What should I do if I don't really like myself?
Tomorrow is an unwritten future, and you hold the pen. You have the power to become someone else. Is it easy? No.Become someone new. Reinvent yourself. Learn new things. Go new places. Make new friends. No. You don't ask "How?" because that only means you are not applying any thought to it. If you feel the need to ask "How?" then you don't really intend to change anything. You are thinking inside how to make it LOOK like you have changed, to make the current people in your life see you differently. You are thinking of how to make it appear as if you are different, so the people at work treat you differently.Because if you honestly desire to change who you are... the *How* starts with a single step. Go somewhere new, and do something new. Take that experience to learn something new. And voila! You've begun. You are WELL AWARE of the fact that there are a world of people out there you don't know, and a world of places you've never seen, and a world of things you've never done. You already know all of this, so you clearly know how to go and do something you've never done. That's why you can't ask "HOW?" if you really intended to change yourself into someone you do like.This means getting in touch with yourself. You need to identify what you like and what you don't like... and own those things regardless of how others around you feel about *your* likes and dislikes. You need to identify what specifically you do not like about yourself, and get a better idea of what you would want to change that to specifically.If you cannot stand the kinds of clothes you wear, go find different ones. That might mean trying on multiple different outfits. That might mean losing weight. That might mean going shopping to get new clothes. However, you can't change how you look, until you actually KNOW that's something you don't like. That's why you need to identify what you don't like specifically.Otherwise, this is just a WIMI (What I Mean Is) question, and you are about to explain that you meant something different from what you asked.
I feel really bad about myself. Feel like I should die. What should I do?
It’s okay to feel like that , I’m sure most of the people have this feeling too.BUT ,First, please rethink it twice or thrice what will your family feel about it ? Especially your parents. Since you were born your parents were trying to protect you till you grown healthy especially when you inside your mom stomach whom she gave birth for 9 months( You should know how hard it is with that big belly ).So , don’t jump to conclusions to your negative feeling or thoughts .Think , think ,and think again .Second , I don’t know what have you done but please don’t do something that will make you feel bad again.P.S : Sorry for my bad english . CMIIW
Should I not date anyone since I don't really like myself?
I think it's for the better to stop dating for now. I mean if you don't like yourself, then how can you like someone else? You can't give something what you don't have, it doesn't work that way. Try to assess yourself first, why don't you like yourself? If you found the real reason behind it, try to think of some ways to improve it. This is a common issue among people. If you push yourself and really date someone, there's a big chance that it'll just be disaster. Anyway, you're the only one who really know what's good for you, it's your call.
My mom makes me feel really bad about myself?
just everything she says to me, i feel like crap. she is basically calling me fat all the time and saying that i'm not "fun to be around" and stuff like that. i'm just like WTF ARE YOU SERIOUS. it's just these random put downs. she is making me cry, even right before school so i go to school with a puffy red face and it's really embarassing. i'm wicked self conscious and i hate my body and my self esteem is crap, i havn't been eating like anything all week. i can't talk to anyone about it. thank you.
I'm 13 and i want to finger myself really bad, but im scared!!!?
ok dont judge, but ive been masturbating and watching porn recently and i just want more. i can only hump a pillow, use a vibrator, and rub my clit, but i wanna finger myself. i can almost do it, but i just get really scared and nervous that itll hurt like hell. also, i dont use tampons. i love masturbating, but i really want to finger myself but im scaredddd!!! PLEASEEE HELPPP!!!! oh, also: pls dont tell me im too young for this
Can really really ugly guys like myself get a high paying job?
First of all tell your mom to step off--you're a product of her genes after all. If she doesn't like how you look, its 50% her fault. Second, if you're really that homely, use it to your advantage. The fact you're interested in politics is perfect. Do you know what powerful attractive men like? The answer is less powerful and less attractive men they can trust to make them look good. Find a local politician who's a good looking man and perhaps known for being a bit too into himself (not hard in the political sphere). Volunteer to work for him. Maybe he's someone who cruised through life on his good looks (you're right, it does happens). Become a confidant, a trustworthy lieutenant, a wingman. Gain some respect, some power, some clout. Get said attractive popular politician to write you a recommendation and point you in the right direction for college grants/scholarships. And stop feeling sorry for yourself! Ugly is only as skin deep as beauty. These years when everyone is obsessed with looks will pass. Believe me-- age, male pattern baldness, and beer bellies are fabulous equalizers. Don't wait to start your life until some girl gives you approval for your looks. Its sooo overrated.
I'm feeling really really bad about myself with lots of regrets. How can I change my lifestyle from bad to good really fast?
Would you like to try some simultaneous efforts on a couple of fronts? It's like a big battle, and we're going to send in the troops on many sides of the conflict.You realize you have lived a life you don't like. Good. First step taken already!Now, you are not the regrettable things you have done. That's an illusion. The real you is a perfect entity existing as part of the absolute energy of the universe. Right now - enclose anything regrettable you have done (or want to do!) in a separate place, apart and isolated from the you looking at it. Become conscious of the you looking at the separated behaviors/deeds. Do this often every day.Awareness like this will allow you to leave the regrets behind, and live today (not yesterday, which is gone and can't be changed and not tomorrow, which never comes). Make this moment, this very instant, sacred and good. What you do every second of existence is under your control, and can be joyous if you wish it to be.Now, realize there is a source of joy within you that you can bring to everything you do. An exercise: find something good about the next person you see. No matter who they are, or what they are doing. Another exercise: several times each day, become aware of your breathing for a few seconds. Just breathe in and out, thinking only of the air entering and leaving your lungs. And this: every single day say something nice to someone.And start to seek learning. Many thousands of years, millions of souls have sought and found contentment and joy in life. They have wonderful things to teach you!Really fast? Well, start the tiny steps right away and voila! time goes by so quickly that soon the small moves will multiply and grow ever greater. I wish you great happiness.
I really like this girl, but she makes me feel bad about myself sometimes?
She sounds manipulative and self-absorbed. I think the right thing to do in this situation would be to ignore her, or just not initiate contact. However, I know that's not something you want to do. So just say, 'Hey, where do I stand? I don't like mind games and/or drama.''