Is it wrong to ask my ex this favor?
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My boss asks a lot of personal favors of me.....?
No, not really, if you're not feeling threatened by the behavior. Is it getting annoying? Are these things that he can do and just doesn't do? Is he busy enough to warrant asking you? If you're feeling uncomfortable about it, you may try approaching him about it, respectfully of course. It's a possibility that he isn't realizing consciously that he's making you uncomfortable.
"Can I ask a favor of you?" OR "Can I ask a favor from you?" Which one is correct?
"Can I ask you a favor?" that one is correct or "Can you do me a favor?"
How to ask my girlfriend for a sexual favor? Is this wrong to do?
We're both 19 and have been dating for 3 months. We haven't moved past making out and we've talked about sex and we both want to wait awhile. However, i'm curious about other things we could do. We are each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend, I don't know if I should ask or if its wrong to ask. I'll admit that I have a LOT of sexual pent-up energy towards her and touching or oral would make me very happy (trying not to sound sex-crazed =P). Is this something a boyfriend can ask? If yes, then how do I ask? I feel embarrassed to ask and I'm not sure if it would pressure her.
My girlfriend asks me to do A LOT of small favors and its getting out of hand?
I've only been dating this girl for a month or so and so far so good. But one thing that's starting to bother me is all the small favors she's asking me to do. I don't mind helping her out every once in a while but its getting ridiculous. Little things like "can you go to the store and buy me a coke" or "can you get my phone from my dresser?" I'm well equipped to handle most any "**** test" women throw at me but this is a bit of a curve ball because she's not asking me to do anything out of the ordinary. All of her requests are perfectly reasonable, she's always polite and respectful when she asks and its always something i can do with minimal effort or time. The problem is she's asking me for these favors almost constantly now and its way too much. Dont get me wrong, its honestly no big deal for me to go out to her car and grab her purse for her but I'm her boyfriend...not her butler. How do I slow this down while maintaining my masculinity and WITHOUT being an asshole?
I don't feel comfortable asking for favors. What could be the cause?
Psychologically speaking, this would fall under the rule of reciprocation.Ever since the dawn of time, reciprocation played a huge role in humanity’s survival. If I did something for you, I know I can depend on you later on if I ever need help.Because of this unspoken rule, communities were able to foster and eventually grow. And for those that don’t follow this rule…They were shunned. Avoided. Possibly neglected and left to die.Let’s fast forward to modern ages (Why).At a relatively young age, we are taught the concept of give-and-take. If I give you something, in exchange, you should offer something that’s at least equivalent value in return.However, you can’t put certain values on specific favors (job connection, buying something for someone) It’s too difficult to measure. Hence we try to justify by doing similar favors that’s at least the same “value”.EX. I let you copy my homework and you buy me a drink later on.Unfortunately, there are some people that know this and take advantage of others using this principle.EX. Car salesman offer free drinks and snacks, then later on you feel obligated to purchase the vehicle because of reciprocation.You know it when it happens. It’s that uncomfortable feeling inside you. That distressing sensation where you are “forced” to do something you don’t want to do.Now. The rule of reciprocation is crucial for survival and the development of humanity. We need it but we don’t want to get exploited.What should I do then? (TLDR)► So what you should do is try and recreate what our ancestors did.► Surround yourselves with trusted people and loved ones that you know will reciprocate back and avoid those you know that tries to take advantage of you.► And above all, don’t purposely take advantage of other people for a small profit gain. It’s not worth it in the long run. If they find out what you did, you will be given the same treatment.
Do you have a hard time asking for favors from people?
