Is It Normal For A Female Friend To Care A Lot About A Guys Love Life

Why don't women fall in love with guys who really care for them?

Read this carefully. It might answer your question.A guy I knew from high school happened to be a “nice guy”. I never was interested in him but did believe he would land a girl just as sweet as him someday. He was so sweet. He and I would talk occasionally. He seemed like an approachable guy who wouldn’t behave like a butt hole like some others I knew. He would help out people a lot and was kind. Sometimes I would think how someone like him could be single. He wasn’t a go-getter type when it comes to girls.This guy never showed any interest in me and went on to date some girls in college. We did not get to meet face-to-face after high school. I once noticed him grinning when a bunch of his friends they made misogynistic jokes on my girl friends. Soon after college, he texted me once and showed interest in me. I was shocked. I never really saw him as anything more than a nice friend. That was all. But alas!I had to respond whether I accepted his advances or not. I rejected him. I was asked for a reason. I told him that I only saw him as a nice friend. He was heart-broken (I believe). He asked me again and again. I denied him each time. Then he asked me the reason as well. I told him with full honesty that I did not like him that way. He once texted me. “The girls; they all tell me that I am a very nice guy.” I was like, “Me too. But that doesn't make me attracted to you romantically.” He is still waiting for me to say yes, even after I specifically told him that I wasn’t interested in him.Did you guys notice it? Did you notice why I outright denied this nice guy?There was the misogynistic take. Any guy, not matter how sweet, if he is misogynistic on the inside, there’s no point.He kept using his sweetness to get me. I don’t like guys just because they are sweet. I have certain criteria which guys need to fit if they want me to perceive them as attractive guys. Some of which include a passion to travel, not being a chauvinist and admit mistakes when he’s wrong, not blindly following someone when he knows they are wrong, chivalry and similar interests as me. He didn’t fit all the categories.Just because you’re a nice guy, doesn’t mean that girls should feel lucky if you like them. Being sweet is a good thing. But if that’s all you’ve got, then your pool of selection will be limited. There is more to life than just sweetness.

My boyfriend has a lot of female friends. They text him as often as I do, and it makes me jealous. They even send him selfies and want him to send selfies back. It feels like they're waiting for us to break up. How do I let go of this frustration?

In a way, this is completely normal and a scenario that happens all the time. As a guy, I can attest to the fact that, regarding attention from women, "when it rains, it pours." Basically, whenever I've been in a relationship, a ton of other women come out of the woodwork all of a sudden, and are flirtatious with me. This causes a point of friction with my girlfriend, who hates the "competition". I'll tell you a version of what I tell my girl.They aren't popping up because I woke up today and suddenly found myself richer and hotter; they only want me now because they see that someone else has me. People want what they can't have, this seemingly goes double for attraction. Any smart man understands this, and doesn't let it phase him. Moreover, being in a relationship must mean that I'm dateable and date-worthy - that is, someone finds me attractive, thus I must be! So, my social "stock" (for lack of a better term) goes up, raising my perceived "value," which raises demand even further (which raises my value even more, and on and on).What does all this nonsense mean for you? That as a smart "investor," you picked a winning stock early on, and are reaping the rewards. Does Warren Buffet get jealous when he makes a stock pick, and everyone and their dog tries to buy in as well? No, he kicks back, satisfied with his investing acumen, and (in my mind's eye) says "suck it bandwagoners!" As should you: you made a good pick, and now everyone else is trying to say "ooh I want in too!" But he's yours, and you should be a little smug instead of jealous. Confidence in your boyfriend and his fidelity is key. If you act neurotic and jealous, he'll either a) eventually get frustrated and wonder why you're so insecure (ie are you worried he'll find someone better? maybe he should?); or b) understand your insecurity, and leverage it to get his way. Either option isn't good, to put it mildly. So outflank his friends, be confident because it's sexy and self-assuredness is self-perpetuating. (It's a fine balance between arrogance and confidence, so be mindful!) His friends will smell you being the confident alpha, and know that your bond is unshakeable by those who occupy the cheap seats in the stadium. And remember: just as much as you picked him, HE picked YOU as well - not any of those other girls! So shoulders back, chest out, and eyes up…you're the alpha in the room, and never forget it.

I get very possessive about my best friend. I care a lot about her. I do every possible thing for her. But somehow she hurts me unintentionally. What should I do? How do I deal with my possessiveness?

It is OK to be possessive about your friends. But let there not be a jump from possessiveness to obsessiveness in your friendship. No relationship grows if you try to stifle it by imposing your self on the other person. If you call her your best friend, you must understand that she needs her own space. Don't expect her to spend all her free time with you and make you the centre of her universe. Everyone has a different perspective towards friendships; accept that and move ahead. Otherwise, you risk losing your best friend to your overt possessiveness. It is up to you if you are willing to take that risk.Now, you also stated that she hurts you unintentionally. Again, very natural because she is a human being and humans tend to do that. More so it happens in case of our best friends and loved ones because we usually take them from granted. So what you can do is, communicate to her how much you value her and tell her that you feel hurt by the concerned actions / words. If that doesn't work, it is time for you to take a step back and re-evaluate your friendship.Good luck! :)

Why do girls keep guys around as really close friends that are in love with them, when they are not romantically interested?

