Is my best friend being rude or am I overreacting?
Basically she cancelled on me because she said she was tired but then went to dinner with other people. And then I texted her asking if she wanted a study guide I made for our class and she read it and didn t respond. I think it was rude she didn t respond, I was offering something nice. Am I overreact
How do you tell your best friend she is overreacting over a guy?
If she’s over reacting, she likely has little ability to do otherwise.If you want to see her react on your arse, tell her what you think.Otherwise realize that’s who she is and all she knows how to do. Then decide if you want a friend who will ultimately treat you as she does others?Regardless, I notice a lot of people tend to think others over react when a dear one passes. When 2 weeks later they are not just peaches and cream after the loved one’s demise, or even 6 months later, a lot of people accuse them of over reacting.Same with a break up when they’re still sad and haven’t gotten over the loss.However, if you mean by over reacting she’s having a fit and about to get violent because he won’t do what she wants, then that is a very definite problem you should likely distance yourself from.No matter what the case is, you cannot help anyone who is over reacting unless you are a licensed mental health care professional. But you can suggest your friend seek help to get over whatever trauma she is going through.If she’s over reacting by suffering from loss, with or without professional help, it will take time for her to recover.In any case, a good professional will be able to help her with all challenges she is suffering.Best to you.Note: my apologies to anyone unintentionally offended.
How do you deal with an overreacting friend?
Give her space so that you can calm down and not be angry. Option 1. Be direct and talk to her about her overreaction(s). Be gentle but clear on what you would like. Don't be accusatory. For example, it might be her Italian nature causing her to be dramatic and she thinks it's normal. Change is going to be slow and it could be rocky, causing tension between you. 2. At the time when she responds with an overreaction, make your response obvious that you are displeased. Body language can help. Change the subject. Leave the room or the conversation. Has she noticed?
My best friend overreacts about everything?
I have a good friend and she just overreacts about everything. A few weeks ago i called her out (very calmly and nicely) about her being rude to me about some stuff, and she yells at me and denies shes doing anything wrong, and tells everyone how "awful" i treated her, so now IM the bad guy. Next thing is on New Years, she invited me to come over but I politely seclined because I was having a really rough week and just didnt have the energy to go out. I have severe depression. Well, she decides to text me saying how "under appreciated" she feels and how rude Im veing for declining her iffer. THAT pissed me off. How shoukd I handle this? Should I continue the friendship?
I’m losing all my friends. My two best friends say I overreact to everything and I can’t take a joke. Should I change who I am to please them or stay who I am and break it off with them to better myself?
Have a mature conversation with them. I know it’s cliche to say this, but explain to them how you feel. Ask them why they think those things and why they think those things are problems.As long as you’re not actually hurting anyone, you shouldn’t have to change who you are. If they simply don’t like you personality, then that’s their fault, not yours. If you truly think the fact that you overreact and can’t take a joke is a problem (say, when you overreact you yell at people, etc.), then you could try to change yourself for the better. However, overreacting and not being able to “take a joke” aren’t necessarily problems, and your friends just may be wanting to change your personality to suit their wants. It just depends. If you feel like those qualities are problems you need to work on, do that for yourself. If you’re not doing anything wrong, and not being able to take a joke isn’t actually harming anyone (other than making your friends think you’re annoying or something), then you shouldn’t have to change anything. They may just be dicks.Remember, it’s always okay to leave your friends if you feel like they’re toxic or not healthy in any other way, or just if they make you uncomfortable.Bottom line, talk to them. Ask them what and why, and tell them your side of the story too.
My best guy friend is acting like a jerk? Am I overreacting?
Firstly, i totally understand what you're saying! You aren't overreacting. But negative emotions are like pain-they're there to tell you that you should change something. In this case, this something is your communication. He doesn't see comforting you as "part of the package". You two have been thriving on a friendship based on humor mostly, and it seems like there are communication problems because both of you don't touch on more serious matters (I'm taking that this is true, given from whatever generalizations i can make from the information you gave) He admittedly shouldn't be ditching your problems to go to the movies without an excuse, but this could be because he doesn't know how to comfort and help you. It seems to me that he's escaping this 'comforting' thing. He should learn to face this, because he will have to when he gets a girlfriend. You agreed you both needed space, and maybe his idea of space is going out with his friends and leaving emotional stuff till later. But having a depressed person around isn't exactly uplifting either! Get out of your rut first. I know it's easier said than done, but I trust you can because i trust you have the strength to get up. It's just one guy, even though he's your best friend. Take this lack of attachment to this best friend to expand your social circle! Try different things (that he might have hated due to the fact that he's male). A lot of this is actually similar to a BGR, which also relies on communication! Cheer up k? You know you're strong enough to withstand this. <3, The girl with the big hair
My best friend says she hates me....? Am I overreacting? ?
First and foremost, I am sorry to hear you are hurting like this, its not nice, its very painful, but it will pass. Again it actually can be seen as a good thing, not that I want to see you hurting, but what you are going through now, cannot get any worse, so therefore the process of getting over it has already started, so that is why in its own way it could be seen as a good thing. Now what you need to say to yourself is this '' My friend has hurt me badly, she has supposedly said nasty things about me to other people too, and its not the first time she has been nasty to me either, so do I want to make up with her and everything will be OK for a time, then it may well start all over again'' That is what you need to be saying to yourself. She is not a friend, maybe she pities you, but you don't want or need that either. You say she is your only friend, but whilst you hang around her, you are actually stopping yourself from meeting other people. Having just one friend is never a good thing, because as in your case you come to depend on them too much, and it actually prevents you from making more friends. You will be free to meet more genuine people, people that truly will be real friends to you. So what is left for you to do now, sadly you got to go through the pain of this, don't try and talk to this girl, ignore them, you are far far better a person than they are. You will get stronger if you cut off all ties with this person now, even if they had the grace to say sorry to you, it would be better if you refused to accept that saying '' sorry don't always make it right'', because that person will do the same thing to you again one day, don't set yourself up for further rejection OK. Best of wishes and wishing you the best of luck, you are worth so much more than this person, so make sure you choose your next friends wisely, friends are meant to be equal. Billie UK