No, I don’t. If I need something I ask for help. It is also important to know when something has the ability to overwhelm you and ask for help in a timely fashion.It is good to be needed. Everyone needs and likes this, so avoid being worried about asking for help.Be do make sure you return gestures too. No-one likes to have their generosity abused or be pumped for money all the time.It’s about being in balance.Example: We befriended a couple from an apartment on the next floor. She invited us to dinner. We had a genuinely good time. She said they were going on holiday and would I water their plants. I agreed. She then rang me from her holiday apartment and asked me to clean her living room while she was away. Ho Hum. I was not so happy about that.I am normally a pretty generous person - love helping people decorate (am good at this) just for fun, and doing the gardening. I love it, and once offered to do all my friends gardens as we had no garden where we were living. Given that they all complained about a lack of time for it, I was surprised they refused, but one accepted and it was a wonderful morning. The blossoms were out and she was so grateful for the weeding and my work on the lawn edge, she even made us soup and we had lunch together. This is the sort of thing I love, but it all depends on what is being asked for and on how this is expressed (phraseology and tone).You have to learn to read each situation well.On this occasion, I felt there was an undertone of her expecting me to be her servant and treating me like it. I was so embarrassed by it, I just mumbled something about being busy, but nowadays I would tell her ‘NO’ and I wouldn’t mince my words either.
Is it wrong to expect a little effort before you are asked to do a favor, even from your lover?
Reading good positive quotes in morning about imaginations of having money ,happiness, love _ are good at a point but sickness for long practical life. Yes, you have full rights to expect emotions and physical favor from your close one. Even if he/she is your lover. There is no one would be available when you are having a lover still wants to kiss you infront of them . I am reading many people, writing about unconditional love . But they have missed the core meaning of it. Love cannot exist if there are no “you and me”.How does expectations are arising? Because you both are committing, admitting love affection and care for each other. Why? This is only the higher relationship in side human society. When Two people has themselves, others stay away to their lives. In that case from where you are going to get help if its not your partner? Or relative? Be practical.Takers and givers — these two fypes of people are around you. When you are giver and missing the other part to sense equally he or she has this “giver’ act towards you-, but remains silent and leave you to think alone , know this surely -you are at wrong relationship. Slowly this onesided giving will be habit . No neighbour will come to change your house linen. Its the person you are sharing hope dreams money services, emotions, he or she has to .Expectation comes in relationships automatically. By giving one day you will be empty. Other part will assume always - you have done to him or her without expectation. so they have no responsibility for your actions. They will never count what they never did for you at the time of taking your selfless services. But true life philosophy is - life can be happy and balanced when we both becomes givers . That is only way to help each other to live in love without expectation. Both we must give to each other even before asking .No . Favor is in relationships should not be called as favor. That is bond if love exist in between.Thanks
Why does everyone ask me for favours?
Because you’ve built a reputation as somebody who will do it. Which isn’t really a bad thing. At least not until it becomes bad for you.You are not required to give exact reasons as to why you don’t want to do something. The whole point of asking is that the person being asked has the choice to reply either way, whether it’s the desired response of the asker or not or not. The only other alternative is force. It’s all about consent. So first you have to tell yourself that it’s OK to say no.The same way it’s OK for you to not have to have an excuse. Although at times an excuse or reason may give you a chance to be more understood, it can sometimes lead to the other person using your excuse to try to bargain with you and talk you into it.Here’s 3 examples;Giving in straight awayColleague: Can you cover my shift this evening?You: YesColleague: Thanks!While you’re thinking to yourself ah crap, why did I say yes!Making excusesColleague: Can you cover my shift this evening?You: umm, I can’t . I’d better get home I have a headache.Colleague: Oh , I have some Aspirins on me. Here. Now you can cover my shift, right?You: umm, I don’t have money for transport to get there and back.Colleague: That’s OK, I can pay for your bus fare. Now you can cover my shift , right?You(out of excuses): OK.Assertively saying no. Using repetition (The broken record technique)Colleague: Can you cover my shift this evening?You: No, sorry I can’t.Colleague: ah, why not?You: I just can’t this evening.Colleague: Oh come on, please.You: No, sorry I can’t.Colleague: Please, please, pleaaaase!You: No, sorry I can’t.Colleague gives up.This is a good technique is to use repetition or ‘the broken record’ when replying. When someone is trying to convince you to do something for them they may try to trip you up using your own excuse or reason. By repeating the same key message over and over “No, sorry I can’t…..I really understand your desperation but, No, sorry I can’t…” it makes it clear to the person that you are standing firm and they are not going to move you. Many will not waste their time and move on.JUST SAY NO. It doesn’t mean you’re not reliable and kind. Just that you have freedom of choice.