I know I'd draw a lot a lot of flak for this but, the harsh reality is that"It is the emotional equivalent of sexual exploitation."Different genders have assumed different positions in society. They have willingly/unwillingly become the providers (and controllers) of certain services to the other gender.Men have become the providers of (Pardon me) entertainment, financial services, and emotional support.Women have inadvertently become the providers of sexual favors.A balanced relationship, is somewhat a fair trade between the two parties, wherein each feels to have gained something. (and none feels at loss)Why do women do it ? Why would you want someone to care for you, entertain you, or do stuff for you ? Why indeed ?But, don't men do it too? Sure they do. If some girl, provides me with sexual favors without having to reciprocate in some way (in similar proportions), I'd happily accept it. Most (read all) men would. Would you consider it exploitation, if the girl actually believed this would lead on to something ?Keeping somebody hanging, leading them on with a false hope of achieving something, is exploitation.Is it legally wrong ? In most places, no. (Well except for my wonderful India, where if somebody commits suicide, the other party may be considered having driven them to it. And the wonderful law, where premarital sex with the pretext (fancy, for hope) of marriage is considered rape.)But, is it morally wrong ? To me, yes. I feel guilty for having used somebody, being aware of their intentions. (I have lead on a lot of girls, but I feel remorse for what I have done, and don't, anymore.)It's not about fixing blame. But if someone, anyone, feels hurt, because of me; I could've done it better.

Do guys care about girls’ feelings?

Rarely, if it’s girls in general. There’s just too many girls in the world, and they blend into one homogeneous group on that scale.But most guys care about the feelings of a girl they like, are close to or have as a relative. After all, only sociopaths don’t care about someone’s feelings.From time to time, guys can be cruel, just like girls can be cruel. But generally, guys don’t really know how a girl feels unless the girl tells them. Here’s a typical guy joke.“Guy: Is something wrong?”“Girl: No nothing’s wrong.”“Guy:OK.”“Girl: How can you just say that when something’s obviously wrong.”I don’t know if girls get the above joke, but I assure you, most guys do.You see, guys are generally brought up differently to girls - I don’t know how much is nature and how much is nurture, but typically, we don’t press another guy about how they feel. If they have a problem, they’ll tell us. In very specific terms. Otherwise, everything is OK. This is fairly endemic to “guy” culture the whole world over.So unless a girl makes it clear that her feelings are being trampled on, most guys might pick it up, but would generally be predisposed to ignoring it unless the girl says something.Of course, from time to time, a guy is aware of a girl’s feelings and still tramples on them - especially if she’s not someone of interest to them. But that’s not specific to guys. Girls do that to a lot of guys as well, and I can assure you there’s no lack of bitterness to this in either gender.But generally, if a girl thinks a guy isn’t concerned about their feelings specifically, then they are incorrect. Most likely, they are just hurt about something and the guy doesn’t really have any concept of how deep the hurt goes.This is why communications are really very important. It’s the only way to tell someone how you truly feel.And if a guy’s hurt you, you need to tell him how you feel. But, if they are still a kid, don’t expect a reasonable or even a polite answer. Guys can be real jerks and fools while they are still maturing.

What is so wrong with a girl having male friends?

I'd like to play devils advocate to say the opposite, rather than yell into the echo-chamber and say there is no problem.Disclaimer, I don't think there is really a problem, just stereotypes.I think that one of the reasons why people think there is a problem with one or the other is the implications with a female only having male friends or the opposite.I'm gonna start with Male with only Female friends.When you see a guy with only female friends, there are several things that come to mind.The guy is desperate for female attentionThe guy cannot make friends with males and instead only talks to females.The guy wants to get into 1 or all of their pants.When we look at this list, there are some problems. 1 and 3 are sad (in the sense that they can't balance having male and female friends) and 2 just means they have some social problems with making friends.I think In this case 2 is the least sad and 3 is the most sad. In case 2 though, I think that if you can have female friends, you should be able to have male friends too. Maybe you have gotten bored of guys and just stopped talking to them. I think that happened to me in high school, I just got bored of guys because girls were just better at talking and that's pretty much what I wanted to do.For females there are different set of “social rules” and possible stereotypical explanations.The girl wants male attention.The girl can't make friends with other girls.The girl want's the get into one of all of their pants.I think someone already mentioned in theirs answers that one of the things that comes to mind is with girls being drama queens and starting so many fights that others reject that girl and she can only hang out with guys. I know some people like this and it happens. Sometimes it isn't their fault because I know sometimes especially younger groups of people choose something really stupid to defriend someone for and them rumor are garbage.Honestly we can say there are no problems and maybe there aren't but there are stereotypes for a reason. Are they fair? No but neither is assuming a bear will attack you for petting her cub. We have evolved to be stereotypical and it works.Basically, there are stereotypes that are looked down upon and humans, even if they don't look down on them, will have a slight bias against it.