17 year old with no social life?
I would say I'm a normal 17 year old girl except for one thing: I pretty much lack a social life. I've never been to a high school party, never been asked out, never went to a dance, never been on a date, and the list goes on. Sure, I occasionally (3 weeks or so) go to my friend's house (only my best friend, and we just sit around for a couple hours doing nothing.) I feel out of place. My peers seem to be having so much fun and I feel isolated. I don't have much extracurriculars and most school days I come home and just watch TV or use the computer. At school I hang out with the Asian smart kids/nerds; they're cool people and fun to hang out with, don't get me wrong, but they are extremely studious and just like to play video games and such. I've no idea what I'm going to do for senior prom, as I am sort of tomboyish in clothing and hairstyle. None of my friends can envision me in an elegant dress and styled hair/makeup. Next year I'm going to college, staying in a dorm and the whole shebang. Even though I'm quite shy, I'm going to try my best to be sociable, but I'm afraid it's easier said than done. Was anyone like this and changed for the good once they got into university? I'm excited to see new faces, but I know I'll be really sad that my childhood is finally over and I'll miss my parents and home badly. Do you think physical appearance matters much? I actually hate how I dress and want to look more feminine, and I'd like to get a haircut as well. Hopefully it changes the way others perceive me (I want to look approachable at least :P).
I have NO social life.. 16 years old?
Not having a social life isn't a bad thing. At fifteen I dropped out of High School and began an online school at home because I was hanging around with the wrong people. I completely killed all ties with friends and for 3 years I had no social life to speak of. Slowly however I learned that the people I truly wanted to be around were those that were supporting of me, not the ones pressuring me to do things I wasn't comfortable doing. I started volunteering where you meet a lot of good people your age, and of all ages, who all have something good to offer. From there I met more and more people who instead of making my life worse, made it much better. Find a small church, animal shelter or group that does something and see if they need help. The people there are all nice, and many are very shy, but they will build your self esteem up like no one else will. And helping others will boost you up too. Learn to be happy by yourself too. I prefer to be alone a lot of the time and I know being alone is much better then being surrounded by those who are negative influences. The best of luck to you, just try not to be too hard on yourself, most of us have been where you are right now :)
Is it weird that I have no social life whatsoever?
I think in order to answer your question without harm it is necessary to have more information. Have you ever had in your life experience a social life? The reason why I ask is that if you are out in the world you will come into contact with people who will impart important life lessons to you and you never know when or where you might come across these times. If you are a very young person and have not yet left the bosom of your childhood room then it isn’t good and well not to have a social life, you have life lessons you must learn from face to face or side by side interactions with people of all ages and walks of life. Now if you are a person who has spent a life surrounded by the hustle and bustle of life and have come to a point that your soul craves the quiet of inner reflection then I think you should reward yourself to some time to yourself. This doesn’t mean that no social life is a total commitment to complete isolation. That is not healthy for humans. You must be able to go into society at one time or another for life’s responsibilities. If you are incapable to do so then you suffer from a medical condition that requires visits to a psychiatrist that will treat your anxiety with medication that will Assist in making the steps less traumatic, but the work is your still through talk therapy to develop tools to be able to mingle in society. If you can successfully do so, then you can with delight Choose all the solitude you seek without it being a handicap to your living a full life.
I'm 18 and have no social life?
