I am so tired of being used for sex.?
You're gold-dust and it should be easy for you! Your problem is evident in your first sentence - "for the last 3 years I have been having sexual relationships around 12 of them total" - casual sex, so casual you're not even sure exactly how many? If you put the cart before the horse, you don't go anywhere! Sorry to say it but many have been fooled into believing that they can't exist without sex long enough to find a real partner, so they treat it like a commodity - and you along with it. Our present day society seems to find this acceptable to the point of thinking it is normal. It is not normal and is damaging very many lives. So call a halt to sex and find female friends who understand your perspective, and can exercise self-control. When you get to know them as real people and they get to know you the same way, it will become apparent when one of them is special to you. Look for friends in places where people do things other than flaunt their bodies! Develop new hobbies, and go to clubs of special interest, eg archaeology, gliding, scuba-diving, art, etc., and in doing that you will develop as an interesting person (to women who are also interested in the same things) - not just a body with a bank account! If you date air-heads whose only interest is facebook, drinking, sex and exposing lots of cocoa-buttered, spray-tanned flesh - then don't expect to find a girl with whom you can have interesting conversations, share hopes and dreams, enjoy life and grow old together. It takes time to get to know people and to discern whether or not you are compatible. The mark of a real man's maturity is his ability for self-denial, self-control and self-discipline, not juvenile self-indulgence. So anyone questioning your man-hood over self-imposed celibacy, should be questioning their own lack of maturity. Good luck finding the love of your life, and soul-mate who will love you always for everything you are - not just a fling to score out of ten!
What should I do if I am tired of being fat?
Last new years eve I was watching the fireworks with my children and my 3 year old wanted me to carry her a few hundred meters home. I could hardly do it and was so out of breath I almost fainted.I couldn’t walk two flight of steps without feeling like I’d either vomit or faint.I was obese beyond any of my own liking. So I bit the bullet. I stepped on the scale and almost cried myself to sleep because I felt ashamed, unhappy and terrified of my weight. I realized I needed to lose 45kg to be in the normal weight zone.So I cut out all sugar and red meat in my diet and also started paying attention to portion sizes. I forced myself to go swimming and almost died when I forced myself to swim 500 meters.I forced myself to take walks, my legs, my feet, my back everything in sore pain.I kept playing this mantra in my head. “you did this to yourself!”Today, May 9th 2017 I have lost 20 kg so only 25 kg to go.I have lost over 30 cm off belly fat and reduced the risk to get type 2 diabetes massively.My BMI has sank with 7 numbers, my clothing size has shrunk with 8 numbers!I have energy now. I swim 2 km pretty effortlessly, I have gone to the gym without killing myself, I can walk two flight of stairs without becoming all exhausted.My feet, legs and back don’t hurt anymore. I am not hungry but I get full faster than before. I still do not eat red meat and sugar is not in my daily diet and I still do portion control.I have lost about 4 kg / month which is a healthy weight loss.The thing is I became so fed up with who I was, I did not feel like me, I felt tired and full, like I could not fit anything in me anymore. I was scared of being only 31 and so obese that it was more a matter of time before all the illnesses would hit me.I was tired of not having energy to play with my kids and I was just sick and tired of being fat.I am still fat, I still have way too much weight for my own good. I still have a long way to go. But I feel better now when I am almost halfway.So my advice is to do what Nike says: Just do it!There is no shortcut, it is only you who can control yourself. Evaluate your eating habits, start taking the stairs instead of the elevator, walk and don’t drive everywhere and just bite the bullet. You are going to be glad you did.
I'm so tired of being known as "the quiet one"?
I know exactly how you feel! I've had the same problem. First, there is nothing wrong with being quiet, and in fact it probably makes you a better person and a better friend. It's just something about this society that makes quiet a bad thing - in our society, everyone is supposed to be super-extroverted. I've decided to try to learn to "fake" being extroverted. The main thing is to always appear confident. Even if you never say a word, but you are sitting straight up (or even leaning forward) and making good eye contact you'll be perceived as more outgoing. When you do talk, make sure that you are speaking loudly enough (notice how loudly everyone else speaks), and don't rush through your sentences. Assume that people _want_ to hear what you have to say. Actually talking more takes some practice, and you have to be patient with yourself. Try to talk just a little more in everyday conversations, and never shy away from a social situation just because you feel unsure of yourself. Also, it's okay to invite yourself somewhat into groups or conversations. Look for an opening, and go ahead and dive in with them. Also, I've found that "think before you speak" is actually really bad advice. By the time you think over what you're going to say, you either decide not to say it or you missed your chance. Just say whatever comes to mind, and as long as you're talking you can't go too far wrong. Remember: Act confident Assume that people want to hear what you have to say Invite yourself to groups Say whatever comes to mind
I'm so tired of being black.?
