I dont get along with my husband's family, they ignore me all the time.. what should I do?
First of all your hubby needs to be supportive and understanding of your feelings. Talk to him and explain how it makes you feel. Try talking to the women individually. If that doesn't help you may have no alternative then to ignore them back. We can't make people like us or want to socialize with us. It's a painful situation. My MIL has welcomed all 3 of my BIL's wives and numerous GF's and fiance's with open arms while trying to run me off. It's hard not to take it personal. I would just be polite, speak if they speak and ignore if they ignore. It's not easy and hurts but sometimes that's as good as it gets. I tried not to put hubby in the middle but I did make it clear if he is present when someone is mistreating me I expect him to stand up for me since I'd never let my family treat him so rudely. Best of luck! EDIT: I should mention I have told hubby I am NOT doing holidays with any of his fam except his dad. The others do not like me or even try to fake being polite so I don't bother anymore.
How do I make my husband see my mother-in-law's true personality?
This sounds real crazy. I wouldnt offer any advice but I d tell you what i would do to protect my dignity.Start working. However small or big the salary is join something. This will give you a direction to be independant & to divert your mind away. Remember, this might create more problems for you from your MIL but this would help stand on your legs when there is no hopeIgnore your MIL. I repeat. Dont let her get you. Your feelings thoughts and emotions are internal to you. Dont let external factors affect you. Start meditatingIf your husband is a nice guy. Start loving him without any expectations. He will slowly love you back and without asking he would start shielding you. ( unfortuantely this would take time and high level of patience from you)Tell your friends about the situation and be ready for emergency help. With a single message or call.Dont be alone. Learn some hobby and entertain yourself. This is one way you can make her jealous. Negative people wont like if someone is content and happy before themLive for yourself. Find the ultimate happiness in spreading joy in whatever way you likeDont worry about others. If they are listening to a third person and forming opinions about you they are not worth knowing you. Just keep going the way you naturally are and slowly they’ll come around.I have a feeling that your husband is already aware of his Mother’s attitude. Thats the only reason he is giving deaf ear. Otherwise he would equally get curious to know whats going wrong.A friend of mine has come out of an unhealthy relationship and she constantly inspires me with her fervour(by making a choice at age of 24 to file a divorce) courage and compassion(does volunteering at orphanages and animal welfare). She tells me Hardships are given to people who have the courage to withstand them and emerge as winners. She is grateful for this life and its virtuesShe was and is a winner to me. Never let anyone tell you what you are and what you arent capable of. Believe u are a self sustaining power. Trust your instincts. If your husband doesnt cater for your safety happiness and trust i dont see a future there.Lots of prayers and courage to you. Please let me know if you want someone to talk to & unload burden.
My husband's mom owes us money, and she ignores my messages and emails.?
We had a queen size guest bedroom set that cost us about $1500 total mattress and decorations and bed clothes everything. We could have easily gotten ATLEAST $600-700 for the bedroom set, but my inlaws needed a new set, so we sold it to them for $450. Part of the deal was that my father in law would change our breaks, and he would pay for the breaks and that would come out of the money they owed us. Well we didn't end up using the back breaks and I returned them for the $30 that they cost. Well he paid with a credit card and the only place that $30 could go was back onto the credit card. This was 2 months ago. I have told her on the phone, and I have left her 2 messages on facebook, but she will not answer me about the money. Whether you think it is petty or not, I am not really interested in, because I don't think it is petty, and I don't work and $30 is a lot of money to me. I don't know what to do, I told him he needs to deal with this, and he needs to talk to her, but I also don't want to put HIM In a weird place asking for money from his mom. They are coming to visit us for my sons birthday in a month. Their bills are about half as much as ours, and they make about twice as much as we do. (they just moved that is how we know because we know their rent) so it just drives me crazy that they are so irresponsible with their money going out and blowing it on brand new four wheelers and brand new jeeps, but they can't pay me what they owe me. I don't 'know what to do! I know this sounds horrible, but it is making me resent them, I don't even want them to come to my house for my sons birthday, yes, over $30. It is more of the fact of the matter that they owe us money on something we sold them dirt cheep and she is ignoring me.
In-laws driving me batty?
Well, this is a very touchy subject seeing that ur hubby is employed by his dad ur fil. But, if the house was in crappy condition b4 u moved in then that's on them and has nothing to do with u and ur family/kids... I'd remind them of that... Kinda funny now that they have u nearby and u've gone to the trouble of picking up sticks and relocating ur family to this place that was on the market for 3yrs. that now they want to put it back on the market. THIS IS WRONG IN SO MANY WAYS... I'D HAVE TO SPEAK UP AND TELL THEM HOW MUCH TROUBLE THIS WHOLE ARRANGEMENT HAS CAUSE THE FAMILY.... Seriously, as much as u appreciate them putting u up in the house they don't make things very easy and uprooting the children so often is not good for them or the rest of the family and this whole arrangement is putting a strain on the family/marriage... ( i guess ur hubby is staying out of it or at least neutral so, he don't step on anyone's toes ??? ) They just can't keeping being sooooooooooooo fickle it's driving u nuts.. Something like that maybe will work... otherwise UR HUBBY NEEDS TO STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND TALK TO HIS PARENTS SO THAT U DON'T SAY SOMETHING THAT MAY CAUSE BIGGER RIFFS LIKE CUSSING THEM OUT... LOL
My husband family does not Seem to like me...?
My Husband's family does not Seem to like me & It used to Bother me a lot but I'm trying to just ignore it. I don't have a good relationship with them-- it seems very faked. My Sister in laws text me here & there but we don't talk On the phone or hang out... Unless My husband kind of forces them to. His Parents don't call me & I can't just call them to say hello or how are they doing. They only want to talk to My husband & if they have questions.. About me, they ask him. And anytime i see his family members somewhere when i go back Home all they ask is about him. When he isn't there, they just rarely invite me over or see our son ( baby). Everytime i try to bring this up to My husband we get in a fight. So i stopped bringing it up. Should I just let it stay this way? Do I need to change?
How do I deal with inlaws who are spreading vicious lies about me?
I have tried my best for 10 years to be the perfect d-i-l. I came to know recently that my inlaws have been spreading lies to their other son and relatives that I have not fed them well when they visited us 5 years ago and that I have not treated them well. My inlaws are very controlling and until my husband married me he has never said no to them for anything!From the beginning of our marriage my mil -fil have tried to create a wedge by telling my husband that he should keep his wife under"control" and tell him that they "know that he is unhappy being married to me". My husband and I have a terrific relationship but my inlaws insult me at every opportunity and have bad-mouthed us (including my parents) to everybody. He is very hurt by their behavior and talking with them ends to be a melodramatic screaming session. My inlaws have fought with every other relative including their own parents. Now their claim is that I have "separated their son" from them. How do I deal with them?