I'm 18 years and I have never had a social life. When I was in primary school, I had about one best friend at a time and around age 11 after my best friend ditched me to be friends with someone else, I remember resenting all the girls in my class in their little groups and even though I was in a group, it was the least popular girls and I didn't even really like them. When I started secondary school I wanted to make new friends and get a social life. I made friends but they were kind of mean to me, and I was very very shy and insecure..I hung out with these friends in school and didn't really hang out with people at the weekends. I moved school at age 15 and went to live with my Dad and I was a lot happier in myself and found it much easier to make good friends at school and I was more confident and carefree and fairly well liked among my classmates. All the same, I was never able to bridge the gap between hanging out with people regularly at weekends and just in school. After I moved back to my mother's (long story) and to another school, I vowed to myself that I would have a social life this time. I kind of met the wrong people again and though I did make friends, they didn't provide much of a social life and they weren't real friends in the end like I thought. I'm 18 now and I have maybe 5 people in all I would consider real friends, but I never see most of them for various reasons. I don't have a best friend. I don't have a boyfriend. I don't have a social life. I have tried mixing with people - drama, dance classes, basketball.. I've tried mixing with the people in my class at school - I went to the cinema one time with a group of them which was fun and several months later I even forced myself to go all by myself to a function on a Saturday night where a lot of them were going and they encouraged me to come along and when I went there they were far away and didn't talk to me and I sat with another group of people who I kind of know but didn't enjoy a single minute of the entire evening. Even though I tried to socialise I was extremely uncomfortable and I think people were wondering why on earth I was there in the first place. I went home that night and just cried. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I have friends but they aren't interested in seeing me that often. I make an effort to mix with people and it's torture.
How do I build a social life for the first time if I'm 23 and I've never had a social life before?
Be opposite and open. After I left behind my "depression stage" and started working on my self esteem, I started making more friends.Do something that will surround you by people, help you build up your self esteem and have positive impact in your life in general.Go to gymTake a class and learn a new skill Go to a concert or eventGo on online, for example Facebook and talk with some people or make some comments at things you find cool and interesting (be careful, don't get addicted to Facebook).If you work, be more sociable with co-workers. Remember be open, positive and sociable. When you around people you can start a small chat by asking questions.
I'm not a social person. Is that weird/wrong? I'm 20 and never had a girlfriend?
YOUR A INTOVERT LIKE JUST LIKE MILLIONS OF OTHER PEOPLE INCUDING MYSELF.SOME PEOPLE ARE OUTGOING (EXTROVERT)THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH EATHER TYPE.ITS ALL NORMAL.
If I've never had a date and have no social life at the age of 25, does that mean I'm a loser in the eyes of women?
Depends on the woman. My husband majored in Physics for B.S., M.S. and Ph.D. , the field with the smallest percent of women. Then, he went to work in an area with very few women and since it was classified not even people passing through. As the other commenter, suggested, when I met him, I did wonder why he hadn’t been married or dated more women. It was just lack of opportunity on his part and he’s not a bar hopper type. It never crossed my mind that he was a loser. He was 40 when we met - I was a widow with 3 children. We’ve been married 20 years. Within 3 years he had gone from a 40-year-old bachelor to a father of 4 (we had a baby the first year we were married). He took this picture of our daughter last week when we were on vacation. Pretty sure she doesn’t think her dad’s a loser, either.
Is it normal to have never had a regular social life?
yes, some people are not meant to have ‘regular’ social exposure. We are built differently. Some do not need as much connection as others. Others function better with others. Some understand themselves best alone and bring things to their social groups. Others learn more about themselves while they are within a social group. We are all different in that regard.In my case, I am built to understand, create, and function alone. I bring my understanding to a social setting when I feel ready. I don’t need others to feel complete. I attract social experiences so much that some people would call me a social butterfly from how they see me, when they do see me. I feel that everyone I meet wants to engage with me. I used to think I had to respond to every call and be social. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to dismiss these calls. I now finally feel more like myself, at peace and I absolutely love being alone more than anything. Many people want to be friends with me. It’s urged me to be very picky with anyone I spend time with.My friend on the other case is merely the opposite. She develops herself and who she is through social connection. She has so many social interactions within a day, I wouldn’t be able to take it, but she thrives on them. They inspire her to grow and do more and more. It’s more than just simply being an extrovert or introvert. I also can get stimulated by people at times, but personally, I am created in a way that lets me grow alone. Not everyone is the same. You can learn more about yourself through very specific personality tests. If you or anyone is interested, please message me.All the best.