How can I ask my rich friend to buy me something without sounding like I use him for money?
I come from a wealthy family. My father was raised in a family that lost everything as he was going off to college. He picked himself up and put himself through college in three years and worked to send money home. He made his first million by 21 and it was all upward from there.nHe never even took a weekend day off and finally burned his mind out by his mid 70s (dementia). Hundreds of people have asked him for money every year and he has been generous. For many, his help became monthly and went on for years. Others asked for cars or homes or college tuition or medical expenses. Even when his son was in the hospital having quadruple bypass surgery, hospital administrators came to ask father for donations for the hospital.Now that his mental faculties are not what they once were and we manage his finances because he can’t, we have started cutting people off. He was really being taken advantage of and none of these people are around now, when he is house bound and lonely and needs friends and family. It has been sad to have our eyes opened about so many of these people who have been around and we thought it was for friendship. It is sad, and it is also offensive.Why would you ask a rich friend for money? Ask a poor friend or a middle feved . NObody owes you money and just because somebody is rich does not mean it is fair to hit them up. Do you have the right to decide how they spend their money? For the most part, they worked very hard to earn that money and they have the right to hold on to it to spend as they choose.
My friends think I'm rich, but I'm not rich at all..?
i would tell ur friends that im not rich im just privileged plz stop calling me that it makes me feel bad
My friend lies about being rich?
i am considered"rich". well off, whatever. i never brag, I am humble, I know the value of a dollar. So I have this friend who wears raggedy clothes from Goodwill, off brand shoes and always has REALLY greasy hair. She is poor and i dont care we are friends. Anyway, she always says her house is big, she has an iPad, she shops a lot etc... its all a lie. She keeps begging me to send a pic of my room so i did and when i asked her to do the same she sent a google pic. I called her out and she finally sent a pic of her house and she is POOR. she lied so much and im annoyed. She always does stuff like this. How do I confront her? EDIT: I am not rich my parents are. I am poor since I dont work and i live on their money
My Friend Thinks I'm Rich?
I was always raised that it was impolite to talk about money, then again, I never really knew anyone with enough money to really hold a conversation about the topic. Being wealthy or "rich" is a relative term. Perhaps your friend came from a more disadvantaged, lower income, or more indigent background than you did. While you may consider yourself "average" your friend views you in a different light. From your description of yourself, it sounds as if you are upper middle class. I completely understand how it upsets you when she confronts you about monetary matters. You should politely inform your friend on how you feel when discussing such matters, and ask her to kindly refrain from bringing it up further. That is the best advice I can give. Hope that it helps.
My friend is really rich and I'm so poor?
(We're both girls) So this girl is the most popular girl in our school and she recently started talking to me because we were partners. She's actually a lot nicer than I heard and we became pretty good friends. We go to a fancy prep school and I dress like I'm rich because I buy everything from thrift stores. I'm also on a scholarship at our school because the tuition is 30k. So anyway, she thinks I have money. But I actually like in co-op and I share a tiny room with my baby sister and it's so embarrassing. She invited me over to her house and it's insane how rich it is. A lot of the floors are marble and it's so clean and white and fancy. She also has a tennis court and a squash room. And her room is huge as well. AND she has her own bathroom and her closet is bigger than my living room. Her house is like a celebrities. I saw a page on it and it cost 28 MILLION. I have NO idea what her parents do but they're filthy rich. She said that we should hang out sometime at my house but I'm really scared she'll judge me if she ever comes to my house. My dad dropped out of high school and that's why we're so poor while her parents both went to Dartmouth. What do I do? She's pretty nice but she's spoiled and she has a perfect life and I know that she can be pretty mean. Like one person went up to her and asked about when a history paper was due, and she was like "wait, you're not even in my class though" and that person actually was in her class, she just didn't pay attention to them. So basically she's nice to people she likes and I'm scared she won't like me when she finds out that I'm poor. My parents made 28k a year... it's so bad.
I feel bad about telling my friends that I'm rich?
Most of my class mates are spoiled at get all they want, well, at least when it comes to clothes. They also boast about their families being rich and so on, which I highly doubt. One of my Bengal friends keep saying "dude i may not be rich here in sweden but in bangladesh I am!" which is stupid. He thinks how rich you are matters to countries. It doesn't. And the other thing is that the reason he may feel like he is rich in bangladesh is because everything is cheap there... Oh well, back to the question. Many people say that they have a wealthy father and, well, it kind of pisses me off in my head. It's not true. I'm pretty sure some of them are from higher class families, but certainly not rich. I mean why would they even go to our school then? It's basically one of the schools with the worst reputation in Stockholm... Anyways, when they say this, I can't help to think that I should just boast like them how I live in England. My father is really wealthy and we have maids living in our house. The house doesn't look like the home of somebody wealthy, not really on the inside either, but that's because he said "You should make it up to yourself how comfortable you are. You don't have to do something just because you can." or something like that. Should I tell my friends how I really am? I mean, I have a bit, but they don't seem to believe me because I'm not spoiled. I also don't waste my money on clothes like them, I waste mine on games and mostly a heck lot of candy. What is your opinion on this? Should I tell the truth and tell them the money he makes a month and tell them how I feel about their boasting? Thanks.
How do I deal with a rich friend who's buying a lot of things for me when we hang out?
Over the years I have been on both sides of the issue. I have often invited friends to events that I know they would not have been able to justify spending the money on. To me their company is worth the cost of the extra ticket. It seems that your friend feels the same.When I have been the one who is financially strapped, I appreciated my friends helping me out. They would say- I found this great new place, let me take you there and we'll check it out, my treat. Which is really just a way to make me more comfortable accepting.And when I was on the receiving end, I always made a point of doing something low-cost as a little thank you- some flowers from my garden, a batch of brownies, or a piece of jewelry I had made. There's lots of things you can do for your friend that won't cost you much (or anything) but will make you feel a little more equal in your relationship. If they are doing yard work, or a project around the house, come over and pitch in. A job is much easier and more enjoyable with company. You should not feel bad in your situation. Just be honest with your friend, accept graciously, and do what you can to reciprocate. It's nice to know that your friendship is worth more than money to them.
I am jealous of a friend who married someone rich. I am ashamed of myself for being jealous. She appears with the best brand of clothes, and has holidays in amazing destinations. It makes me feel life is unfair. What do I do?
I am a reasonably rich (not dirty rich) guy currently enjoying a sabbatical of sorts and here are some of my candid observations:Since time immemorial women have tried to marry into riches … your friend seems to be no different. It is a rational thing to do and I am not against it. But it just doesn’t come across as very human. Though I understand women’s need for security and a good life far outpace’s men’s focus on such stuff (at-least in my limited experience and interaction with both sexes).What you probably do not realize is that despite all the show off, even in rich families, there are lots of issues. For example, if she married an heir, then currently nothing will be in his name - and getting stuff in his name will take him his lifetime due to family politics. My sis married an heir and 25 years later they still don’t have anything much in their name.If she married a self-made rich guy … then she is probably better off. But I’ve seen such types philander a lot. And their wives stick to their sides despite their philandering because they (the women) get used to the comforts. The whole relationship of marriage gets reduced to a transaction.Life is not all about money - though money is very, very important. And going only by superficialities (which is what other people want us to see) is a recipe to misery.Brands, vacations, etc. etc. are all non-sense. You really don’t need all this to enjoy life. Once you have a basic financial base (say, your own place and enough income from your investments so that your job becomes redundant - the latter being more important than the former) then your health, your vitality, the strength of your relationships contribute much more to happiness.