Is my boyfriend emotionally abusive?
You are going to head yourself into big trouble. It will not be my place to do this..but from what you are telling me. unfortunately, these are signs of someone who can be strongly physically abusive and emotionally abusive. So please re-consider your choices, there are so many guys out there who will treat you better. Remember this..anyone who prevents you from spending time with your own family or friends..is not right mentally and does not love you. He is lacking something in his own life, and that negativity he has within him he takes it out on you. This situation of yours, is very serious..you might be in love with him..but this love is blind love..you are heading toward danger. Im sorry, but the truth hurts. I can point numerous red flags about this guy, 1. He accuses you of being unfaithful(he is insecure) 2. He shows no respect for anyone... 3. gets upset when your family visits 4. Acts mean towards you and says mean things to you 5. Hates everyone else in the world (you sound unrealistic to think you are the only one he loves) 6. Starts arguments and makes you feel guilty 7. you cant be yourself because you are scared you will set him off Look at the number of red flags here...if you think you are overreacting, then you are in big trouble. If you don't leave this relationship, remember this from me " I told you so"...He does not love you..anyone who loves you will not do all the 7 things i've listed above. I was in a relationship similar to this..but mine was not as bad as yours. My guts and instincts will tell me this relationship is not right..but i wont listen..but trust me the more you stay in it..the more you will have a bigger regret in future.
How do I help my emotionally abusive boyfriend change?
You are adamant that you will not leave someone who abuses you. You do need some support and help. This is dangerous, and if not for yourself, consider that your boyfriend is likely, as all abusers are, to go farther and farther until not you but someone else calls in the police and he will then be tried in court as a criminal, with or without your testimony.You are destroying your life and you are enabling a very dangerous scenario.If you want him to change, change yourself first. You have no boundaries. I hope you understand that and trust that you are the one who must immediately change.Your love is not an issue nor is it important. You need to get some strength and stop allowing this. If you are truly willing to put up with anything dished out, nothing will change. It’s naive to think that there is something, beyond court mandated probation and mandatory therapy and/or anger management, that will stop the abuse.
My boyfriend is emotionally abusive, please help.?
I am a 25 year old woman and my boyfriend (my first so far) is 22. We have been together a little over a year. But for almost that entire time, maybe starting last January, he's become emotionally abusive. He's never physically hurt me, and I know he never would, but sometimes something will come up that will infuriate him, and he'll say I'm stupid, or that I'm a horrible person, or that his life would've been better without me, or if I accidentally fail to do something for him, or I don't do it right, he'll say he can't trust me. I can never tell him I'm sorry, as he says he doesn't believe in the word, and "it only pisses him off". One night, after one of these bouts, I asked if he loved me at all, and he said if he didn't, he would've broke up with me a long time ago, and that he wants our relationship to work. I can never sit down and talk to him about our relationship, or how I feel, because every time he'll say there's nothing to talk about. One night I tried talking to him and he told me to get out of his house. I was at one point wanting to move in with him, as it would save us both money, and we had talked about it in the past. Now he claims I'm not responsible and doesn't want me living with him right now. I'm so hurt and confused right now. I wake up depressed and crying on a regular basis, even sometimes wishing I were dead. I feel as if I can't escape, because there are two credit cards I applied for so he could make a couple of pretty expensive purchases, and promised me that he would take care of the payments (he didn't want to apply for them because he didn't want to be "on the grid", and I already was with my one visa). I'm afraid if I leave him now, I could be stuck with two credit card payments that I can't afford. I don't know what to do, I don't know why he doesn't break up with me, or why he says all those horrible things if he says he loves me. I'm desperate for any help and advice.
Emotionally abusive boyfriend and I ca'nt get out..HELP.?
HELP! I don't know what to do about my boyfriend. He never listens to me when I have problem. He just turns it around and makes whatever problem I have into his problem and makes the BIGGEST deals out of nothing. It's gotten to the point where he'll yell at me and just put me down for hours at a time with none stop phone calls. Then after, he'll act like none of it happened and he goes back to not being mad. But if I start to cry or talk about how hurt I am by the things that he says to me (i.e. calls me very bad names, says vulgar things about me, says horrible things about my family), he won't listen to them and instanly gets upset. I don't understand how he can be an amazing boyfriend one second, and the next a complete and totally emotionally abusive prick. andfor some reason I can't make myself break up with him and it's just so hard that I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm downing with no way out. HELP ANYONE>
My moms boyfriend is emotionally abusive. What can I do?
