Is it wrong to not be a stay at home mom?
Am I a bad person for not wanting to be a stay at home mom? My husband thinks all women should stay at home while men provide but I wasn't raised like that. I was taught that women are equals and just because a woman has kids doesn't automatically make her a non functioning member of society.....I still want to have a life away from my kids sometimes . I want to continue to be a personal trainer/nutritionist. I make alot of money that way and I don't think I should depend on my husband for EVERYTHING. I want to be independant and accomplished too and he thinks I'm being stupid. One of the moms I'm friends with thinks moms should be sahms until their kids are in high school but honestly I think kids should be doing laundry, clean their own messes, get a step stool to do the dishes etc...by 5th grade. I don't need to be there smothering them 24/7. I don't think kids need mommy every minute of the day...I think space between parents and kids are necessary. Do any other moms think having a life/job outside of the house/kitchen is ok? Or am I being selfish Serious answers only please. Thank you :-)
Is it wrong to be a stay at home mom with only one child?
No. Absolutely not. There is nothing wrong with it. No matter how many children you have (even if it’s just one) if you choose to stay home and care for your baby, that is your prerogative.I have known plenty of women that only had one kid, who stayed home with them, that was their choice. And when their kid(s) were old enough to take care of themselves, some of them even started being Working Moms. And that’s fine too. —- As long as it’s something that you want to do.Working Mom, Stay At Home Mom. At the end of the day you’re still a Mom, no matter how you decide to spend your days; even if you change your mind later in life —- It isn’t wrong. And I hope that no mother (raising any number of kids) will ever be swayed into thinking otherwise.Being a parent is probably the hardest (if not the best) job in the world. So whatever you choose to do, Work or Stay Home, if you feel that that’s the right direction for your family - your child - then you should do it.
What is wrong with a stay at home wife?
I am presently a SAHM of two small babies. I have read a few articles relating to SAHW(stay at home wives no children) and SAHM's. I am shocked how much disrespect there is towards women who stay at home and carry out childrearing and domestic tasks. What does it matter if a woman works inside or outside the home as long as there is a division of labor and this division is considered fair between spouses. Now I understand the strong need to work outside the home as I myself feel terribly bored at times but there are pros and cons to working inside and outside the home. I find the whole mommy wars very stupid and wonder if it is not just a case of envy. It must be. When your home you want to be at work because you think that it will be better and when you are working you probably dream about idle days at home. The reality of both sides is truly a shocker for either party who has not experienced the pther side of the fence. No situation is perfect, so why not just let everyone choose their own hell?
My husband wants me to be a stay at home mom?
What's the other option? Keep working and dump the kids in daycare for 8-10 hours a day and let some stranger raise them? He makes 70K a year. Surely you can live on that comfortably. You may not be able to continue to have the luxuries you currently do, but what's more important? More money or taking care of your own children? If you really don't want to be a mother full-time and want to dump your children in daycare, please don't have them to begin with. If you already have them and they're not in school yet, get your priorities straight. Your children should come first. If they are in school already, there's no reason you can't work part-time and still be there to take them to school and pick them up from school.
Stay at home mom vs.stay at home wife. ?
Any self respecting wife/mom would go out and either get a job, go to school or volunteer after the kids are gone. I would be bored to tears if I stayed home after the kids are gone. You can only cook and clean so much. When my kids are in school I will get a part time job or go back to school. I am my hubby's partner and that means I take care of the things he cant while he is out working his butt off taking care of our family and when the kids are gone, I will start working and let him take some time off and relax a bit. If the husband allows his wife to stay home after the kids are gone then that would be on him. I know my hubby would be like " go out and do something productive with your life sweet heart"
What’s wrong with being a stay at home wife or mum?
Well it depends on who you let define right and wrong.Society? Culture? Religion?Personally I feel that as a homemaker that we have our days.One day I feel so loved and fulfilled surrounded by the laughter and warmth in my home that I can’t imagine doing anything better with my life.Then there are days where I read about the achievements of women my age as accomplished scientists,budding entrepreneurs,award winning authors, saving lives as doctors or activists striving to improve the lives of the less fortunate. And I think to myself I am wasting my life away and need to have a higher purpose in my life.I look at the glamourous women in my newsfeed that have well toned bodies, flawless skin and glossy hair cradling a baby in their arm and running blogs or websites and think see motherhood ain’t no excuse for them.I guess the bottom line is to have a clear vision of what you want to do with your life and when so that you live each day with contentment and no regret.