend who was in the show. The primary problem is food addiction. Some people have metabolic issues but they are in the minority. Since “addiction” is still stigmatized many people remain in denial so they look for help in the wrong places. I have been volunteering for 15 years trying to provide education which is in short supply for those needing assistance after weight loss surgery. After surgery you can fall into cross addiction (or transfer addiction) and switch from food to drugs, alcohol, shopping, sex, gambling, and/or even exercise. I have lost 3 friends to overdoses and one to suicide.When someone is practically bed bound because of their weight, getting down to 200 ish pounds is like a miracle to them. They can participate in life again and play with kids/grandchildren, tie their shoes, paint their toenails, and many other things regular people take for granted. Sometimes they suffer from lymph edema when they are that large and the massive swelling of legs makes life very difficult.Someone who starts at 600 plus pounds who loses 400 pounds has a chance to live again but the psychological problems that exist are hard and necessary to work on…but so worth it. And yes there are many that manage to get out of the obese classification with dedication and serious work.
I weigh 515 pounds and I am 16 years old. My BMI is 100.6, which makes me morbidly obese. I am 5 feet tall. I'll list the cons of being this fat first and then the pros. Some of the cons are also pros, but for different reasons.Cons:Walking: Simple things like walking and moving in general are hard, especially for me, since I'm short. I'll probably be immobile soon. I have trouble taking steps all day because my legs and belly are gigantic.Hunger: Despite being this fat, I am always hungry. My stomach is much larger than a normal human’s. I am always eating, and I am almost never full.Fat: I am judged for being this fat. A lot.Bathroom: Going to the bathroom is hard. Just sitting on the toilet is hard enough, but getting the waste out of my fat is even harder.Bras: I have ordered the biggest bras I can find and none of them fit over my gigantic breasts or around the fat on my back.Clothing: Barely any clothes fit me. I have ordered XXXXL clothes and my belly still spills out. As for pants, I have ripped XXXXXL sizes.Pros:Eating: I eat a lot. And I like it. I eat whatever I want, all the time. It's amazing. One day I just sat in my bed and ate as much as I could.Fat: The fat is great. I love it for some reason. It's just nice to have.There you go. Hopefully this answers your question.
My "Friend" stole my crush?
omg yes deff. esp. your "close girl friend" because she knew you liked him and she still went for him--thats not a true friend. && you dont deserve to be friends with someone like that. for him...idk did you tell him you liked him??? && if you did then yeaa thats messed up for him to go out with your good friend knowing you liked him. however if he didnt have a hint that you liked him and he went with your friend than its only your friends fault bc she knew and he didnt. im sorry! but hope thhis helps=)
I was in similar situation few years ago when my grandpa passed away. He was my ideal as his father died when he was just a kid, however he raised family to great standards, and provided my father and family everything. He was respected and rich in his locality. He started with nothing and with hard work and dedication built everything. So when I set foot in real life after college he became my hero.Then one day he died and I did not cry that day as I thought he had awesome life etc..and glad he had not to suffer in hospitals in this old age.However after few weeks I started to miss him so much. And used to have dreams I can't explain. .... I wanted him alive so much so I could ask him all the things I want to talk and tell us his stories... Two things helped me settle:I met a teacher and discussed the struggle I was going through. He said do the things he would have liked or appreciated. And if you really want to meet him. You can meet him in dream someday :-) . That really looked like funny idea however yes (1.) I started to do a thing which would have made him proud (financial support to a relative who needed is most on ongoing basis. ) and yes this makes me feel great as I know he would have been very happy to see me doing it. (2.) After few months of above compassionate act, I met my grandpa in dream. He was happy, he was looking great. After I got up I remembered that meeting and felt great. And yes the dreaded unexplainable dreams I used to have before, stopped and never happened again.Now I feel great about my grandpa. Every month when I do that little support , it makes a family happy, also our own family happy as my parents also know about it. And since then my relationship with grandpa has been great. So please you may also try this:1. See if you can do something which your grandma would have loved to do. Like maybe supporting one of her close siblings or children or anyone. Or any other thing like meeting and talking with someone she would have love to give her time. Just anything which will make you feel great about grandma and doing that.2. Expect with positive assumption that someday you gonna meet your grandma in dream. She gonna look at you with bright eyes. You will feel great about this meeting and about her in the morning. You will be happy to know she will never have to visit another dr checkup or medicine of this world as she is perfectly fine.Wishing you best!