Trust/Insecurity issues?
well it still is the beginning so its not to late...you guys really like eachother so you need to share those types of things. I understand you drawing up a bit in fear of not wanting to get hurt again but try to relax, pray about it and give him a chance if he is someone special for you , you dont want him to leave because he was paying for someone elses mistakes,I would still keep my guard up at first but as the relationship continues and you (get to know him) on a (non sexual level) then ease up on the man
What can i do about my bfs insecurity issues??He compares me to past exs who cheated on him?
my bf told me that he has been cheated on several times, apparently every single relationship before me,even his ex wife. So i can understand a little bit of jealousy when i hang with my guy friends. But i have a real problem. He gets angry with me if i don't text him back right away if im with friends. For example, about a week ago i was at a theme park and left my phone in the car to not risk loosing it. he knew i was going all day and i was going with a group of my friends,including some guy friends. i reassured him that im not attracted to any of them, and they are all not my type. when i got back to the car i had an angry text from him saying that i ignored him all day. and one night i was at a friends house watching a movie so didnt answer his phone call i always explained to him why i couldn't text back right away but the said "always some excuse for you not to text back" the only time i don't text him is when im at work, swimming or at the theme park by my house.which i told him anyone would do. he thinks im lying becasue of his past exs but im not. he is ridicilous about all this. he broke up with me abouta week ago cause of it. we talked every day for about 5 days and worked everything out but i still feel guilty for hanging out with my friends and when i don't text him back right away. i shouldn't feel that way, but i do it for him. i need opinons on what i should do
I have insecurity issues?
I have insecurity issues. I'm always down on myself, believing i'm not good enough. This is causing many fights between me and my serious boyfriend. I accuse him of cheating because he's has frieds that are girls. That is okay with me, but i get jealous and it's because i'm insecure about myself. i never feel good enough for him. it's nothing he's done or anything. he makes me feel like the most special person in the world. i just want to stop this stupid fighting over my insecurities about myself. Any suggestions?
I have insecurity issues bc of my forehead?
Everyone has something they don't like about their appearance. I suggest you deal with it first. Go to a hair stylist and tell her what is bothering you. When I say hair stylist I mean a really good one.You may have tried this before but the right hair stylist can work miracles. Call a popular salon and tell them your problem over the phone. Ask them to come up with some ideas. Perhaps bangs would help. Maybe even try hair extensions if necessary. Use makeup and jewelry to accentuate something other than your forehead. What do you like about your appearance? Focus on that. Draw attention to your best features. Once you have done what you can to address your concern, ask yourself what's the worst thing that could happen and how will I deal with it? When someone is rude, someone else will notice their rude behavior. Rude people hurt themselves by ruining their own reputation. When someone is kind, befriend that person. Do kind things for that person. Keep doing that until you have a nice group of friends.
My boyfriend is white and I'm black- racism/insecurity issues?
skin color doesn't matter, love is love:)
Is it an issue that I’m so insecure about my personality when it comes to dating?
NO, it's not an issue nor a problem that you are insecure about your personality when it comes to dating. It usually happens that our self-esteem is so low that we tend to think that everyone else except us is better than us… its something very common, in fact, I used to think the same, but I would say before you start dating someone, know yourself first start loving yourself more, give more time for self-development only then you can be confident enough to date someone. Because until you love yourself and know what you want, you cant satisfy anyone's need, you can't love anyone.As for personality when you start giving more time to yourself and engage yourself in things which will help you become a better person. You will find the right person to date and no bragging but then boys/girls will start falling for you. Then you don't have to be conscious, because then you will know the right thing to do. It all comes from within, start loving yourself and miracles will happen :)
How can I get rid of my 'overthinking' and 'insecurities' issue?
Dear friend,To get rid of anything, you must first understand that thing completely. You have used ‘Overthinking’ and ‘Insecurity’ as separate words in your question but those two may not be that different as they are appearing.Insecurity is fear. Go into the word ‘secure’. ‘Secure’ means that which cannot go away, which cannot be taken away. It is secure; it cannot go; it cannot be stolen; It cannot be taken away from you and that is ‘security’.The thing with us is, that whatever we have has come from outside and what is really ours, of that we have no understanding.Whatever we identify with, has come from the ‘external’. Somebody comes to you and says, ‘Hey, you are brilliant’, somebody else has come and he says that you are brilliant; because the mind is not fully alert, what does it do? It does not want to know on its own. It says, ‘he is saying that ‘I am brilliant’ so I internalize it as, ‘I am brilliant’. So look at the process, somebody says that you are brilliant and that statement changes to, ‘I am brilliant’.Now, my sense of myself that ‘I am brilliant’ is not coming from within me, it is coming from somebody else. It is dependent on somebody else, because it is dependent on somebody else, I will now be insecure.Somebody told me that I am brilliant and I said that I am brilliant. Now if somebody else or the same person tells me that I am stupid then I have to accept that as well. So, there will always be a great danger; I will always be afraid; I will be afraid that somebody else will come and declare me to be stupid.Find that which was never given by others to you. Because that is the only thing which can never be taken by others. If you can find that, all your insecurities will vanish away.
