I don't want to invite someone to my party?
I am going to have the coolest birthday party ever, and I am inviting all my best friends. But there is one person I do not want to invite. It is my cousin who lives next door. She is super spoiled, doesn't like me, is rude and mean to me, groups off with my friends in the middle of my parties, and carries drama wherever she goes. I don't know how to not invite her without her finding out and getting into a fit. I don't want to be mean, but I don't want to just pretend to be okay with her coming to my party. What should I do?
How can I tell my cousin to leave my home as I don't want to make him feel bad?
It depends upon behavior of ur cousin which is annoying ur family.If it is sth trivial say playing loud music, nt cleaning room, not helping in common household chorus, smoking etc. then you just talk to him to change his behavior. You can't throw him out of ur house for such things as family, even the extended family, is important in our life.bt if it involves abusing family members, pervert behavior, consuming drugs than throw him out and tell him the reason why u r doing so. Family members are impt bt every family member is supposed to follow certain norms and rules.
Don't want to hang out with my cousins anymore?
Basically i'm 15 and I have 2 cousins who are closely around my age who live local to me. I've hung out with these 2 quite often in the years gone by, but I've grown to dislike them. My slightly older cousin (16) I found kinda boring and a bit of a liar. The other is 14 and I think is all right though he messes around a bit too much. Well over the last year theyve always wanted to come to my house probably cos its better than theirs, and I have felt like theyve been taking adavntage. As well as that when we buy stuff I tend to be the one who often chips in the most, though I would say that its a close run thing. They always call me to hang out and I make up some BS excuses getting my parents often to say that I've gone out with friends. However this doesnt really help make us drift apart as usually it just serves as a delay as they call up later. I feel like a coward when I continually use excuses and though they often buy it the suspicion of my older cousin is sometimes present. Thing is since they are my family who I cant escape for the rest of my life I dont wanna like burn bridges cos im gonna see them often should I tell them straight I dont wanna hang out with you anymore or should I keep them 'sweet' by saying Im busy. Personally I plan to broaden my list of friends by making new ones and joining a football team to keep myself occupied. Im thinking of telling my cousin when he next calls that I dont wanna hang out and when he says why Im not really sure what to say without saying the obvious I dont wanna hang out with you cos your boring and la la la. Im thinking of just saying I cant be bothered and like it'll be boring. But then he/theyll say something like so what you gonna do just stay at home, so I should probbaly say I'm busy regardless of whether I am or not right?! look at how crazy im getting ffs!
Should I skip my 1st cousin's wedding? I don't want to go but my parents will probably force me.
Cindy Garcia Thanks for asking for my opinion. I think that both Rosa Machado and Bethany Kennedy gave you excellent answers. Three thoughts in addition …Sometimes in our lives there are not any “DO-OVERS” available. Better to go and be - what - Bored? Uncomfortable? or ? - than not be there. No point in feeling disappointed in your choice to not go later in your life. Plan ahead for the time there. I would expect that you have a cell phone. Be sure it is fully charged and that you have things to read on it - obviously not things with volume!And, as you said “… my parents will probably force me” to go, I suggest another benefit to you if you do go. Go pleasantly. If you are resentful, mad, complaining, you will only be punishing yourself if you are going anyway. One less argument with parents, especially if you are kind enough to yourself Cindy, to behave graciously. As they say - SAVE THE BATTLE for something more important to you.Once at an event, as a newly-wed, someone gave me a piece of advice that has served me well throughout my whole life. It was a corporate party for the company where my husband worked. I went willingly but very nervous. I stood in the corner and didn’t interact much. Then a man I only knew slightly came over to me and spoke to me. When he asked why I was standing by myself, I replied that I was uncomfortable. He said, “Just get over yourself and look around the room for someone who is less comfortable than you are. Go to that person, speak to them and you will forget to be focused on your discomfort.” I took his advice and have been doing that for over 50 years now!COME BACK WITH AN EDIT and let us know how it went for you - OK? All the best - Lynn
Was it ok for my cousin to spanked me?
Im 13 and my cousin is 23, were pretty close and some weekends I spend at his house. Well one night I was at a party with my older friends and boy friend who is 16, and was having alot of fun drinking and whatever. When I was making out with my boy friend I noticed my cousins close friend and took off but im pretty sure he was ganna tell my cousin. When it came around to the weekend he picked me up and didnt say one word the whole car ride there and then when we got ther he dragged me in by my arm and put me on the couch and started screaming at me! He didnt even let me talk!! And then out of no where he says hes ganna make sure I dont make this mistake again and pulls me up over his lap and spanks me! He even used his belt!! And I told him to just tell my parents and he said they wouldnt do anything besides yell at me and not give me what I really need. (The parent thing is sorta true, they kinda let me do whatever I want) Was this fair?
I really really don't like my cousin...?
she always makes fun of me on mistakes i made in the past. even though she was born in this country, she went back to the homeland and came back 2 yrs ago. shes 17, im 15 and she never stops bugging me. she became friends with my friends and never treats them that way. she tries to physically wrestle or whatever even tho i had back surgery in oct. she comes to my house and makes remarks about how messy i am, and what i should do to clean it. i wrote her a letter last nite via email, cuz even if i tried to say it to her face she wouldn't listen or let me finish. it was long and i told her how she hurt my feelings and stuff. i have to see her this weekend for a mutual friends graduation party. i told her in the letter not to bring this up then cuz its our friends party and her day. what do i say to her if she insists we talk about? i dont even really want to see her ever. this has been going on for 2 yrs. thanks in advance =)
Sometimes i just dont want to hang out with my cousin?
my cousin is 9 years old and i am 13. she always wants to hang out with me and go to all of my parties. i honestly dont want her to go. she always talks with my friends and tries to steal them from me. i want to have some time alone with my friends to talk and hang out but she is always there to boss us around.OH AND DID I TELL U SHE WAS BOSSY?! what shuld i do?
My mom won't let me hang with my cousins anymore?
My mom doesn't want me to hang with my cousin no more, because she's bad influence. The thing is, my cousin likes to party a lot. She's super funny, popular, and everyone either loves her or hates her. She has really good grades and she even helps me with my homework, thing is my mom said I cannot hang with her anymore because she's tOo 'wild." And she always has an excuse like, "her mom doesn't know how to act right, all they wanna do is party." Blah blah. "They're always ghetto and ratchet, stay away from them." But my Aunt is smart, and she has a good job, and went to college.. and she always takes us out, while my mom forces me to read books, study and eat the same boring meal everyday.. please how can I tell my mom I want to keep in touch with my aunt's family??
At a family party I caught my cousin and the neighbour kissing in the backyard, the problem is my neighbour is married and I’m friends with her husband, should I tell him or act like I didn’t see anything?
Mind your own business. The road to hell is paved with good intentions, my dear.You might privately mention to your cousin ONLY that you saw something really unusual in the backyard during the family party. You couldn’t really tell what it was but you thought you might have seen her there. Then let it go. Don’t say anything to anyone else especially her husband.If she wants to talk further, just tell her that if you saw them, the chances are going to be good that, eventually, someone else will. You aren’t going to tell anyone else but you’d appreciate it if she kept it away from the family’s homes, at the very least. You can’t demand that she stop her behavior but let her know not to shit where she eats.Good luck!