I understand you. But not, with the emotionally abuse. Yours is worser than mines. I dealt with it by just blocking him out. Although, he wasn't an acholic. He did, go to prison and served time for things, that he did. He did almost, every thing you could imagine, since he was 8. And, when he says, things like, "Oh If somebody messes with you or hurts you, I'll kill them". He says, that like he's proud. And I'm like, "And your proud of that"? And he yells at my mom too for every little thing, If he doesn't understand something. Were christian. He uses gods name in, vain. He says, Man wrote that. Not god. I'm like, Ughhh? And it's just crazy. And I'm sick and tried of him and his excuses. I'm looking, forward too college, In two years. 10th, grader :) Well, Three years I think. Lol. Anyways, I think you should just go too an trusted a very trusted adult you can talk too. I Can't talk too my mom, cause she will tell him! She does even, when I beg her not too. So, I just keep things too myself! I Keep a diary, If I have too much stress. It helps me, and I also hide it from them. Because, he keep saying, "You write allot don't you"? Become an author. I will get your diary published for you! And I DON'T WANT THAT! It's my personal diary. My mom won't listen too her own, mother about him! smh. My uncle, her brother from her moms side, Don't like him, but he pretends too be nice too him. Although, my grandma don't take no s**** from him or any of them! So, I say. Get a diary, and write in it. Only if you have allot of stress and feel the need too.(Helped me out allot) Find one of your trusted friends too tell.(I did, and she totally understood me: kind of going through the same thing but worser then both of us) And also, listen too some music. Like mariah carey- Can't take that away from me. And through the rain. Those two songs, Helped me out allot. Oh and read the bible, If your a christian. Because, that helped. My mom's boyfriend claimed he knew the bible. But, he knew nothing about the short kid stories, when I had quized him. When it was time for him, too give a sermon. He was like, Oh No. You go ahead. And when, it was over, He yelled at my mom, for not letting, him go. And I stepped, in. Because, it was just bull crap! He had no right to yell at my mom. Because, he didn't know too much about the bible!
Is my boyfriend verbally/emotionally abusive?
Before I go into detail, before I tick off boxes on a list the answer isYES!!! YOUR BOYFRIEND IS ALMOST TEXTBOOK ABUSIVE!To cite a few examples,1. He belittles you and destroys your self esteem. This is classic abusive behaviour designed to make you dependant on him. 2. Your friends are warning you to stay away from this guy. This is a huge warning sign. Your friends and the people closest to you can often see what you don't so if they're warning you, it's time to listen. 3. He blames his emotions on you. He only feels this way because you aren't good enough. This isn't true. You are strong and capable and even more, no one can MAKE him feel ANYTHING. he's creating a sense of guilt within you and distancing himself from it. 4. He ignores your needs and feelings.A good relationship is based on balance and equality, not power and control. 5. Immediately after abusing you, he comes back repentant, sorry and completely in love. This is called the honey moon phase, and for good reason. It's the honey in the trap, luring you in even closer until it snaps shut. FINALLY,(though there are a lot more examples), 6. You feel the need to ask at all. I know you probably won't listen to me. Mir so easy to justify it, to blame yourself or explain it away as something else. But please, I beg you, listen. Verbal abuse often becomes more than just that. NOW IS THE TINE TO GET HELP AND GET OUT. Please, you are strong, intelligent and capable. You don't need him. Do what's best for you and look up abuse resources in your community.
Am I being emotionally abused by my boyfriend?
From your details, yes he is absolutely emotionally abusing you and it sounds like he is also finding ways to physically abuse you.Get out of the relationship now, before his abuse escalates any further and before his abuse is turned towards your child/children. The National Domestic Violence Hotline Here's a hotline you can call for assistance. If you're worried about finances, there are programs set up to help domestic violence victims support themselves financially after leaving an abuser. You do NOT have to stay if you don't have any money, there are programs set up for this specific reason. Temporary Assistance for Domestic Violence Survivors - Program Summary What your boyfriend is doing follows closely with cycles of abuse. He is undermining your self-esteem and trying to make you feel worthless so that you will stay and tolerate his abuse "because you don't deserve better". He is demonizing you in front of others who could be a support system so that you are isolated from help. He makes you second guess yourself constantly so you don't feel confident enough to identify what he is doing as abuse, this is known as gas lighting. Gaslighting His drinking has got out of Control & he's recently started attacking me, he will provoke me & wind me up until I push him away and then he retaliate "in self defence"The abuse is escalating and it's not going to go back down from here.I've been in an abusive relationship as well and I experienced first hand what it was like to constantly second guess myself and wonder if I was really being abused, if what was happening was actually my fault and feeling my sense of self worth crumble under repeated insults. Once I got out it I realized that it was the best thing that I could have done. It can be a long road, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It gets better. Please contact the resources that you need and get yourself out of this situation.
My boyfriend's mother is emotionally abusive to him...?
To your boyfriend: NO, you don't deserve this. Yes your mother is abusive. No, you're not overreacting. For the girlfriend: no, don't show the mother the website. She won't listen to you. She's not a reasonable person, you can't reason with her. To both of you: his mother sounds like a piece of work and possibly mentally ill. This is a bigger problem than both of you. First, both of you should talk to a school counselor. You need to get adults involved. I would suggest taping her being abusive; maybe you can leave a cell phone on and record a couple of the times that your mother is yelling at you, so adults can hear it for themselves. The boyfriend can call the girlfriend, she can have the phone call go to voice mail and save it. The counselor at school should get involved. They can call both his parents in and talk to them. The father seems like he has just wimped out to get away from her abuse. The problem is, the mother probably won't change. So, are there any relatives who might be willing to take him in? Can he go to summer camp to get away? Can he at least have friends where he can go to their house for dinner once or twice a week to get away? Also, he should start planning now to go to college and then to move far away, which is what I did. I went to college early and it helped a lot. Find a way to start saving money: see if you can open a bank savings account so you have access to your own money. Your dad may help behind your mother's back. I had pretty much a similar situation: my parents gave me lots of things but my mother drank and was abusive. I had years of counseling and have gotten past it, but it's been very difficult. I wish you both the best of luck!. I'm sorry you're in this horrible situation.