Can being bullied in school affect you later on?
Ok, so I have started freshmen yr in high school... and for some reason i have this HUGE insecurity going to school here because people have always scared me.. and i just dont have much confidence with school here. and maybe its because people were really rude to me in the past in school and some left me out, i dont know. but its still affecting me cause im always in "panic" mode in school. i just feel soo inferior and (okay so maybe its less this year) but still, its not really like me at all. but when you look at past times, BOY THEY WERE troublesome as hell. thats because people here are really obnoxious, and literally yell at you for no reason. heres an example. im in line for ketchup, and im 3 feet away from this black girl, she sees me and she doesnt like me so she'll be like "MOVE THE **** AWAY!! UR IN MY WAY WHAT IS THIS???" and alotta people are like that, and i find it scary, and it also brings back terrible memories. yeahh..thats pretty much it. i mean i have a trillion other stories like this, and i know a teacher like this (even). so i have this huge insecurity with school. just school, cuz every1 says im such a different person in summer vacation. and i feel so different, and insecure about EVERYTHING!! like bipolar almost. confused, lost, ect. i want them to go away.
Please read: I get bullied by my sister?
Hmm. I would say try being extra nice to her and then ask her what is the reason for you two to not have a good relationship as brother/sister. Tell her you would like to be a better brother to her and you would like a better relationship. Tell her how you ran away because of the poor relationship you two have and tell her that's what's been causing you to be so sad. Maybe that will lighten her up. By the way, mormons don't have that big of families lol. Our average is about 3 kids. I know several people who just had one kid in my ward(congregation), and there are the really rare ones who have like 9 kids. It all adds up to be an average of 3 though. That's still 3 times higher than the national average, however.
Why do people get bullied?
Kids who get bullied usually stand out in one way or another. They're often less socially gifted, or have a smaller group of friends. Maybe they're more lonely overall. It can happen to anyone, but it usually happens to certain types of people.As for bullies, well, I see many types of bullies- there are outright wicked people who victimize weaker people for whatever horrible reason. I don't think that 99 percent of child bullies are this way, but my fourth grade teacher was- she riled up the entire class to bully me, and encouraged them to treat me poorly. Then there are people like the students she told to bully me- people who either are too innocent to realize that they're hurting someone, people who feel pressured to join in with the other bullies, and people who are victims themselves in a way and take it out on other people. While their actions are still not okay, these people often are nicer when nobody's watching, I find. Even with an entire classroom of children bullying me, only one classmate seemed to be doing it out of wicked intentions along with that teacher. But even she wasn't that wicked, she just had some personality problems and a need to dominate over other people as I see it. I don't have any ill thoughts towards those classmates anymore, just the teacher.But I was targeted for my isolation and my abnormal behaviour. I have Asperger's and took a little while to catch up to my peers. My interests weren't the same, nor was my idea of fun at that point. Even though I've caught up in maturity, my anxiety has left me crippled. I was an easy target, and too innocent to understand what was being done to me for years. I didn't even realize that the teacher was bullying me until years later when I looked back at the events of that school year.The worst thing is, she got away with it. The best thing is, this wicked hag retired after that year and is hopefully going to wither away in a retirement home in the next decade.
Why am I always an easy target for bullies?
I’m the child of a narcissist (NPD) mother.As a kid I never really learnt how to stand up for myself. My mother is highly unstable and from an early age I just knew I had to make sure she was happy at all times. Or else all hell broke loose. She’d be screaming, threatening to leave the family... So I became a people pleaser before I even started school. Deep down I was afraid of everyone - because of her. I was chronically anxious in all social settings. This the school bullies picked up on - and I got bullied a lot. They saw me as weak when I really was just plain scared and afraid of upsetting people - and so I was too kind and forgiving in all social relationships I guess. I became a doormat. And I’ve continued to be to this day. And I’m now 47! But I’m finally learning how to deal with it…You could also be the child of a narcissist. We suffer immensely in life. Our parents taught us that we have no control and that we should be controlled at all times. This is perhaps what the bullies see in you. You’re an easy target. Perhaps you’ll also have to learn how to get over being the child of an NPD. Search out YouTube!
Is leaving people out considered bullying?
For example: A group of girls told 1 girl "hey, can you sit over on that table?" (And the table is empty so she's lonely). And when (the same girl) asks if they can join a group in an assignment, the group says "oh, uhm, we kind of want to do it by ourselves" and when the girl walked away, they said "I feel bad now..."
I'm Being Bullied For Liking Books?
If you take up snowboarding this is what the bullies are going to say... "Who snowboards these days anyway? Isn't that for people without a social life?" Laugh at you. Haha you're just some slut who wants a boyfriend and has fantasies with all those snowboarders at the ski resort." "Why do you snowboard? Just to be physically fit and brag in my face about how fit you are?" They will say the same thing if you took up surfing, ballet dancing, music, painting, circus training, gardening, motorbike riding etc. In other words it will not matter what you do. This tells you a lot about them. They will find fault with it and NO you have NOT brought this onto yourself because of the way you walk or talk or whatever. The aim is to make you feel bad undertaking an activity that you enjoy. Basically making you feel bad about living your life. You are not placed on this planet to justify your actions to these people. Have you done anything wrong? No. Are you effecting them? No. Only when your actions effect others or you are breaking the law do you need to account for those actions. 'Mind your own business' is a good answer to anyone asking personal questions or making personal statements. Say it calmly and quietly. or 'I am not here to justify myself to you, who do you think you are? the creator of the universe?' or 'Dictating to me about how I should spend MY time, why how arrogant of you!" or "Rude" "You are Rude" Why, how rude of you! but coming from you I wouldn't expect any better' On that note see if you can find someone (adult, young adult) who you can trust. Tell them you are being bullied and that your esteem has taken a hit. See if they can present a better picture of you. eg. list all the good traits etc. Stuff you may have missed. When being bullied our esteem can take a battering. We begin to see ourselves through the eyes of the bully. So if the bully sees you as worthless you begin to see your self as worthless. Try to break out of this if you can. Having a supportive person around can help with this. Good luck.