What is something you want to "get off your chest"?
I got gang raped.Gang. Raped.I'm going to give some details… so I guess trigger warningI went to a fish market with my uncle and grandma. My grandma is old and can't walk very well so I was waiting with her for my uncle to get some fish. This huge man comes and picks me up from behind. I'm pretty strong, but this man was much stronger. He grabbed me and ran as I screamed for my uncle to help me. He came too late.So. The big man “A”The other men are “B” “C” and “D”A grabbed me and brought me to a cornerB C D take turns throwing me against a fence as they all undress. They all are on me at the same time. One would be one my face making me suck his dick. One would be masturbating on my chest. One would be doing whatever he wanted on my vagina. One would be holding down my legs.They tied down my arms above my head, stripped me naked, did their rotations, and broke my ankle.I kept squirming so they punched me, gagged me, and stabbed right below my ribcage with a knife. I stopped moving and they rotated a few times. When they were done, about and hour later, they tied to me to fence.They would grab me from behind, touch all over me, cum on me, and then forced me to masturbate. They stuck their fingers up my vagina, put their dicks in my mouth. They made me masturbate on the floor, and then would smack me with their dicks wherever they felt like it.It was torturous. I was in so much pain. They ran Away. The police were searching everywhere, and then one found me on the floor behind a trashcan in an alley. They took me to a hospital, and it gave me so much emotional trauma.Right now, a year later, I am crying in my room, too scared to go anywhere, ripping at my thighs and stomach with a blade. Burning with lighters. I never told anyone else. The only people that know is my grandma, uncle, mom, and dad. I'm too scared to tell anyone.
What is the correct age for having sex for the first time?
Thanks for the A2A, Anonymous.As a parent of two sons (ages 8 and 6, as of August 2014), ideally they wouldn't have sex until they're 30. That way, they could avoid getting STDs or getting somebody pregnant accidentally. They also would have time to "find themselves", enjoy life, figure out what kind of work they want to do, and discover what they are passionate about.But I know that is not realistic...or reasonable.After all, we all are hormone-driven beings. We all have sexual drives (granted, some more than others, but still). My oldest son started getting interested in girls in his class in *kindergarten*. He was only five years old. And he was quite obvious about it: he asked several girls in his class if they would kiss him. Unfortunately for him, they all said no.You can see that I'm in trouble already with this one.The best I can hope for, realistically speaking...is that my boys get very very very friendly with their hand when the urge hits them and hopefully that'll tide them over until they get to college. A couple of platonic group dates in high school would be fine. Maybe a kiss or two here and there. Then they can lose their virginity in college for all I care...hopefully safely, and with someone who will be kind enough to show them the basics and not make fun of their cock/body.Full disclosure: I lost my virginity at 17 when I was in college...which is why I want the same for my children. It's all legal then, and they don't have to look over their shoulder or sneak around or rush through the experience.Most importantly, sex is a life-changing experience, and I did it only when I felt ready to do it. I wasn't pressured to do it in any way. It was very much a conscious decision on my part. I would hope this would also be true for everyone else. No one should be forced to have sex when they're not willing or ready. If a person doesn't feel ready at 17 or 18, it's OK to do it at 19 or 20 or even 21. It is going to vary from person to person, and again, that's perfectly fine and normal.
Bleeding in early pregnancy? red blood...?
I can really feel for you on this one!!! I have had this with both my pregnancies! My first was unexpected in Jan of '08. My husband and I were putting off kids until after college. (we've been married since '03) anyway, Late Jan of '08 I noticed my period was really light and was going on for two weeks! Then I noticed my breasts were SO sore! Mentioned it to a friend, she laughed and said I was probably pregnant, it got me wondering, and I was! I had spotting off and on until at 7 1/2 weeks I woke up with bright red bleeding, rushed to the ER, was diagnosed with a threatened miscarriage. I went home and rested, but still had light spotting until almost 11 weeks!! My little girl was late and weighed a very healthy 9 lbs!! She is now one! In August after TTC for several months, I decided to use an OPK. I detected my LH surge, we BD on all the right days, 7 days later I had implantation bleeding, two days later, had my BFaintP. At almost 5 weeks I got up from a nap and had started spotting. I called my nurse right away, we both assumed it was just the same kind of bleeding as with my last pregnancy, but she wanted me to com ein right away for blood work anyway. I had a quantitative blood test done, and my levels were indeed dropping. So those are my two stories. Like you said, it's 50/50 for you at this point BUT it is good that your cervix is closed! Try to relax, put your feet up, watch a movie, do whatever it takes to just relax a little! I wish you all the best and I hope your little bean is safe!
Girlfriend Won't Take Birth Control?
Hi. I am a 19 year old college student. I am concerned over the fact that my girlfriend (also 19) does not and will not take any form of birth control. I have tried to have a civil discussion about this with her to tell her how I feel but it only resulted in her becoming very angry at me, so I just gave up for a while. She stopped taking the pill because it was giving her bad side effects, which I totally understand. But she won't even think about taking any alternative form of birth control either as she doesn't want to have to "put something up her body" or tells me some crazy story about how people have died from IUDs and diaphragms. I personally don't feel that condoms alone are safe enough for someone like me, a freshman in college, who's life, dreams, and aspirations would all be OVER if I ever had a pregnancy. She also has very irregular periods, and we have even already had 2 pregnancy scares in the past 4 months.I worry about this every day and am frequently under a lot of stress because of it. I just can't seem to convince her. I feel terrible because I really love her, but the thought that I might have to leave her over this if she doesn't do something has crossed my mind due to the severe stress, not to mention the real chance that she could actually get pregnant and ruin my life (and I am not exaggerating; I do NOT want to be a father right now at all). If anyone could leave me some advice it would be much appreciated. Thank You!