Is it unhealthy not to date or experience romantic intimacy?
I am an almost 30 year old man and I have not yet experienced having a girlfriend or any form of real intimacy (first kiss/passionate hug). I might like to have a relationship one day, but probably not until my mid to late 30s. I simply have no time with my studies, job and community involvement. The free time that I do have is spent sleeping (especially on weekends) and maybe hanging out with friends for a couple of hours. Having a girlfriend is akin to another full-time job, I know that much is true. Here is the question: Is it true that I will be socially stunted or have girls finding me "creepy" because of my lack of experience? As of right now I don't think I ever want to get married or have kids, but I would like to experience a relationship first to make a more definitive decision.
Why does my husband not want to have sex or intimacy with me anymore?
Let me also say that we have discussed this. As I said he says he cannot perform which I dont get..If you have ED then wouldnt it effect oral or a handjob? I mean I am a nurse, I am not stupid. He says he asked the doctor but the doctor said that he didnt want him to get on any meds. He is diabetic and he has high cholesterol. Could lose some weight, which we both could but has never stopped him before. I just dont understand why it only effects me. He always turns the table like "how do you think it makes me feel"..well how does he think I FEEL when I am doing this for HIM and in the meantime....when he is working or whatever I have to find myown "outlet"...I am so hurt sorry for being blunt
WOMEN: Do your men go into an intimacy cycle where they go into their man caves?
I'll notice that my boyfriend will, on average, a few days a month, pull away. Most of the time it has to do with work. If he's had a bad day at work he won't even go out for drinks with his friends! He'll usually be very quiet, distant, and act preoccupied with video games or something else. Just not his usual self. A few days later he's back to normal, affectionate and ready for whatever. As a woman I can't help but think I've done something wrong or he doesn't love me when he goes into this weird funk. After being together for well over a year I've noticed it happens often and seems like a pattern. Anyone else deal with their guy going into man cave mode? What happens? How do you deal with it and how does it make you feel?
I'm afraid of sex and intimacy.?
When sex has been associated with such boundaries and treated as a taboo subject at home and in the company you share it is natural for you to be fearful . We are all , as humans fearful of the unknown . It is crucial that you are careful with who you have a physical relationship with . Make sure that he is a man that knows you very well , that you feel very comfortable expressing yourself with . Once this is established explain how you feel about sex and the environment in which you have been brought up . It might be a good idea to stay within your religious group as men from a similar background may be able to relate or at least have an established understanding of your fears and of your situation . Ease yourself into physical contact , it is important that you gently ease into it touching , the idea even of physical contact and you understand that it is not threatening , make sure your man is understanding nad has a gentle , patient nature . Don't live in fear, express your concerns to those who may be able to help and with whom you feel comfortable and valued . You need to feel safe and at ease with your sexual partner , it is very important for you . It will come in time , try and be more open and don't allow the uncertainty to prevent you from exploring your sexuality and the importance of physical contact and affection . Sex is beautiful if practiced in a secure comfortable relationship in which you communicate well and appreciate each other . also it may be beneficial to speak with a woman , possibly an older woman who is around your age , 25 28 , who is sexually active and from a similar background , express your fears and discomfort and ask her if she experienced the same and how she overcame it . Good luck sweetheart
Newlywed Intimacy Issues?
Well after a hard days work he doesn't want sex so much as sleep and getting over a cold doesn't make sex any easier. You need to talk with him with out distractions. Try sex ting him and sending him dirty pics at work, if you can put him in the mood for it before he gets home your odds will be better. Try wearing sexier clothing around him or walking around nude or half clothed in a short skirt with no panties and a bra and text him at work or whisper in his ear that when comes home that you aren't wearing any and immediately change the subject to dinner. Take up aerobic striptease and lap dancing lessons for exercise there are some good instructional DVDs online that will get his attention. Read cosmo a lot they have a different sexual position to try posted every week. And a good dinner on the table when he gets home will put any man in the mood for sex unless he is so stuffed afterward that he is to full for sex in which case it will have backfired but you will still end up with a happy husband. Tease him but make him feel like he is the one pursing you don't come on to him right away don't go for the goodies as soon as he walks through the door touch his arm and flirt a little ask him how his day was. Sex isn't just about sex and even guys need to feel an emotional connection so kiss him first thing when he walks through the door, give him a chance to go pee, then ask how his day was and actually listen and offer him dinner only after doing this things is it prudent to bring up sex, and if he feels that you care about more than his body he will be more likely to accept your propositions. You husband is more than a sexual creature.