Is dinner a bad first date?
Yes, it is a bad first date. In fact, I consider it second worst - better than a movie date, and slightly worse than meeting at a bar. I think the traditional "dinner and a movie" date was invented by parents to be so bad it would guarantee their kids wouldn't have sex until they were adults and figured out how bad it was. Except they never figured it out.Usually on dinner dates the couple is positioned across the table from one another. This is the single most hostile arrangement possible. Any book on body language, negotiation psychology, etc. will tell you that positioning people at an angle, or next to one another, has been scientifically demonstrated time and time again to result in a higher likelihood of friendliness, while opposite arrangements more frequently result in conflict and hostility. You have already put yourselves at a disadvantage towards developing rapport.In addition to this, dinner dates put you both under a lot of pressure to generate conversation. The default of dinner dates is to interview each other. You ask one another biographical questions, you talk about work, school, where you grew up, the weather, etc. So sexy! Unless you are particularly skilled conversationalists, you are both at disadvantages opening with a dinner date.Dinner dates also prevent most of the things that generate chemistry between people. You are not able to touch each other. You are not able to smell each other. You are limited to voice and looks. Attraction is an emotion. It is biological. It rises out of intimately experiencing each other, through subtleness and things we feel on a subconscious level. It doesn't arise out of verbal persuasion. To the degree it does so, it is because of the implications of what a person says - not the explicit meanings of the words.So no, I hate dinner dates. They're things you do on like the 5th date or higher and they are one of the worst ways to get to know someone, especially since most people are so inclined to put up facades on first dates. It's so much better to go out and actually do something fun.Read my answers to these questions. They will help you.Howie Reith's answer to What kinds of dates do you wish your guy would take you on?Howie Reith's answer to How do you make a date romantic so its not just a friendly hangout?
Is a picnic a good idea for a first date?
My first date with my partner and co-author Eve Rickert was a picnic. We brought sandwiches and strawberries, and we had dinner under some large trees and afterward talked about love and sex and the Fermi paradox and evolutionary biology and statistics & probability and our lives and our goals and funny stories from our past. Afterward I asked if I could kiss her and she said yes.Fast forward three years and we've co-written a book together and started two companies together. She supported me through the painful process of writing my memoir. I supported her through a serious traffic accident that hospitalized her. We've shared a ton of new experiences together, lived together in a camper van on a book tour, spoken together at conferences.Yes, a picnic is a marvelous first date. Absolutely marvelous.
Is fine dining a waste of money?
The answer is highly dependent on one's perspective.One thing is clear: a $200 meal feels exactly the same as a couple of $2 hot dogs, after it is in your stomach. After the meal, there are no discernible physical sensation differences between an expensive meal and a cheap one.Now, on to the money. Is it worth it?If you're a regular working stiff, and treat yourself to an expensive, very nice, once-a-year meal with someone special, it can represent a memorable and enjoyable experience. It is the infrequency that makes it special, combined with the anticipation of having what you cannot have every day (due to budget constraints).Contrast that scenario to the $500K/year Wall Street banker, who is dropping several thousand dollars per month eating at fancy restaurants three to four times a week. The money spent is negligible comparative to his earnings. Sure, a finely prepared meal and a good bottle of wine is preferable to a hot dog and Coke. However, the high frequency of fine dining makes it significantly "less" appreciated than the first scenario described.Whether it is a waste, depends on if you can afford it. If you spend your rent money on a meal, it is a waste. If $300 is like the equivalent of buying a Big Mac to the working man, then I don't think it is.It's all relative.
What to wear ? first date with Virgo ma. don't look sexy at all?
Don't dress like a hooker from the streets Don't wear stain clothes Don't be to flashy or showy Don't show to much leg (Up to your knee or just a little above is okay.) Don't wear holy clothes Do dress neatly (Make sure there are not stains, tears or even wrinkles.) Virgo are neat freaks and will notice this right away. Dress comfy be yourself (Virgo can spot a fake a mile away.) Dress down to earth, Like earth tones No need to bright flashy clothes..Keep it real. Little make-up natural as possible eye's a little lip-gloss and a bit of perfume is okay (I spoke to many virgo men including my brother and two friends and they all tell me i rather smell a woman's natural order than smell a bottle of perfume Be yourself, Don't lie don't make up stories and let the Virgo lead you (Unless he ask you.) virgo love romancing there dates (Or those they like.) and don't forget to give him complements on how nice he looks and how good dinner is..Be friendly, and act like a lady..You don't have to be perfect just watch your Ps and Qs. Thats all I know
If a girl offers you a stick gum on a first "date" is she hinting at a kiss or...?