My breasts have always been a major issue of insecurity for me, is it normal?Is there a solution without implants to help keep them from looking like runny pancakes when I bend over or when I’m on top?
I’m sorry to hear that the appearance of your breasts makes you feel insecure. I can relate. I always thought my breast looked like pointy cones, nothing like the breasts I saw in the “Playboy”s my brothers stole from my Dad. I got implants when I was twenty and have to tell you, I regret it. For one thing, the doctor talked me into a bigger size than I wanted. It was SO noticeable and NOT what I wanted. I didn’t want to be big, I just wanted a better shape. After 2 weeks of crying, I had them changed out for the next smaller size, a whole other operation.Next. Yes, I think/thought they had a better shape BUT, normal breasts don’t bulge out on top. An implant protrudes, on some people more than others. I have seen women where it is so obvious they’v gotten implants because you can see the breasts have an obvious outer curve at the top. On one of mine, the muscles below it healed higher than the other, I still have the small scar below that breast, where I was cut to free it up.What they don’t tell you. 1) You are supposed to manipulate the implant so that it freely moves … forever. Every day. 2) They go bad and are supposed to be changed out every ten years. Really? Go through that pain, MONEY, and inconvenience again?One of mine ruptured and released silicon into my body, and there are still remnants mixed in with my tissue in my chest. I had them removed and did not replace them, even though the Doctor said it wouldn’t look good, etc. They look just fine. OK, nothing like playboy, more like pancakes ( cone pancakes!), but you know what? It is what it is. The reality is that there are many different- appearing breasts and most guys know that. It is so wonderful that as you get older, these sorts of things just fall by the wayside as one accepts there are so many other important things to be concerned about than one’s appearance or what other people think of you. I know this doesn’t solve your problem but acceptance will go along way. Even if you get implants and feel better about your look, your guy is going to know you have implants. If you really feel self conscious when on top, I’d suggest wearing a loose shift or shirt for cover up.
Trust issues due to insecurity...how do I save my relationship?
Hi there, it's sad to hear that you are so insecure when your man has been faithful in your relationship, what happened in the past needs to be looked at honestly by you in order to deal with it. What are the distructive behaviours that you have created and why? Be honest with yourself without being critical and look at what reactions you receive from each action that you play out and you will begin to see a pattern by which you can begin to analyse exactly what you are doing within each senario and begin to change the way you act and react. Also try to look at how you make your partner feel when you act out your fears it will enable you to see more clearly and your thoughts are a great way to gage yourself , keep a journal for yourself to express how you are feeling and why, then read it back to yourself it can be a great tool and very revealing, remembering too that he isn't the one that hurt you in the first place ,so does he deserve to be treated the same?? If you continually act out the past you will eventually make it happen by simply pushing the one you love away for an event that is long gone. Just a little food for thought. All things that happen in our lives are reflections of the things we need to stop and look at or to correct , it is all a learning curve by which we gain insight and wisdom through our experiences, we are learning about ourselves and others each and every day of our lives and it isn't always a struggle , keep your lines of communication open with your man and release the baggage of the past and see what awsome doors open for you ! cheers
How should I deal with my girlfriend’s insecurity?
This is so difficult for any partner to handle, and I do not envy your position.The first thing you have to realize, is that there is not a thing you can do to fix another person's insecurity. Right now, your girlfriend has you in perpetual anxiety over what accidental slip-up may set off her jealousy and ire. If you have already cut off contact with all other females, that sets off red flags in my mind. She may or may not have asked you to do this, she may or may not be manipulating you intentionally. But if you stop your social interactions with females, then she is effectively making it so you lose part of your support network. Where does it stop? Do you still have healthy relationships with female coworkers? Family members?This isn’t to say jealousy is bad…I happen to think a little jealousy is healthy. Jealousy is a normal human emotion that manifests in romantic and platonic relationships in a variety of fashions. You can be jealous of someone's car or intellect or confidence…but if your girlfriend is jealous of how your relationships with other females, then at the heart of this is the fact that she doesn't trust you.Now, there could be a number of reasons for trust issues. I would highly recommend some sort of counseling or therapy, first individually and then maybe together. If you care about your relationship and wish it to last, then this will be a vital step. Have a serious talk with her about your concerns and explore this option with her, and explain it is because of how much you care for her and that you want the relationship to last.However, if for whatever reason she doesn't want to do this, I would leave the relationship. Her insecurity is a sign that your bond won't be able to weather any significant type of stress. I don't know what caused it, and to be honest it really doesn't matter! You will have done everything within your power at this point to help the relationship, and in the end she wasn't willing to do the work to help save it. This knowledge will help you to move on.One last thought…I'm reminded of the phrase “A thief sees thieves.” one of the reasons she could be so insecure, especially if there is no cause for concern for her, is that she herself is up to some shady business. Good luck my friend.