What would you do when someone says they hate Christmas?
So that they dont ruin your Chistmas. Do you think there is any way to change how they feel? What would you do to nudge them gently into enjoying Christmas? It isnt about the money, or the gifts because I have always believed Christmas is about being with good friends, or family, if you have any, great food, and just enjoying yourselves. I have never gone all out for Christmas, not since the kids were very little. What would you buy a man who says he doesnt want anything, doesnt need anything, doesnt think Christmas should be used as an excuse to buy things for people because it just another day. He doesnt mind chowing down on turkey and all the trimming though. No he isnt Jewish, or cheap, he is just a real grinch --
Is it wrong to not want to visit my extended family for christmas? (complicated)?
A little background: I am 22 years old and a child of divorced parents. I an only child grew up with my mother. Every christmas we would visit her family a couple hours away for three or four days. She had 8 siblings so it was always a little crazy, I guess I was close to them then. I havn't been in two years (one year i worked and last year I wasn't speaking with my mother) I have been having a lot of issues with my her since I stared becoming independant (teens) she is very controlling and hovering and had a drinking problem which made her anger issues even worse than they were. She was emotionally abusive for years and really effected my self-esteem. I decided to cut her out of my life in order to persue therapy and learn a bit about life ( i was very sheltered and knew very little about anything) and that lasted about a year. I have been seeing her for dinner weekly now for a few months and things are okay but the couple hours I spend with her are draining and I often come away feeling hurt. I agreed to go with her on christmas to the families this year in a good moment and I am regeting that now. I am having serious doubts about spending time with her and the family. She always gets really drunk and loud at these gatherings and I end of feeling so lost and uncomfortable, even though I am with family. I will have to spend hours in the car with her as well t o get to this isolated house in the country. Im not saying this for sympathy just so you know a bit of the back story. I am feeling like a bad person for not spending christmas with my family, I can offer to spend sunday dinner with her and have a gift exchange instead but I know she will be devasated and blame me and tell me about how muchmy family will be devastated to not see m again this year.... I Am I being selfish by not going? Am I a bad person for not wanting to go? I know that most people hate christmas with the family so maybe I should just suck it up? Help?
As an Australian who celebrates Christmas, what does your celebration look like? How do you decorate for Christmas, and how much do you decorate for Christmas?
There are a number of things people do over Christmas in Australia that are a little different to other parts of the world.Firstly, most Australians aren’t particularly religious. There are a few more folk who rock up at churches on Christmas.However, there are some Aussie traditions that are shown in this educational video.The first thing you notice is people, sitting on picnic rugs outdoors listening to carols. That’s pretty common, as Christmas falls in summer, so it’s usually hot. Sitting outdoors is pretty normal. Most people don’t sing, so the bad music almost always comes from the stage.Apart from the bad singing, you notice that the alcohol is flowing freely. When it’s hot, things get pretty thirsty, so drinks like beer are very popular at Christmas.You’ll notice that there is mention of marriage break up. Like most parts of the world, Christmas is a time of stress for many people. Marriage difficulties, and the absence of loved ones is exacerbated at Christmas.Relationships can also develop, even when it seems the person arrived with someone else. That also is pretty normal.The homeless shelter was a nice touch. That can occur, and its decent when it does. Groups like the Salvation Army do provide meals over the Christmas period. Hampers are also delivered to those in need. Warm food is a bit less an issue than it would be in a colder climate in winter, but still provides homeless people a little joy.It’s pretty normal for most people to say no when asked to help. However, it isn’t traditional for Aussies to kiss a homeless person on Christmas day.My American friends who’ve lived here are convinced we do pretty much nothing with regard to decoration, or preparation for Christmas. That’s not completely true.Those Aussies who make it to church are usually the ones for which the season means something more than all that.
Being married to a military man?
Im getting married next summer to a military marine. Im just curious from all the military spouses what is it like? HOw do i be a good military wife? what can i expect? It doesnt matter the branch you are married too any info you will share with me will be great. Thanks.