Ok, so here's the deal: I've gone to the movies twice, on two separate occasions, with two different girls that are both my friends. They're great girls but I'm not exactly sure I'm in love with them or really attracted to either. I just saw the movie "Just Go with It" starring Adam Sandler. Last time, I saw "Tangled" with this other female friend of mine (whenever that was first released). Don't get me wrong, they're both cute and have their..."quirks" but I'm not exactly dating material. In fact, I've never even had a girlfriend. I'm 20. That's a bit of a problem since I'm so inexperienced...In any case, both times, the girls offered me gum (they both chewed a piece too). Granted I took the stick of gum both times and both girls are technically single, I never thought much of it (until this very moment). Now my breath is not a problem as EVERY TIME I know that I'll be in the company of a girl, I'll always make sure to brush my teeth and gargle with mouthwash ahead of time. So, my question is: If a girl offers you gum on a first "date" (I don't even know if it's technically a "date" when it's just a female friend...) is she hinting at a kiss, bad breath (from the popcorn?!?), or something else? I don't do the whole "subtle gesture" thing. I'm oblivious to it. No joke. Tips?
What is the best type of food for a first date that isn’t expensive (usually)?
Date and food, quite relative when leaving an impression. If your partner knows you well it is not necessary to hike the atmosphere by costly lunches and grand entrances.It could be as simple as a grilled sandwich with juice or some fried stuff like pav bhaji.The main thing is compatibility neither one should feel nervous in grand venues nor other should feel low at medium restaurants to join your partner at a date.
Questions about dining at a fancy restaurant for the first time. What do I do?
1. Attire depends on the restaurant. You can usually get by with a collar shirt and khakis. Tie is usually not necessary. 2. Wine depends on what you eat. If you really don't know, red goes with red meat, white with fish and chicken. Be careful about asking the wine steward because he may push an expensive one on you. If you do speak with him, do not be afraid to ask price and tell him you want a moderately priced choice. 3. Use your silverware starting with the piece farthest from the plate and work your way in. The dessert fork is often at the top of the plate. Hold your date's chair for her. Put your napkin in your lap. If your date leaves for the bathroom, stand when she comes and goes. When eating bread, tear or cut into an individual-sized bite and butter each piece individually when you are ready to eat it. Do not bite off a bite. Do not butter several pieces in advance. Do not blow your nose at the table. Enjoy.
Is it a man's duty to pay for the first date?
sure, why not. but it would be intelligent conversation to discuss how it would be handled in any future dates. the woman often stays mum and continues to assume the man will pay which of course will happen when the guy says nothing about it. if i was a woman i would lose respect for a man who payed all the time without ever discussing it. but of course i’m not and that would rarely happen.i’m sure that with millenial’s, most of them are hoping someone, anyone will pay for drinks and food because they are all pretty broke, lol. and the young females learn very quickly that they often do not have to pay for all that much. so.. you do learn a lot about someone’s character when you discuss the issue of who pays. any woman who is all about take take and take some more without giving back will eventually find that respect for her is diminished. and any guy that constantly tries to get someone else to pay will also lose respect with his peers.in my friendships we have agreed that everyone pays for their own stuff when we are out and that works out great. now and then one of us will treat the others but that is only if they intend to and want to like for a special occasion or if someone is lacking for some cash.i think it would be a great idea, for first dates…. first, the man decides on the restuarant/grill and then pays. then… the woman decides on the venue and plans the second date and then pays. but i can see already in saying that, that it defeats the concept of ‘dating’ because supposedly the males are chasing and it is the women who are being ‘dated’.by the way… girls. most guys have no problem w picking up the tab so… don’t feel guilty on my behalf. but do feel guilty if you are so weak that you cannot pick up the tab now and then.