How about instead of bitching why don't you prove the world wrong like many black people before you and in the here and now do? Just by existing these intelligent black business men and women, college graduates, professors and all around good citizens etc, are a testament against the stereotypes. Instead of being angry at your mother, thank her for bringing your knuckle head into this world. Being black isn't the problem it's how we're perceived that's the problem. The more Black Americans who go against the grain, the more of us who prove the stereotypes wrong, the less impact these stereotypes will have. Yes, black people need to stop doing crime but so does every other race. The only problem is, when we do crime, we die. Other racial groups can walk away. Yet Black Americans have to be f*cking perfect to be accepted. Whelp I'm not perfect. No one is. So instead of me crying about how I'm perceived I walk with my head high. Proud of who I am cause I am NOT my skin. No one who has ever met me, thinks of me as merely a black woman. You have that power too.
I'm tired of being treated like a joke?
It seems like im always the victim of everybody's jokes. I know they don't ever really mean what they say, but it's getting pretty tiresome. Sometimes I act too ditzy for my own good,so at those moments I bring it upon myself, but when I'm trying to be serious about something and they all laugh and tell me to shut up or something, it's really frustrating. Worst thing, I'm an average weight, but they call me fat all the time just for giggles.. guess who's had an eating disorder for a year? I know if they ever had to deal with even half of the jokes they throw at me they'd be in a corner slitting their wrists or something... How can I be taken seriously and stop being the butt of all the jokes?
I'm tired of working. How do I become my own boss?
You already are your own boss. Of your career, of your choices, of your life. Becoming an employee for someone else is a choice you can make, based on your priorities. How much do you value security versus flexibility? What level of control do you desire?The way the world works, people reward you with money when you deliver value for them. If you choose to call delivering value "work", fine, that's a common approach. By that definition, if you don't work, nobody will pay you anything. Not bosses, not customers, whoever.The key to this quandary is what Henry said, change your attitude toward work. Ideally you would find things that you like to do AND deliver value that someone's willing to pay for. But nobody will pay you just for being alive and having a desire for money.List the things that you'd do even if you weren't being paid. Then find the things that you're good enough at (or want to become good enough at) that people would pay you. Then start bridging the gap between these things.You'll be doing work, but you'll enjoy it.
Tired of being a loner, but I don't know what to do...?
I'm 22, about to finish my last year of college, and I can't stand my life. I switched schools a couple of times, and at my new school I hardly have any close friends. I've always been someone who prefers to spend time alone, but I really want to change. Even though I'm sort of shy and don't like meeting new people, I've usually been able to make friends fairly easily. My problem is that I usually can't keep them or get really close to them. I'm really reaching the end of my rope. I love people. Making others happy is one of the things that makes me really happy. I'm tired of being a depressed introvert with no life. I'm going to be too busy to get involved with anything clubwise until after I graduate, so that's out of the question. What can I do? Please help... If it helps, this urban dictionary description of "loner" describes me to a T: "There's 2 types of loners. The loser loner and the cool loner. Unfortunately throughout high school and life I fell into the first category not the second. The one i always wished to be and looked up to was The cool loner, they're the one who does their own thing, doesn't really care what others think, rejects most people yet is looked up to and follows their own lead. Usually ends up popular in some way despite their aversion to popularity in general. They always have the 'cool' people approaching them wanting to be friends yet they prefer to do their own thing. Usually are hated or loved. This kind of person is usually miles ahead of the 'popular people' Then there's guys like me.. The loser loner. The type of guy who doesn't have good social skills, No confidence and jealous traits. The one who never gets the girl, the money or the friends. The dumb guy who nobody notices. The one who feels invisible around women. The one who nobody wants to spend time with. Known as 'the boring guy', the 'friendless' guy, the invisible man. We have to act out to get attention. We aren't lone wolves, we are dependent insecure people who are usually better friends with the teachers and tag-a-long. We were dealt a bad hand in life."
I'm tired of being a child?
I'm 15, 16 in a year, I know it's normal for teens to feel like this but I genuinely just don't feel like a teen. I hate other people my age, just can't tolerate them, I've always felt very independent and know I can make it on my own, I have plans and goals in life already and I'm just tired of being treated like a child just because of my age, I'm definitely a LOT more ahead than other kids my age.
I'm tired of being a loner and I got no friends at all. At times I feel so vulnerable that I wish I wasn't born. Such is my luck that nobody wishes to be good friends. Should I just go die or something?
Hey, first of all you seem to be very a nice guy.The feeling of having no friend is felt by everyone in this world at some point in their lifetime. This is when we are emotionally too brittle and we get this type of negative feeling.There are two things here, which can be done to resolve this.If you love to go outdoors, join some hiking, trekking forum and go for an outing. You will surely make friends there. And believe me you will definitely find friends and make friends. Also be in touch with them. Always ask if you can join them for meet ups.If you love indoors, it's little tough here, because you are isolated, so you have to keep yourself real busy. This is when you have to make yourself socially available through social networking sites like Facebook. This is solely for the purpose of just starting up activities. You have to carry on the activities started with Facebook in your real life. So get in touch with someone who is living in the same city.