Is it ok to wish your parents would divorce?
Your Dad is a controlling bully. He won't change. Your Mom likely stays and takes the abuse so you have food on the table and a roof over your head. Help her around the house, don't badger her about how your Dad treats you and her, do your best in school, spend time in your room or at friends homes, and stay out of his way. Plan at night for the time you head off to college. Maybe your Mom will leave him then after you have graduated and moved out. Don't be hard on her....she may be doing what she thinks is best for you. Go give her a hug and tell her you love her. She needs to hear it.
I wish my parents could divorce. What should I do?
If you are saying this - would it be because the fight all the time or they are unhappy together or because they are not good for each other's emotional well being?If this is the case, and you have a good relationship with them, one option would be to sit down with both of them and to explain to them how you feel, and what you think would be a solution.Importantly, you need to understand BEFORE you have this discussion, that you don't have ANY right tell them what to do, or to get involved in their marriage at all.You must also understand that by sitting down with them you might upset them terribly, and create further problems, even more than their are now, and that's likely to be as a result of your doing. You will have to accept the responsibility for that.The other option would be o stay out of the matter. Let them conduct the marriage the way they want to, and try find a way to either move out , if it's affecting you, or to get involved in things that will be beneficial to you, and take up your time. Consider volunteering at a charity? It might help you, and you might well meet new interesting people.
I wish my parents would get a divorce?
I really wish my parents would get a divorce. They had quite a few bumpy spots when they would yell and fight and not talk to each other at all. When I was younger I hope it would just pass but now I just wish they would get a divorce. None of them are happy and they-mostly my mom-turns their anger onto me because they feel i'm old enough to deal with it-i'm only 14. I've decided who I want to stay with and even though i'll miss having both parents, I want them to divorce. Is it wrong of me to think this way? Ps:I'm not happy in this family either because when my family is at home, they just make me pass messages to each other or my mom just yells at everyone for no reason and always wants to pick a fight.
I wish my parents would get divorced?
god my parents fight non-stop, over the stupidest stuff. My dad is an alcoholic ( i know i didnt spell that right) and my mom just puts up with it. I know it is tearing my family apart and i have repeatly told my mom that i wish they would get divorced, but they wont, even though my mom wants to. I dont know what im going to do but i feel like once i go to college that i might not come back. Every night i want to cry, because i hate the fighting and i hate anytime my dad drinks. I also feel bad for my brother who will have to deal with this alone after I'm gone. I dont know what to do. I cant talk to anyone about this because no one understands, everyone loves my dad and i feel bad trash talking him because he is my father. i dont know what to do, i just wish they would get divorced it would solve so many problems. This isnt really a question but i just needed to vent my feelings. Anyone can comment on this and give advice or just share there thoughts. And it feels good to get this out of my system so if you read this Thanks.
Are your parents divorced...?
No, they're not. They almost got divorced a couple of times but they decided to work on their marriage. I'm so glad they did :) Now everyone is grown up and moved out of the house and they're still together. That's too bad that your parents are divorced. I guess you could use this experience for good. Now you know that you should never get divorced and make that a goal. You could also promote saving marriages. Too many people don't try to save their marriage, they just take the easy way out and get a divorce without thinking of the kids.
Do you sometimes wish that your parents would get a divorce?
My parents were married a little over 41 years before their divorce was final and let me tell you that was a little over 41 too late. My parents loved one another i n their own way, I suppose but the con s of their relationship far outweighed the pros. Their insecurities, anger, fighting, and resentment filled the emotions for my brothers and I all through childhood. I became a very anxious person. My ADHD was harder to control and the OCD was a foreboding presence in my life everyday. So I began compensating by doing any and every extracurricular activity I could and become so engrossed in it all I didnt think about how life was at home and kept so busy I was exhausted every day.My parents were emotionally dependent on one another. So if on e of them was angry with the other. They would turn that anger on to myself or one of my brothers. They put themselves first constantly and my brothers and I were told to be thankful because they were our parents and that meant they deserved the utmost respect. My parents always just saw us as pawns against one another or they saw us as leeches taking away the life they wanted because we were born.Their own happiness was adrift that they tried like hell to make us unhappy as well. It was really hard being in that life growing up. To stay I am screwed up is putting it lightly. I have come a long way in admitting a lot about my childhood and not allowing myself to be hurt by it anymore.So yes I used to try and help my mom leave. I offered to work full time and go to school full time to help her take care of ,y brothers but she never would. It still really makes me mad and hurts me to know my brothers and I just werent enough for her to leave my dad. She was more worried about having a man love her than the well being of her own children. She eventually left my dad but that was only because she had a couple boyfriends on the side and got caught. She never took responsibility for her decisions leading to their divorce. Surprisingly my dad did acknowledge his role.Some people shouldnt be together and if you know a couple like that then tell them. Be honest with them because alot of the time they ar3nt just hurting one another there are more people/children involved.
Is it bad that I want my parents to get a divorce?
No it is not bad to think that your parents should get a divorce. It is sad. I’m sure it makes you sad but you are not bad for thinking it. You are probably a very intelligent, insightful person for realizing it. I’m sure their relationship is making your life a living hell. Sometimes parents stay married thinking it is the best thing for a child, but sometimes staying married and having your children witness all of the ugliness and pain is the worst thing for a child.
I want my parents to get a divorce...?
Firstly, you have my sincere sympathies for what you are going through. Growing up, I have always wanted my parents to divorce for similar reasons so i totally know where you're coming from. given that, i want you to humor me for a minute and think about this... imagine that your father is a fire burning out of control. if your mom sticks her hand in the fire repeatedly despite getting burned each and every time, who is to blame for her doing that? if she then grabs your hand and sticks it in the fire repeatedly, then who would you say accountable for that? the idea i want you to ponder over is that your mother is NOT the victim here. knowing that your dad is a sick man who probably can no longer help or control his actions, your mother willingly continues to not only subject herself to him for whatever strange reason but also she is compromising your safety because she is not able to let go of him. i was mad at my dad's abusiveness for a very long time but then i realized that my mom kept subjecting herself to it because in some sick way, she enjoyed getting the pity and attention from my sisters and i. do you see that in your family or is it a different situation altogether? i recommend that you read a book called "bad childhood - good life" by laura schlessinger. i think you might find it really helpful in understanding your situation and how to cope. in particular, read chapter six: never seek love from the devil. i wish you much luck and hope you hang in there!