Can I kick my roommate's boyfriend out?
It's generally a violation of a lease/rental agreement for someone to be living at the rental without being listed on the lease/rental agreement. And, I don't mean that they have to have signed the lease as a cosigner. I mean they have to be listed on the lease as a resident. So, you do have some leverage here. But, that would be to tell your roommate to tell her boyfriend not to come over so much, or you'll report that to the landlord. If she balks, just be prepared to follow through with it. And, be prepared for her to not be so friendly to you any more. If worst comes to worst, you can get out of that lease for his violation of it. But, you will probably lose your deposit and may even have to pay an additional penalty to break the lease.
I hate my roommate's boyfriend!!?
This guy really deserves a strong punch....!!! Okay, I feel it is better to move to another place... tell you are parents that u r in such kind of trouble., and they are parents.., they will surely support you to move away... try to convince them... Neither your roommate nor that guy is listen to you... it seems like they are not going to change.. Either you have to accept all these things[which I personally feel, no one can] Or, just leave them...
My roommate has her boyfriend sleep over a lot. How much is too much?
I live with 2 girls in a 3 bedroom apartment. One of my roommates has her boyfriend sleep over almost every other night. Wen he is there he is usually in our common areas watching tv on the couch. Although they are nice, I pay for a room in a 3 person apartment but it feels more like 4 and it's bothersome. Do I have a right to be annoyed?
Should I ask my roommate's boyfriend to pay rent?!?
You are correct in being upset with your roommate and her boyfriend for taking advantage of a this situation but you need to approach it in a diplomatic manner. The Boyfriend technically pays for his room in the barracks. It's already withdrawn from his pay so he never sees it, however he may not have enough rank to be allowed to live off post. Your roommate is making an assumption that it is fine for her boyfriend to spend all the time there using utilities and space etc. I would ask to speak to both of them and bring up these points. This is an opportunity to set up guidelines for the house. Write them down on paper (so you don't stray from your ideas.) Stay calm and ask if they have solutions as well as present yours. Explain that you are upset because it appears that the boyfriend is getting a free ride compliments of you. Explain that you want everyone to remain friendly but something has to change for the better. A simple solution may be for the boyfriend to stop staying there every night. Hope it works out for you.
How do you tell your roommate that their boyfriend/girlfriend is encroaching on your space w/o offending them?
The reason you;re having these problems in the first place is because they know they can take terrible advantage of you and you won't say anything. As the saying goes, "NO one can take advantage of you without YOUR permission." I can see from the wording of your question that you have made yourself a virtual doormat...you worry about offending people who eat your food, use your stuff and your parking space and wake you up at 5AM????? You don;t want to cause problems with people who treat you like dirt? Seriously, you need to stand up for yourself; starting with laying down ground rules re touching your stuff, taking your space and eating your food. Simply say that you have not said anything until now because you were hoping things would improve, which they have not, and now you must let them know they need to stop taking advantage of you..and tell them exactly what you're referring to...eating your food taking your stuff using your space waking you up etc and if they do not honor your request you are moving out (or make them move out, one or the other) but you cannot and will not continue to live this way. If you do NOT assert yourself and tell them point blank what is going on then you will continue to live the way you have been...and you give them permission to take advantage of you. I boils down to who is more important to you, them or yourself.
My roommate's new boyfriend won't go home?
My fiance and I recently took in my friend and her toddler to help her out. She was living with her dad who wasn't nice to her or her son, even getting physical with them, and it was only a 1 bedroom apartment. I will admit that we also benefit from her rent because we got a little behind. Upon her moving in she did not have a bf, but we did speak our opinions about if she were to get one, that we didn't want him over constantly staying the night. I told her I didn't mind once in a while, as I would want the same respect, but that I'm not looking for yet another roomate. Recently she got a boyfriend who I don't dislike, but he is over every single night. The only time he leaves is to go to work. I brought it up to her attention that he is over too much and all she says is, well this is my house to now, and I pay rent. My fiance doesn't even back me up, saying that he would want the same respect and that since she pays his way it's fine. I feel imposed on, and quite franqualy worried because my fiance works night shifts and my friend hasn't known him for more than 2 weeks. My landlord won't even back me up either. I asked her why she never goes over there and she said it's closer to his work so he likes staying here. This apartment is too small for us all. Short of kicking her out is there anything I can do? I feel like I signed my rights away and my house is no longer my home. :(
How long can a roommates's friend stay over? And how much rent should he bear if that is fair to ask him?
If a "friend" stays longer than a week, then it's time to have a discussion about the nature of their visit. If your roommate refuses to do this or uses the subtle pressure/threat of his paying more rent/utilities than you, then you really only have three choices:Involve the landlord in the matter - This comes with risks as if your roommate or his friend take the landlord's inquiries poorly, you could potentially all be evicted. You also risk the roommate moving out and having to meet his share of the rent/utilities.Tolerate it until it ends - It's likely that your roommate will expect his friend (unless they are sexual partners) to eventually pony up money for the rent, utilities, food or intoxicating substances. If or when that doesn't occur, he'll be ready for the friend to leave and then that person will have to go.Move - If your roommate will not move his friend out and going to the landlord produces nothing, you may have move out yourself. However, since you have roommates, it's pretty clear that you cannot afford the apartment rents in your city. This should probably be your last resort.Good luck whatever happens,
My roommate's boyfriend is spending the night frequently. How do you deal with what's fair and what to tolerate?
I'm not seeing your comments… I'm looking.If you are renting, you have a perfect third party “"out.” Tell them both the manager or landlord limits staus to two weeks or he has to be added to the rental agreement and rent may go up. He probably also would have to income qualify to be on agreement.If he says “ok” - then decide if you want to move out or not. You can't control thrm.If he says “"No.” then suggest they get a place together and she moves out and you get a new roommate.At minimum he should chip in on electrify, gas and water bill.If they are having loud sex, and you are tired of it, tell her that she needs to respect that you rented based on one roommate not two. He's invading your space being there. It limits your ability to walk around half dressed for example.She either respects you or not. If not, break the rental agreement and move. Talk to landlord and disclose what's going on. Most likely landlord will support you and give her notice to move or reapply with him.You don't have to put up with this.WHAT’S FAIRTo me, one night a week for him to sleep over - maybe. More than that, no. And should ideally be the same night so you can make other plans.Beyond that, maybe you are more flexible than I am.
Should my boyfriend pay for the rent of the house that we rent with my friends for Christmas?
Should my boyfriend pay for the rent of the house that we rent with my friends for Christmas?My friends and me rent gorgeous house for the Christmas party at that time when I was dating with anyone...5 months ago. Now when everything is booked and I have pretty serious relationship with the guy, I invited him to this party. Me and my friends have already paid for our part, but cause now there is new person it means that amount should be splitted between more people. To be honest I have hard time to tell that to my boyfriend as the financial part is always so delicate. Is it okay if I tell him to pay? or should I just pay for him as invited him?Discuss the situation with your boyfriend and your friends all present.Find out what each person thinks should happen, and talk until you have a solution that everyone is at least mildly happy with.Is your boyfriend okay with paying his share? Are your friends okay with you inviting your boyfriend without him paying his share? Are you okay with paying his share?The only people who can answer the question of “Should my boyfriend pay rent for the house that we rent with my friends for Christmas” is you, your boyfriend and your friends.Those of us here on the internet can’t tell you that.